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Shirley Hubbard - Strong Black Woman Advocate

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Shades of Strong ™ | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative
Shades of Strong ™ | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

Shades of Strong ™ | Shifting the Strong Black Woman Narrative

Shirley Hubbard - Strong Black Woman Advocate

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Created for Strong Black Women by Strong Black Women, we bring our listeners soul searching conversations about EVERYTHING. From the stereotypical myths and social norms, to cultural biases and expectations, we leave no stone un-turned, because the world is long overdue for dialogue about the cost of being a Strong Black Woman in a world that doesn’t honor and protect her. We are dedicated to having the discussions that will open space for more women to be and feel whatever Shade of Strong that’s real for them in a given moment — without judgement, stereotype, masks, scorn or ridicule

Latest Episodes

Black Women Don’t Need a Captain Save a Queen

Long gone are the days when being black women, single black women, single black women with children, strong black women was viewed as some hard to cure illness that we need to be rescued from… Black women are well educated, well accomplished individuals making things happen. We don't need aCaptain Save a Queen!!! We’re saving our dam selves! AND we look good doing it. As a matter of fact, nobody does it better In this episode we talk about Mary J Blige and her taking back the credit she gave her husband for helping her end her drug addiction. We use Mary's situation to dissect the black woman's need to be rescued. During our conversation we came into some powerful revelations about the fairy tales and happily ever afters our parents and WE fedourselves and how those fairy tales have contributed to the devaluing of black women and why black women often find themselves in unhealthy relationships. And of course, we didn't leave the men out... because we can't help ourselves without helping them out, right? So how 'bout you click play and get this all of this goodness in your life... and when you're finished soaking it all up, hop on over to the website and leave us a voice message with your thoughts or send us an email at hi@shadesofstrong.com. You can also show us some love on FACEBOOK, TWITTER, andINSTAGRAM@shadesofstrong. If you’re tweeting with us, be sure to use the hashtag #shadesofstrong. Happy listening peeps! SUBSCRIBE. RATE. REVIEW If you enjoyed this or previous episodes, head on over toApple Podcastsand SUBSCRIBE TO THE SHOW! And if you’re moved to do so, kindly leave us a rating and review.Not sure how to do that? ClickHERE for a quickhow to. Other Ways to subscribe to the Shades of Strong Podcast: * Click here to subscribe viaGoogle Podcasts * Click here to subscribe viaStitcher * Click here to subscribe via Tunein * Click here to subscribe via Spotify * Click here to subscribe via e-mail * Click here to subscribe viaRSS

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Black Women Don’t Need a Captain Save a Queen

Emotional Spending — Black Women Be Shoppin’

Black Women residing in what we've come to know as the Strong Black Woman or Superwoman Syndrome often seek peace and refuge in retail therapy aka emotional spending. She seeks this refuge online, in a mall, or even at a car dealership—she's just looking for something to comfort her mentally and/or emotionally and in more cases than not, that comfort comes with a hefty price tag. Her spending is directly related to her feeling overwhelmed, undervalued, neglected, angry, disconnected – the greater the pain she’s experiencing in that moment, the higher the price tag for rewarding herself. Emotional spending in its simplest form is buying things with the hopes that it will make us feel better about whatever emotional pain we’re experiencing. But it can also break the bank, AND it doesn’t necessarily help you deal with whatever triggered the spending in the first place Emotional spending breeds financial dysfunction and that dysfunction is passed down to our children and our childr...

41 MIN1 weeks ago
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Emotional Spending — Black Women Be Shoppin’

Forgiveness, Broken Trust, Come Get Your Healing!

