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The Narcissist in Your Life Podcast

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.

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The Narcissist in Your Life Podcast
The Narcissist in Your Life Podcast

The Narcissist in Your Life Podcast

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.

15
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148
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The Narcissist in Your Life Podcast is hosted by Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D., clinical expert on the narcissistic personality, psychotherapist and author. I offer in-depth analysis, strategies and practices for those psychologically and emotionally harmed and abused by toxic, predatory narcissistic personalities through my books: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist and Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life, international telephone consultations and global podcasts. I put the emphasis on helping individuals to access the calming, restorative parts of the parasympathetic body/mind systems that lead to healing, recovery, personal transformation and the evolution of your true, authentic self and your unique creative gifts.

Latest Episodes

The Narcissist Always Has A Hidden Agenda

"The narcissist is at all times a deceiver, never straight, clear or true.." From: Freeing Yourself From the Narcissist in Your Life by Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D. Successful narcissists are so convincing that even their spouses believe that they are authentic an capable of caring about them and loving them, especially in the beginning. The narcissists always does what it take to win, regardless of the hurt feelings that it causes his spouse and children. The narcissist feels deeply self entitled and must keep his ego fully inflated at all times. He seeks praise, adulation and even worship. This he gets if the narcissist is at a high level and sought after by others as a very important person of extraordinary success. Some spouses stay with the narcissistic partner and believe that they can be changed. This is not possible since this kind of personality is very fixed and does not change. At some point the partner or spouse of the narcissist decides that he or she can no longer be the recipient of narcissistic rage and continue abuse. Making the decision to divorce the narcissist can be difficult. I hear from individuals who have done this successfully although it is complex and takes perseverance. You are now free to pursue all of fruits and benefits of your true self together with your many creative gifts. You deserve deep inner peace and the great freedom of your precious individuality. https://tinyurl.com/y39j2uke www.mhnrnetwork.com https://tinyurl.com/y3ss5clg

16 MIN4 hours ago
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The Narcissist Always Has A Hidden Agenda

Annihilative Narcissistic Mother Wound

The narcissistic mother is a non-parent: callous, cold, neglectful, self-absorbed. Narcissistic mothers throw heir children to the winds of fate, unconcerned about how they will cope or survive. A child who is emotionally and psychologically neglected never feels safe inside. There is no genuine attachment to a mothering figure. The narcissistic mother is disgusted by her child's spontaneity. D. W. Winnicott psychoanalyst speaks of the mother who is not good enough and cannot accept her baby's unique individuality. The child who suffers the narcissistic mother wound tends to choose partners who are emotionally and psychologically detached and are incapable of forming warm. protective and loving relationships. Recovering and healing from the imprint of the narcissistic mother wound: Recognize that you are the precious child of the narcissistic mother, Give yourself credit for surviving as an authentic self. You raised yourself, have a developed conscience and fine character. Practice...

10 MIN3 days ago
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Annihilative Narcissistic Mother Wound

The Unbearable Greediness of the Narcissistic Spouse

Significant ways the Narcissist is exceedingly greedy: Incapable of psychological and emotional intimacy - Ungiving! A strong taste for luxury and lavishness. Bestow on themselves material possessions: properties, assets, homes, cars, clothes, trips. Make empty promises to provide for their children, for example, pulling the financial resources at the last minute for their education. Cruel and greedy - abandon their first family financially, discard and replace them with a new spouse and children, creating a "new family." Money hungry, grabby like a two year old, toddlers in tantrum mode. Narcissists are psychologically regressed at two years of age. Narcissists don't share - Everything belongs to them. Play cruel game of "hide the money" during the divorce wars. What you can do: 1. Research and study the narcissistic personality in-depth. 2. Be organized. Keep good records so that you have the facts about all of your assets. Daily Self Care: Sleep, Rest, Eating nourishing food, Hyd...