You asked! We answered! Our listeners want answers to some really tough questions and we're here for ALL OF THEM * How do you forgive people who are not sorry? * How do you trust your child again after they break your trust? * What are some steps to healing? We took each of them one by one sharing our experiences and imparting some wisdom. Do yourself a favor and tune in for our responses. ******* Forgiveness is probably one of THE most challenging things you'll ever have to do when you've been betrayed by someone you love and care about. Couple that with trying to forgive someone who truly doesn't give a eff about hurting you, and you've got an even greater challenge on your hands. But, the reality is you can either forgive or feel like crap. Those really are you ONLY options so come on in, pull up a chair and let's talk about it. And while you're here, let's chat it up about how you and your child can get back on Trust Avenue after the trust has been broken. I know about this all too well, so I know your first reaction is usually one of anger and betrayal; and the next reaction is usually doling out punishment, but before you go running full speed ahead into locking folks in rooms and snatching up cell phones, how bout listening to some of our suggestions on how to handle a betrayal of trust from the youngster. Yeah, I know that's a lot of hard talk for one episode, but I can't let you leave without throwing in some tidbits on how to get yourself some healing because that's where your happiness lies, Queen. Yup! I said it. You will never experience true happiness until you find healing. Alright!!! Are you ready for this episode? From forgiveness to broken trust to healing, we left no stone uncovered in this episode. Well, what are you waiting for? Let's do this! Oh, and I hope you haven't forgotten about how much we love hearing from you. So after you've loved on your ears, heart and soul with this message, love on us by heading over to Shades of Strong to leave us a voice message telling us what you thought about this episode or send us an email at hi@shadesofstrong.com. You can also show us some love on FACEBOOK, TWITTER, andINSTAGRAM@shadesofstrong. If you’re tweeting with us, be sure to use the hashtag #shadesofstrong. Happy listening peeps! SUBSCRIBE. RATE. REVIEW If you enjoyed this or previous episodes, head on over toApple Podcastsand SUBSCRIBE TO THE SHOW! And if you’re moved to do so, kindly leave us a rating and review.Not sure how to do that? ClickHERE for a quickhow to. Other Ways to subscribe to the Shades of Strong Podcast: * Click here to subscribe viaGoogle Podcasts

45 MIN2 weeks ago
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Forgiveness, Broken Trust, Come Get Your Healing!

Mailbag Episode Part ONE: Self-Worth, Youth and Privacy, Single Mom’ing Oh My!

Does being a STRONG single mother for so long effect how you handle a new healthy relationship? Mailbag Episode Part ONE: Without even thinking about this question, it's a HARD YES. As black women we have this thing where (in more cases that not) we want to be independent. We want to do things on our own. We don't like relying on others to do things for us. That is multiplied times three OR MORE when you are a black single mom because you're accustomed to doing things on your own. When you're a black single mom you're often operating from that "I don't need a man" space; which is not necessarily a bad thing, but as cliché as it sound, people need people. You can't do life alone, which means you most certainly can't be a strong black mom without the support of others. Being independent is not a bad thing, but as cliche as it sounds, people need people... Tune in now to see how Natty and I answered this question, along with two others that we pulled from our mail bag. This is part on...

45 MIN3 weeks ago
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Mailbag Episode Part ONE: Self-Worth, Youth and Privacy, Single Mom’ing Oh My!

Taking Care of You In and Out of “Crisis Season” Featuring Michelle Goodloe

Self-care is about taking care of you so that you don’t feel like you want to run away from home, aka your life. Michelle Goodloe, self-care blogger and author of the guided self-care journal, Self Explore, Self Restore stopped by the virtual studio to impart some wisdom on how to take care of you both in and out of "crisis season". Michelle is a licensed social worker with experiences in providing clinical services, technical assistance and training on interpersonal trauma, domestic violence and child abuse. She is all too familiar with, and understands how difficult it can be to practice self-care on a regular basis. Thus her reason for creating the GMichelle Self Care Platform". And in this episode she's handing out all kinds of self-care goodies as she reminds us that self-care isn't selfish. She sheds light on how you can get consumed with guilt because you don't feel like you deserve to take care of you, why you feel guilty about and how you can put those feelings in check with a few simple, but fun activities. Some of the things we covered in this episode were: * What is trauma? * Implementing a regular and daily self-care practice * Creating a self-care "to go" strategy * How self-care is directly connected to self-awareness * Recognizing deficits in nutrition to contribute to increased stress levels and trauma ...and so much more. Michelle also answered a listener's question during this episode. Here's the question, but you have to tune in to hear her response... I'm a single mother who works full time. Although, my kids are not a job, most of the time it feels like I have 2 full time jobs and I'm being worked overtime. At this point I'm feeling run down and I'm failing to take care of myself due to time and financial restraints. It's hard for me to feel strong and be at my best when I feel so worn out mentally and physically. But I know if I'm not okay then my kids are not okay so I need to take care of me. How do I find time for "me time" that'll fit in tight budget? Signed, Overworked The strategies/activities she provided in response to this question are oh so good. She made it super clear that you can still take care of you even when it's challenging to take a break from being a mom. Taking care of you is the MOST important thing you can do for yourself and your family. You want to leave a legacy that your family can be proud of, and that starts with you taking care of you FIRST. ...because as cliche as it sounds, you can't take care of others if you don't take care of you. As you can see, this episode is filled with so much goodness. So be sure to check it out. And be sure to connect with Michelle Goodloe on Instagram at @thegmichelle and on her website at gmichelle.com. And while you're on her website, take a few minutes to take theDiscover Your Needs: Self Care Quiz and check out this really cool article:

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Taking Care of You In and Out of “Crisis Season” Featuring Michelle Goodloe

Let’s Do it Again | Shades of Strong Episode Compilation

We are a little over the midway mark of Season two so we thought now might be good time to highlight some of our most listened to episodes. In other words, LET'S DO IT AGAIN. Enjoy this compilation of clips featuring some of your and our favorite episodes, and if you missed any of them, go back and check out the full episode. And even if you didn't miss any, check them out again and share them with a friend. Episodes highlighted: Episode 002: Behind the Mask of the Angry Black Woman Episode 005: Trapped in a Bad Relationship Episode 006: Habits That Keep Black Women Stuck Episode 009: I'm My Child's Friend, but I'm Still in Control Episode 011: Sisterhood! They Smile in Your Face Episode 012: Don't Tell Me How to Heal My Pain Period Episode 013: Finding Yourself and Standing in Your Truth Episode 014: Where is God When Life Happens And when you're finished, we'd love to hear from you. So, hop on over to Shades of Strong and share your story with us via voice message or send us an email at hi@shadesofstrong.com. OR Head on over toFACEBOOKorTWITTER,orINSTAGRAM@shadesofstrong and join the conversation by leaving us a comment or tweet. If you’re tweeting with us, be sure to use the hashtag #shadesofstrong. Happy listening peeps! SUBSCRIBE. RATE. REVIEW If you enjoyed this or previous episodes, head on over toApple Podcastsand SUBSCRIBE TO THE SHOW! And if you’re moved to do so, kindlyleave us a rating and review.Not sure how to do that? ClickHEREfor a quickhow to. Other Ways to subscribe to the Shades of Strong Podcast: *

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Let’s Do it Again | Shades of Strong Episode Compilation

Where is God When Life Happens

How do you deal with LIFE when life happens? Here's an even better question OR the one more frequently asked... Where is God when life happens? How many times have you questioned this very thing when when life turns your world upside down? I can't even count the number of times I've questioned why God allowed this horrible thing to happen to me. For as long as I can remember, my life has been one traumatic event after another. Seriously, there have been so many days when I’ve been like, “Really God? You doing that?” ...and I’ve shed more tears than I care to remember. As a matter of fact, that is the story of my life and I'm sharing a little of it in this week's episode. Tune in NOW as I share my story of hope, healing and forgiveness, and how I eventually came to terms with WHY God allowed so many horrible things to happen in my life. And when you're finished, we'd love to hear from you. So, hop on over to Shades of Strong and share your story with us via voice message or send us an email at hi@shadesofstrong.com. OR Head on over toFACEBOOKorTWITTER,orINSTAGRAM@shadesofstrong and join the conversation by leaving us a comment or tweet. If you’re tweeting with us, be sure to use the hashtag #shadesofstrong. Happy listening peeps! SUBSCRIBE. RATE. REVIEW If you enjoyed this or previous episodes, head on over toApple Podcastsand SUBSCRIBE TO THE SHOW! And if you’re moved to do so, kindlyleave us a rating and review.Not sure how to do that? ClickHEREfor a quickhow to. Other Ways to subscribe to the Shades of Strong Podcast: * Click here to subscribe viaGoogle Podcasts * Click here to subscribe viaStitcher * Click here to subscribe via Tunein * Click here to subscribe via Spotify * Click here to subscribe via e-mail * Click here to subscribe viaRSS

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Where is God When Life Happens

Finding Yourself, Owning Your Voice and Standing in Your Truth

There's so much freedom in finding yourself, owning your voice and standing in your truth. Tune in as Shades of Strong co-host, Natty shares her story of healing from an emotionally unhealthy,interracial marriage and how she developed a contingency plan to help her deal with trauma in a healthy and productive way. And when you're finished, we'd love to hear from you. So, hop on over to Shades of Strong and share your story with us via voice message. OR Head on over toFACEBOOKorTWITTER,orINSTAGRAM@shadesofstrong and join the conversation by leaving us a comment or tweet. If you’re tweeting with us, be sure to use the hashtag #shadesofstrong. Happy listening peeps! SUBSCRIBE. RATE. REVIEW If you enjoyed this or previous episodes, head on over toApple Podcastsand SUBSCRIBE TO THE SHOW! And if you’re moved to do so, kindlyleave us a rating and review.Not sure how to do that? ClickHEREfor a quickhow to. Other Ways to subscribe to the Shades of Strong Podcast: * Click here to subscribe viaGoogle Podcasts * Click here to subscribe viaStitcher * Click here to subscribe via Tunein * Click here to subscribe via Spotify * Click here to subscribe via e-mail * Click here to subscribe viaRSS

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Finding Yourself, Owning Your Voice and Standing in Your Truth

Emotional Healing | Don’t Tell Me How to Heal PERIOD!

I've been seeing this meme floating around on social media saying, "stop telling people how to heal from stuff you've never been through".... Well, here's a suggestion for ya... Stop telling people how to heal their [emotional] pain PERIOD! ヅ Recently, while standing in the middle of the aisle at Walgreens looking for Dove’s pear and aloe vera soap, I heard the words, “Girl, stop crying and get out of bed. Your life could be a lot worse. He’ll be back when he realizes what he lost….” I was a little taken aback by the conversation for two reasons… One…. because here’s this lady is on the phone in a public place [loudly] having a conversation that most certainly should have been kept private. And two because……. Oh my gosh! Why is she telling her that when she’s obviously hurting -- like in serious emotional pain? But, beingthe mind your business girl that I am, I shook it off, grabbed my soap and went on my merry little way. In all honesty, the lady probably meant no harm and she clearly thought she was helping her friend; but the reality is when someone is going through a moment of despair the last thing she wants to hear is, “it could be worse.” The fact that it could be worse does not lessen the pain she’s feeling in that moment, does it? Of course not! She may stop crying and she may even get out of bed, but it’s not because she realizes that it could be worse. It’s because she just realized that her friend doesn’t care about her pain – or at least that what’s she’s thinking because her friend (unknowingly) implied that her feelings are not valid. So, she’s getting out of bed because now she’s got to prove to her friend that she’s bigger than this pain she’s experiencing. Ladies!!! We gotta stop doing this to each other. I talk to women everyday who are hurting, broken, struggling to recover from various traumas and tragedies – abuse, rape, rejection, death, break ups – pain that has left them feeling hopeless, worthless and un-loved. As a matter of fact, I used to be one of them. ...but they can’t get the healing they need because family, friends, society, religion have made them feel like they can’t feel what they’re feeling. Join Natty and I at the virtual table as we shed some light on how harmful our words can be when we're not sensitive to the trauma of others. And when you're finished, we'd love to hear your thoughts on how you support your friends and family when life happens unexpectedly. So, hop on over to Shades of Strong and share your story with us via voice message. OR Head on over toFACEBOOKorTWITTER,orINSTAGRAM@shadesofstrong and join the conversation by leaving us a comment or tweet. If you’re tweeting with us, be sure to use the hashtag #shadesofstrong. Happy listening peeps! SUBSCRIBE. RATE. REVIEW If you enjoyed this or previous episodes, head on over to

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Emotional Healing | Don’t Tell Me How to Heal PERIOD!

Sisterhood | They Smile in Your Face

... ♪♪ all the time they want to take your place ♪♪ We've seen a lot of the crab in the bucket mentality among African American females, and I'm not saying it doesn't exist in other communities -- I know it does, but like with all things that negatively impact us, the spotlight is often directed towards us more than others. Take for instance Nicki Minaj and Cardi B – I'm sure there are tons of other female singers and rappers that have beef with each other, but who's names constantly show up in the headlines? Nicki and Cardi, right? But even with black females being under constant ridicule for tearing each other down, I'm actually noticing that A LOT of us are recognizing that we're stronger together, so we're forging solid friendships and clinging to the sisterhood both on and offline. Black women are coming together to lift each other up and cheer each other own. We're tired of the whole super woman -- S on your chest mentality -- we're tired of being alone, hiding, living in shame and feeling disconnected. We ARE actually craving more meaningful connections with each other and I LOVE IT! But, here's the deal... ...if you don't surround yourself with the RIGHT people, you'll find yourself on the other side of sisterhood -- the side where betrayal, cattiness, competition, threats and gossip wreak havoc on your life. That's when sisterhood becomes toxic! ヅ And... That's the sisterhood I'm not here for! So, the question at hand is... WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN THE SISTERHOOD BECOMES TOXIC? How do you recover from it. OR Better yet, how do you keep it from happening? Tune in to this episode and get an earful as Natty and I talk about our personal experiences with betrayal and cattiness within friendships and on offer a few suggestions so that you don't find yourself in that same place. When you’ve soaked up all of the goodness that is this episode, hop on over to Shades of Strong and leave us a voice message telling us what you thought about it. OR Head on over toFACEBOOKorTWITTER,orINSTAGRAM@shadesofstrong and join the conversation. If you’re tweeting with us, be sure to use the hashtag #shadesofstrong. Happy listening peeps! SUBSCRIBE. RATE. REVIEW If you enjoyed this or previous episodes, head on over toApple Podcastsand SUBSCRIBE TO THE SHOW! And if you’re moved to do so, kindlyleave us a rating and review.Not sure how to do that? ClickHEREfor a quickhow to.