11 MIN6 days ago
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The Unbearable Greediness of the Narcissistic Spouse

Divorcing An Aggressive Narcissist - Winning the Race Your Way

There is a sense of embattlement when you are divorcing an aggressive narcissist. Remember to put yourself first especially in this situation. Keep good records of your assets, properties, what belongs to you specifically. Remember that the bottomless greed of the narcissist is brought out when you are going through a divorce with them. They live in a world of their own delusion and believes that everything belongs to them. Spouses of aggressive narcissists are often out-lawyered. Choose an excellent attorney who is an expert in family law and is your excellent advocate throughout the process. Unmasking the true nature of he aggressive narcissist is your pathway to recovering and restoring your strong sense of self. Knowledge is power especially if you are divorcing a narcissist. Put the emphasis each day on your psychological, emotional and spiritual welfare by doing practices that keep you healthy and thriving. Daily self care practices are essential: Sleep, rest, nourishing food,...

14 MIN1 weeks ago
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Divorcing An Aggressive Narcissist - Winning the Race Your Way

Marriage to Narcissists Causes Chronic Stress and Fatigue - You Deserve Recovery and Inner Peace

Over a long period of time when you are forced to continually react to highly stressful conditions associated with abusive narcissistic spouse, your stress response system can become disrupted and your reserve can be depleted. There are many disorders: HPA axis dysregulation, migraine headaches, gut issues, chronic insomnia, etc. The good news is that you can learn to clearly identify the narcissistic personality and to separate out of this highly stressful marriage. Focus on your well being. Daily self care: nourishing food, sleep, rest, hydration, movement/exercise, Nature, your form of spiritual practice, using your unique creativity. You are taking your own unique pathway, the road less traveled, becoming strong and whole-emotionally, psychologically, physically, spiritually. https://tinyurl.com/y39j2uke www.mhnrnetwork.com https://tinyurl.com/y3ss5clg

8 MIN1 weeks ago
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Marriage to Narcissists Causes Chronic Stress and Fatigue - You Deserve Recovery and Inner Peace

Integrating Your Shadow - Becoming More of Yourself

Encountering our Shadow, getting to know it and explore its essence is a journey that moves us closer to a deeper and richer concept of ourselves. Working with the Shadow through creativity: Unedited writing Dreams, gems of the night Opening up to our intuitions Being in Nature Listening to great music welcomes the Shadow Creating and appreciating art bring our Shadow into focus. https://tinyurl.com/y39j2uke www.mhnrnetwork.com https://tinyurl.com/y3ss5clg

11 MIN1 weeks ago
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Integrating Your Shadow - Becoming More of Yourself

High Level Narcissistic Lotus Eaters - Obsessively Seeking Pleasure

Watching high level narcissists, notice how they are geared toward seeking constant pleasure--buying, spending large sums on every variety of possession--cars, clothing, travel, social gatherings, feasts, fetes. These individual are caught up in their exclusive swirl of social gatherings among other anointed high level narcissists. Contrarily, they cause tremendous psychological pain to those who are involved with them: spouses, ex-spouses, children, other family members. If you are partnered with a high level narcissist it is a matter of time when you will be subjected to their vile cruelties. High level narcissists remain in lotus land for the full run. Actually, the narcissistic personality is psychologically regressed at age two or younger. This is when the developmental arrest took place according to renowned clinician and researcher, Dr. James Masterson. You recognize that your partnerships with a high level narcissist has sent you off course, away from the direction of your c...

7 MIN2 weeks ago
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High Level Narcissistic Lotus Eaters - Obsessively Seeking Pleasure

Beneath Narcissist's Perfect Persona - Deep Psychological Darkness

The external image of the narcissist is the polar opposite of his/her internal world. On the outside the classic narcissist is frequently physically attractive, highly self confident, overflowing with charm. The narcissistic view of life has no limits. They inspire awe in most people if they are high level narcissists who have mastered control and manipulation of others. Beneath the glittery, irresistible surface, the inner world of the narcissist is empty, bleak and dark. There is an inert quality to the inner narcissist. They have no insight and believe their finely spun delusions. Deep in the unconscious the narcissist is fraudulent, empty, rudderless. Know that this is a fixed, rigid personality disorder that does not change. The narcissist lives in a psychological darkness that pulls others down into its depths. He is unconcerned since the narcissist is out of touch with himself. It is those around him who are devastated by his demands, hatreds, crimes of the heart. Are there e...