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Sisterhood | They Smile in Your Face

Latest Episodes

Black Women Don’t Need a Captain Save a Queen

Long gone are the days when being black women, single black women, single black women with children, strong black women was viewed as some hard to cure illness that we need to be rescued from… Black women are well educated, well accomplished individuals making things happen. We don't need aCaptain Save a Queen!!! We’re saving our dam selves! AND we look good doing it. As a matter of fact, nobody does it better In this episode we talk about Mary J Blige and her taking back the credit she gave her husband for helping her end her drug addiction. We use Mary's situation to dissect the black woman's need to be rescued. During our conversation we came into some powerful revelations about the fairy tales and happily ever afters our parents and WE fedourselves and how those fairy tales have contributed to the devaluing of black women and why black women often find themselves in unhealthy relationships. And of course, we didn't leave the men out... because we can't help ourselves without helping them out, right? So how 'bout you click play and get this all of this goodness in your life... and when you're finished soaking it all up, hop on over to the website and leave us a voice message with your thoughts or send us an email at hi@shadesofstrong.com. You can also show us some love on FACEBOOK, TWITTER, andINSTAGRAM@shadesofstrong. If you’re tweeting with us, be sure to use the hashtag #shadesofstrong. Happy listening peeps! SUBSCRIBE. RATE. REVIEW If you enjoyed this or previous episodes, head on over toApple Podcastsand SUBSCRIBE TO THE SHOW! And if you’re moved to do so, kindly leave us a rating and review.Not sure how to do that? ClickHERE for a quickhow to. Other Ways to subscribe to the Shades of Strong Podcast: * Click here to subscribe viaGoogle Podcasts * Click here to subscribe viaStitcher * Click here to subscribe via Tunein * Click here to subscribe via Spotify * Click here to subscribe via e-mail * Click here to subscribe viaRSS

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Black Women Don’t Need a Captain Save a Queen

Emotional Spending — Black Women Be Shoppin’

Black Women residing in what we've come to know as the Strong Black Woman or Superwoman Syndrome often seek peace and refuge in retail therapy aka emotional spending. She seeks this refuge online, in a mall, or even at a car dealership—she's just looking for something to comfort her mentally and/or emotionally and in more cases than not, that comfort comes with a hefty price tag. Her spending is directly related to her feeling overwhelmed, undervalued, neglected, angry, disconnected – the greater the pain she’s experiencing in that moment, the higher the price tag for rewarding herself. Emotional spending in its simplest form is buying things with the hopes that it will make us feel better about whatever emotional pain we’re experiencing. But it can also break the bank, AND it doesn’t necessarily help you deal with whatever triggered the spending in the first place Emotional spending breeds financial dysfunction and that dysfunction is passed down to our children and our childr...

41 MIN1 weeks ago
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Emotional Spending — Black Women Be Shoppin’

Forgiveness, Broken Trust, Come Get Your Healing!

You asked! We answered! Our listeners want answers to some really tough questions and we're here for ALL OF THEM * How do you forgive people who are not sorry? * How do you trust your child again after they break your trust? * What are some steps to healing? We took each of them one by one sharing our experiences and imparting some wisdom. Do yourself a favor and tune in for our responses. ******* Forgiveness is probably one of THE most challenging things you'll ever have to do when you've been betrayed by someone you love and care about. Couple that with trying to forgive someone who truly doesn't give a eff about hurting you, and you've got an even greater challenge on your hands. But, the reality is you can either forgive or feel like crap. Those really are you ONLY options so come on in, pull up a chair and let's talk about it. And while you're here, let's chat it up about how you and your child can get back on Trust Avenue after the trust has been broken. I know about this all too well, so I know your first reaction is usually one of anger and betrayal; and the next reaction is usually doling out punishment, but before you go running full speed ahead into locking folks in rooms and snatching up cell phones, how bout listening to some of our suggestions on how to handle a betrayal of trust from the youngster. Yeah, I know that's a lot of hard talk for one episode, but I can't let you leave without throwing in some tidbits on how to get yourself some healing because that's where your happiness lies, Queen. Yup! I said it. You will never experience true happiness until you find healing. Alright!!! Are you ready for this episode? From forgiveness to broken trust to healing, we left no stone uncovered in this episode. Well, what are you waiting for? Let's do this! Oh, and I hope you haven't forgotten about how much we love hearing from you. So after you've loved on your ears, heart and soul with this message, love on us by heading over to Shades of Strong to leave us a voice message telling us what you thought about this episode or send us an email at hi@shadesofstrong.com. You can also show us some love on FACEBOOK, TWITTER, andINSTAGRAM@shadesofstrong. If you’re tweeting with us, be sure to use the hashtag #shadesofstrong. Happy listening peeps! SUBSCRIBE. RATE. REVIEW If you enjoyed this or previous episodes, head on over toApple Podcastsand SUBSCRIBE TO THE SHOW! And if you’re moved to do so, kindly leave us a rating and review.Not sure how to do that? ClickHERE for a quickhow to. Other Ways to subscribe to the Shades of Strong Podcast: * Click here to subscribe viaGoogle Podcasts