8 MIN2 weeks ago
Comments
Beneath Narcissist's Perfect Persona - Deep Psychological Darkness

From Childhood Trauma to Partnerships with Narcissists

There is a pattern of psychological and emotional abuse that follows children from narcissistic parents to partnerships with narcissistic personalities. Childhood trauma causes a series of severe intrapsychic wounds that are exceedingly painful and gut-wrenching. The life of a child who is continually abused from the child he or she is born is immeasurably horrific. Those who have not experienced childhood trauma can approximate and imagine what these children suffer and endure. These small children are at the mercy of cold, enraged narcissistic parents who make them into servants and treat them like slaves. No one pays attention to their cries, screams and pleas for mercy. Crying out in these situations causes more physical and psychological abuse. Crying children are often struck physically if they continue make loud noises. Everything must be kept quiet so that no one outside the family knows the ugly truth. The narcissistic mother glares menacingly at her small child. The stare ...

7 MIN2 weeks ago
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From Childhood Trauma to Partnerships with Narcissists

Narcissistic Golden Daddy's Girl - Cruel, Cold, Ruthless

Born very attractive, bright, extroverted, charming - This is daddy's golden girl. Chosen by her narcissistic father very early to rule the household she supplants her mother's role, upending the lives of the children of the family There is a strong psychological fusion between father and daughter, an erotic energy. She can do no wrong, she always gets what she wants. As a young adult golden girl she has a pattern of seducing men, creating female enemies. As she grows older she graduates to having affairs with the husbands of her friends and acquaintances because it is so thrilling and exciting. The two top forces within this golden daughter that motivate everything are manipulation and control over others to seek power. In a word, this woman is calculating. This golden girl becomes notorious for her sheer nerve and ambition. She has a couple of kids to burnish her image. Will she pay for her psychological sins, the trespasses that have harmed so many as she climbed, stepping over o...

7 MIN3 weeks ago
Comments
Narcissistic Golden Daddy's Girl - Cruel, Cold, Ruthless

Latest Episodes

The Narcissist Always Has A Hidden Agenda

"The narcissist is at all times a deceiver, never straight, clear or true.." From: Freeing Yourself From the Narcissist in Your Life by Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D. Successful narcissists are so convincing that even their spouses believe that they are authentic an capable of caring about them and loving them, especially in the beginning. The narcissists always does what it take to win, regardless of the hurt feelings that it causes his spouse and children. The narcissist feels deeply self entitled and must keep his ego fully inflated at all times. He seeks praise, adulation and even worship. This he gets if the narcissist is at a high level and sought after by others as a very important person of extraordinary success. Some spouses stay with the narcissistic partner and believe that they can be changed. This is not possible since this kind of personality is very fixed and does not change. At some point the partner or spouse of the narcissist decides that he or she can no longer be the recipient of narcissistic rage and continue abuse. Making the decision to divorce the narcissist can be difficult. I hear from individuals who have done this successfully although it is complex and takes perseverance. You are now free to pursue all of fruits and benefits of your true self together with your many creative gifts. You deserve deep inner peace and the great freedom of your precious individuality. https://tinyurl.com/y39j2uke www.mhnrnetwork.com https://tinyurl.com/y3ss5clg

16 MIN4 hours ago
Comments
The Narcissist Always Has A Hidden Agenda

Annihilative Narcissistic Mother Wound

The narcissistic mother is a non-parent: callous, cold, neglectful, self-absorbed. Narcissistic mothers throw heir children to the winds of fate, unconcerned about how they will cope or survive. A child who is emotionally and psychologically neglected never feels safe inside. There is no genuine attachment to a mothering figure. The narcissistic mother is disgusted by her child's spontaneity. D. W. Winnicott psychoanalyst speaks of the mother who is not good enough and cannot accept her baby's unique individuality. The child who suffers the narcissistic mother wound tends to choose partners who are emotionally and psychologically detached and are incapable of forming warm. protective and loving relationships. Recovering and healing from the imprint of the narcissistic mother wound: Recognize that you are the precious child of the narcissistic mother, Give yourself credit for surviving as an authentic self. You raised yourself, have a developed conscience and fine character. Practice...

10 MIN3 days ago
Comments
Annihilative Narcissistic Mother Wound

The Unbearable Greediness of the Narcissistic Spouse

Significant ways the Narcissist is exceedingly greedy: Incapable of psychological and emotional intimacy - Ungiving! A strong taste for luxury and lavishness. Bestow on themselves material possessions: properties, assets, homes, cars, clothes, trips. Make empty promises to provide for their children, for example, pulling the financial resources at the last minute for their education. Cruel and greedy - abandon their first family financially, discard and replace them with a new spouse and children, creating a "new family." Money hungry, grabby like a two year old, toddlers in tantrum mode. Narcissists are psychologically regressed at two years of age. Narcissists don't share - Everything belongs to them. Play cruel game of "hide the money" during the divorce wars. What you can do: 1. Research and study the narcissistic personality in-depth. 2. Be organized. Keep good records so that you have the facts about all of your assets. Daily Self Care: Sleep, Rest, Eating nourishing food, Hyd...

11 MIN6 days ago
Comments
The Unbearable Greediness of the Narcissistic Spouse

Divorcing An Aggressive Narcissist - Winning the Race Your Way

There is a sense of embattlement when you are divorcing an aggressive narcissist. Remember to put yourself first especially in this situation. Keep good records of your assets, properties, what belongs to you specifically. Remember that the bottomless greed of the narcissist is brought out when you are going through a divorce with them. They live in a world of their own delusion and believes that everything belongs to them. Spouses of aggressive narcissists are often out-lawyered. Choose an excellent attorney who is an expert in family law and is your excellent advocate throughout the process. Unmasking the true nature of he aggressive narcissist is your pathway to recovering and restoring your strong sense of self. Knowledge is power especially if you are divorcing a narcissist. Put the emphasis each day on your psychological, emotional and spiritual welfare by doing practices that keep you healthy and thriving. Daily self care practices are essential: Sleep, rest, nourishing food,...

14 MIN1 weeks ago
Comments
Divorcing An Aggressive Narcissist - Winning the Race Your Way

Marriage to Narcissists Causes Chronic Stress and Fatigue - You Deserve Recovery and Inner Peace

Over a long period of time when you are forced to continually react to highly stressful conditions associated with abusive narcissistic spouse, your stress response system can become disrupted and your reserve can be depleted. There are many disorders: HPA axis dysregulation, migraine headaches, gut issues, chronic insomnia, etc. The good news is that you can learn to clearly identify the narcissistic personality and to separate out of this highly stressful marriage. Focus on your well being. Daily self care: nourishing food, sleep, rest, hydration, movement/exercise, Nature, your form of spiritual practice, using your unique creativity. You are taking your own unique pathway, the road less traveled, becoming strong and whole-emotionally, psychologically, physically, spiritually. https://tinyurl.com/y39j2uke www.mhnrnetwork.com https://tinyurl.com/y3ss5clg

8 MIN1 weeks ago
Comments
Marriage to Narcissists Causes Chronic Stress and Fatigue - You Deserve Recovery and Inner Peace

Integrating Your Shadow - Becoming More of Yourself

Encountering our Shadow, getting to know it and explore its essence is a journey that moves us closer to a deeper and richer concept of ourselves. Working with the Shadow through creativity: Unedited writing Dreams, gems of the night Opening up to our intuitions Being in Nature Listening to great music welcomes the Shadow Creating and appreciating art bring our Shadow into focus. https://tinyurl.com/y39j2uke www.mhnrnetwork.com https://tinyurl.com/y3ss5clg