45 MIN2 weeks ago
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Forgiveness, Broken Trust, Come Get Your Healing!

Mailbag Episode Part ONE: Self-Worth, Youth and Privacy, Single Mom’ing Oh My!

Does being a STRONG single mother for so long effect how you handle a new healthy relationship? Mailbag Episode Part ONE: Without even thinking about this question, it's a HARD YES. As black women we have this thing where (in more cases that not) we want to be independent. We want to do things on our own. We don't like relying on others to do things for us. That is multiplied times three OR MORE when you are a black single mom because you're accustomed to doing things on your own. When you're a black single mom you're often operating from that "I don't need a man" space; which is not necessarily a bad thing, but as cliché as it sound, people need people. You can't do life alone, which means you most certainly can't be a strong black mom without the support of others. Being independent is not a bad thing, but as cliche as it sounds, people need people... Tune in now to see how Natty and I answered this question, along with two others that we pulled from our mail bag. This is part on...

45 MIN3 weeks ago
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Mailbag Episode Part ONE: Self-Worth, Youth and Privacy, Single Mom’ing Oh My!

Taking Care of You In and Out of “Crisis Season” Featuring Michelle Goodloe

Self-care is about taking care of you so that you don’t feel like you want to run away from home, aka your life. Michelle Goodloe, self-care blogger and author of the guided self-care journal, Self Explore, Self Restore stopped by the virtual studio to impart some wisdom on how to take care of you both in and out of "crisis season". Michelle is a licensed social worker with experiences in providing clinical services, technical assistance and training on interpersonal trauma, domestic violence and child abuse. She is all too familiar with, and understands how difficult it can be to practice self-care on a regular basis. Thus her reason for creating the GMichelle Self Care Platform". And in this episode she's handing out all kinds of self-care goodies as she reminds us that self-care isn't selfish. She sheds light on how you can get consumed with guilt because you don't feel like you deserve to take care of you, why you feel guilty about and how you can put those feelings in check with a few simple, but fun activities. Some of the things we covered in this episode were: * What is trauma? * Implementing a regular and daily self-care practice * Creating a self-care "to go" strategy * How self-care is directly connected to self-awareness * Recognizing deficits in nutrition to contribute to increased stress levels and trauma ...and so much more. Michelle also answered a listener's question during this episode. Here's the question, but you have to tune in to hear her response... I'm a single mother who works full time. Although, my kids are not a job, most of the time it feels like I have 2 full time jobs and I'm being worked overtime. At this point I'm feeling run down and I'm failing to take care of myself due to time and financial restraints. It's hard for me to feel strong and be at my best when I feel so worn out mentally and physically. But I know if I'm not okay then my kids are not okay so I need to take care of me. How do I find time for "me time" that'll fit in tight budget? Signed, Overworked The strategies/activities she provided in response to this question are oh so good. She made it super clear that you can still take care of you even when it's challenging to take a break from being a mom. Taking care of you is the MOST important thing you can do for yourself and your family. You want to leave a legacy that your family can be proud of, and that starts with you taking care of you FIRST. ...because as cliche as it sounds, you can't take care of others if you don't take care of you. As you can see, this episode is filled with so much goodness. So be sure to check it out. And be sure to connect with Michelle Goodloe on Instagram at @thegmichelle and on her website at gmichelle.com. And while you're on her website, take a few minutes to take theDiscover Your Needs: Self Care Quiz and check out this really cool article:

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Taking Care of You In and Out of “Crisis Season” Featuring Michelle Goodloe

Let’s Do it Again | Shades of Strong Episode Compilation

We are a little over the midway mark of Season two so we thought now might be good time to highlight some of our most listened to episodes. In other words, LET'S DO IT AGAIN. Enjoy this compilation of clips featuring some of your and our favorite episodes, and if you missed any of them, go back and check out the full episode. And even if you didn't miss any, check them out again and share them with a friend. Episodes highlighted: Episode 002: Behind the Mask of the Angry Black Woman Episode 005: Trapped in a Bad Relationship Episode 006: Habits That Keep Black Women Stuck Episode 009: I'm My Child's Friend, but I'm Still in Control Episode 011: Sisterhood! They Smile in Your Face Episode 012: Don't Tell Me How to Heal My Pain Period Episode 013: Finding Yourself and Standing in Your Truth Episode 014: Where is God When Life Happens And when you're finished, we'd love to hear from you. So, hop on over to Shades of Strong and share your story with us via voice message or send us an email at hi@shadesofstrong.com. OR Head on over toFACEBOOKorTWITTER,orINSTAGRAM@shadesofstrong and join the conversation by leaving us a comment or tweet. If you’re tweeting with us, be sure to use the hashtag #shadesofstrong. Happy listening peeps! SUBSCRIBE. RATE. REVIEW If you enjoyed this or previous episodes, head on over toApple Podcastsand SUBSCRIBE TO THE SHOW! And if you’re moved to do so, kindlyleave us a rating and review.Not sure how to do that? ClickHEREfor a quickhow to. Other Ways to subscribe to the Shades of Strong Podcast: *

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Let’s Do it Again | Shades of Strong Episode Compilation

Where is God When Life Happens

How do you deal with LIFE when life happens? Here's an even better question OR the one more frequently asked... Where is God when life happens? How many times have you questioned this very thing when when life turns your world upside down? I can't even count the number of times I've questioned why God allowed this horrible thing to happen to me. For as long as I can remember, my life has been one traumatic event after another. Seriously, there have been so many days when I’ve been like, “Really God? You doing that?” ...and I’ve shed more tears than I care to remember. As a matter of fact, that is the story of my life and I'm sharing a little of it in this week's episode. Tune in NOW as I share my story of hope, healing and forgiveness, and how I eventually came to terms with WHY God allowed so many horrible things to happen in my life. And when you're finished, we'd love to hear from you. So, hop on over to Shades of Strong and share your story with us via voice message or send us an email at hi@shadesofstrong.com. OR Head on over toFACEBOOKorTWITTER,orINSTAGRAM@shadesofstrong and join the conversation by leaving us a comment or tweet. If you’re tweeting with us, be sure to use the hashtag #shadesofstrong. Happy listening peeps! SUBSCRIBE. RATE. REVIEW If you enjoyed this or previous episodes, head on over toApple Podcastsand SUBSCRIBE TO THE SHOW! And if you’re moved to do so, kindlyleave us a rating and review.Not sure how to do that? ClickHEREfor a quickhow to. Other Ways to subscribe to the Shades of Strong Podcast: * Click here to subscribe viaGoogle Podcasts * Click here to subscribe viaStitcher * Click here to subscribe via Tunein * Click here to subscribe via Spotify * Click here to subscribe via e-mail * Click here to subscribe viaRSS

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Where is God When Life Happens

Finding Yourself, Owning Your Voice and Standing in Your Truth

There's so much freedom in finding yourself, owning your voice and standing in your truth. Tune in as Shades of Strong co-host, Natty shares her story of healing from an emotionally unhealthy,interracial marriage and how she developed a contingency plan to help her deal with trauma in a healthy and productive way. And when you're finished, we'd love to hear from you. So, hop on over to Shades of Strong and share your story with us via voice message. OR Head on over toFACEBOOKorTWITTER,orINSTAGRAM@shadesofstrong and join the conversation by leaving us a comment or tweet. If you’re tweeting with us, be sure to use the hashtag #shadesofstrong. Happy listening peeps! SUBSCRIBE. RATE. REVIEW If you enjoyed this or previous episodes, head on over toApple Podcastsand SUBSCRIBE TO THE SHOW! And if you’re moved to do so, kindlyleave us a rating and review.Not sure how to do that? ClickHEREfor a quickhow to. Other Ways to subscribe to the Shades of Strong Podcast: * Click here to subscribe viaGoogle Podcasts * Click here to subscribe viaStitcher * Click here to subscribe via Tunein * Click here to subscribe via Spotify * Click here to subscribe via e-mail * Click here to subscribe viaRSS

39 MINAUG 26
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Finding Yourself, Owning Your Voice and Standing in Your Truth

Emotional Healing | Don’t Tell Me How to Heal PERIOD!