11 MIN1 weeks ago
Comments
Integrating Your Shadow - Becoming More of Yourself

High Level Narcissistic Lotus Eaters - Obsessively Seeking Pleasure

Watching high level narcissists, notice how they are geared toward seeking constant pleasure--buying, spending large sums on every variety of possession--cars, clothing, travel, social gatherings, feasts, fetes. These individual are caught up in their exclusive swirl of social gatherings among other anointed high level narcissists. Contrarily, they cause tremendous psychological pain to those who are involved with them: spouses, ex-spouses, children, other family members. If you are partnered with a high level narcissist it is a matter of time when you will be subjected to their vile cruelties. High level narcissists remain in lotus land for the full run. Actually, the narcissistic personality is psychologically regressed at age two or younger. This is when the developmental arrest took place according to renowned clinician and researcher, Dr. James Masterson. You recognize that your partnerships with a high level narcissist has sent you off course, away from the direction of your c...

7 MIN2 weeks ago
Comments
High Level Narcissistic Lotus Eaters - Obsessively Seeking Pleasure

Beneath Narcissist's Perfect Persona - Deep Psychological Darkness

The external image of the narcissist is the polar opposite of his/her internal world. On the outside the classic narcissist is frequently physically attractive, highly self confident, overflowing with charm. The narcissistic view of life has no limits. They inspire awe in most people if they are high level narcissists who have mastered control and manipulation of others. Beneath the glittery, irresistible surface, the inner world of the narcissist is empty, bleak and dark. There is an inert quality to the inner narcissist. They have no insight and believe their finely spun delusions. Deep in the unconscious the narcissist is fraudulent, empty, rudderless. Know that this is a fixed, rigid personality disorder that does not change. The narcissist lives in a psychological darkness that pulls others down into its depths. He is unconcerned since the narcissist is out of touch with himself. It is those around him who are devastated by his demands, hatreds, crimes of the heart. Are there e...

8 MIN2 weeks ago
Comments
Beneath Narcissist's Perfect Persona - Deep Psychological Darkness

From Childhood Trauma to Partnerships with Narcissists

There is a pattern of psychological and emotional abuse that follows children from narcissistic parents to partnerships with narcissistic personalities. Childhood trauma causes a series of severe intrapsychic wounds that are exceedingly painful and gut-wrenching. The life of a child who is continually abused from the child he or she is born is immeasurably horrific. Those who have not experienced childhood trauma can approximate and imagine what these children suffer and endure. These small children are at the mercy of cold, enraged narcissistic parents who make them into servants and treat them like slaves. No one pays attention to their cries, screams and pleas for mercy. Crying out in these situations causes more physical and psychological abuse. Crying children are often struck physically if they continue make loud noises. Everything must be kept quiet so that no one outside the family knows the ugly truth. The narcissistic mother glares menacingly at her small child. The stare ...

7 MIN2 weeks ago
Comments
From Childhood Trauma to Partnerships with Narcissists

Narcissistic Golden Daddy's Girl - Cruel, Cold, Ruthless

Born very attractive, bright, extroverted, charming - This is daddy's golden girl. Chosen by her narcissistic father very early to rule the household she supplants her mother's role, upending the lives of the children of the family There is a strong psychological fusion between father and daughter, an erotic energy. She can do no wrong, she always gets what she wants. As a young adult golden girl she has a pattern of seducing men, creating female enemies. As she grows older she graduates to having affairs with the husbands of her friends and acquaintances because it is so thrilling and exciting. The two top forces within this golden daughter that motivate everything are manipulation and control over others to seek power. In a word, this woman is calculating. This golden girl becomes notorious for her sheer nerve and ambition. She has a couple of kids to burnish her image. Will she pay for her psychological sins, the trespasses that have harmed so many as she climbed, stepping over o...

7 MIN3 weeks ago
Comments
Narcissistic Golden Daddy's Girl - Cruel, Cold, Ruthless