I've been seeing this meme floating around on social media saying, "stop telling people how to heal from stuff you've never been through".... Well, here's a suggestion for ya... Stop telling people how to heal their [emotional] pain PERIOD! ヅ Recently, while standing in the middle of the aisle at Walgreens looking for Dove’s pear and aloe vera soap, I heard the words, “Girl, stop crying and get out of bed. Your life could be a lot worse. He’ll be back when he realizes what he lost….” I was a little taken aback by the conversation for two reasons… One…. because here’s this lady is on the phone in a public place [loudly] having a conversation that most certainly should have been kept private. And two because……. Oh my gosh! Why is she telling her that when she’s obviously hurting -- like in serious emotional pain? But, beingthe mind your business girl that I am, I shook it off, grabbed my soap and went on my merry little way. In all honesty, the lady probably meant no harm and she clearly thought she was helping her friend; but the reality is when someone is going through a moment of despair the last thing she wants to hear is, “it could be worse.” The fact that it could be worse does not lessen the pain she’s feeling in that moment, does it? Of course not! She may stop crying and she may even get out of bed, but it’s not because she realizes that it could be worse. It’s because she just realized that her friend doesn’t care about her pain – or at least that what’s she’s thinking because her friend (unknowingly) implied that her feelings are not valid. So, she’s getting out of bed because now she’s got to prove to her friend that she’s bigger than this pain she’s experiencing. Ladies!!! We gotta stop doing this to each other. I talk to women everyday who are hurting, broken, struggling to recover from various traumas and tragedies – abuse, rape, rejection, death, break ups – pain that has left them feeling hopeless, worthless and un-loved. As a matter of fact, I used to be one of them. ...but they can’t get the healing they need because family, friends, society, religion have made them feel like they can’t feel what they’re feeling. Join Natty and I at the virtual table as we shed some light on how harmful our words can be when we're not sensitive to the trauma of others. And when you're finished, we'd love to hear your thoughts on how you support your friends and family when life happens unexpectedly. So, hop on over to Shades of Strong and share your story with us via voice message. OR Head on over toFACEBOOKorTWITTER,orINSTAGRAM@shadesofstrong and join the conversation by leaving us a comment or tweet. If you’re tweeting with us, be sure to use the hashtag #shadesofstrong. Happy listening peeps! SUBSCRIBE. RATE. REVIEW If you enjoyed this or previous episodes, head on over to

38 MINAUG 19
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Emotional Healing | Don’t Tell Me How to Heal PERIOD!

Sisterhood | They Smile in Your Face

... ♪♪ all the time they want to take your place ♪♪ We've seen a lot of the crab in the bucket mentality among African American females, and I'm not saying it doesn't exist in other communities -- I know it does, but like with all things that negatively impact us, the spotlight is often directed towards us more than others. Take for instance Nicki Minaj and Cardi B – I'm sure there are tons of other female singers and rappers that have beef with each other, but who's names constantly show up in the headlines? Nicki and Cardi, right? But even with black females being under constant ridicule for tearing each other down, I'm actually noticing that A LOT of us are recognizing that we're stronger together, so we're forging solid friendships and clinging to the sisterhood both on and offline. Black women are coming together to lift each other up and cheer each other own. We're tired of the whole super woman -- S on your chest mentality -- we're tired of being alone, hiding, living in shame and feeling disconnected. We ARE actually craving more meaningful connections with each other and I LOVE IT! But, here's the deal... ...if you don't surround yourself with the RIGHT people, you'll find yourself on the other side of sisterhood -- the side where betrayal, cattiness, competition, threats and gossip wreak havoc on your life. That's when sisterhood becomes toxic! ヅ And... That's the sisterhood I'm not here for! So, the question at hand is... WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN THE SISTERHOOD BECOMES TOXIC? How do you recover from it. OR Better yet, how do you keep it from happening? Tune in to this episode and get an earful as Natty and I talk about our personal experiences with betrayal and cattiness within friendships and on offer a few suggestions so that you don't find yourself in that same place. When you’ve soaked up all of the goodness that is this episode, hop on over to Shades of Strong and leave us a voice message telling us what you thought about it. OR Head on over toFACEBOOKorTWITTER,orINSTAGRAM@shadesofstrong and join the conversation. If you’re tweeting with us, be sure to use the hashtag #shadesofstrong. Happy listening peeps! SUBSCRIBE. RATE. REVIEW If you enjoyed this or previous episodes, head on over toApple Podcastsand SUBSCRIBE TO THE SHOW! And if you’re moved to do so, kindlyleave us a rating and review.Not sure how to do that? ClickHEREfor a quickhow to.

48 MINAUG 12
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Sisterhood | They Smile in Your Face