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Real Talk For Real Teachers with Dr. Becky Bailey

Dr. Becky Bailey

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Real Talk For Real Teachers with Dr. Becky Bailey

Real Talk For Real Teachers with Dr. Becky Bailey

Dr. Becky Bailey

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Listen in to this new bi-monthly podcast from Conscious Discipline creator, Dr. Becky Bailey. Together with Conscious Discipline Master and Certified Instructors and special guests, Becky explores trends in social-emotional learning and classroom management.

Latest Episodes

Shifting from Punishment to Discipline

Punishment is defined as the infliction of pain or loss upon a person for a misdeed. Research shows that when children are physically or verbally punished, effects include increased child aggression, increased antisocial behavior, reduced academic achievement, decreased quality of relationships, and mental health problems. Punishment also fails to teach internal control of one’s own behavior (also known as self-regulation). A child who is punished may learn to control or hide a behavior when they are being watched, but they will not learn to regulate their own behavior when no one is watching (and the threat of punishment is removed). For nearly 25 years, Conscious Discipline has offered alternatives to punishing children for misbehavior. Conscious Discipline is rooted in the belief that connection is the key to cooperation and that children need discipline, not punishment. Effective discipline requires us to recognize behavior as communication and to see misbehavior as a skill deficit rather than a sign of disrespect. In response, we teach the skills and strategies children need to regulate their own behavior for a lifetime—not just when someone is watching. In this podcast, you’ll hear from Christiaan Baarsma, who has facilitated the implementation of Conscious Discipline at a high school for children with special needs in the Netherlands. When Christiaan arrived, the school lacked safety and had a culture of fear and violence. Christiaan transformed the school’s “punishment room” into a “connection room.” He replaced the system of punishment and rewards with a Conscious Discipline-inspired system based on connection, safety and empathy. Listen in to learn more about how Christiaan led this shift—and how school culture was transformed. Essential Takeaways • The American Academy of Pediatrics encourages parents to use discipline strategies (to teach skills) instead of punishment. Research shows that punishment has a negative impact on mental health, academic achievement, and relationships. • Punishment does not teach internal control of one’s own behavior (self-regulation), and our most vulnerable children are punished at disproportionately high rates. • The goal is to help children be successful as opposed to punishing them for the skills they lack. • When Christiaan first implemented Conscious Discipline, most children arrived in the survival state. Today, after making connections and learning self-regulatory strategies, most come to the room in the emotional state. The school feels safer, and children are more willing to ask for help. Important Links • ConsciousDiscipline.com (https://consciousdiscipline.com/) • The Basics of the Conscious Discipline Brain State Model (https://consciousdiscipline.com/the-basics-of-the-conscious-discipline-brain-state-model/) • Conscious Discipline and Consequences (https://consciousdiscipline.com/e-learning/podcasts/podcast-episode027/) • Building Safety and Connection with High School Students (https://consciousdiscipline.com/e-learning/podcasts/podcast-episode036/) Show Outline 0:21 What is Conscious Discipline? 0:56 Introduction of topic 1:18 Definition of punishment and downsides to punishment 3:32 Introduction of guest Christiaan Baarsma 4:15 Christiaan’s role at the school and introduction to Conscious Discipline 5:56 How Christiaan began the process of shifting from punishment to discipline 7:19 From “punishment room” to “connection room” 10:05 Responding to initial resistance from colleagues 12:00 How Christiaan’s school has changed 16:42 What’s Becky up to? 16:56 What’s Becky celebrating? THANK YOU FOR LISTENING There are many ways you could have spent this time today, but you chose to spend it with me and I am grateful. If you enjoyed today’s show, please share it with others via your favorite social media platforms.

17 MINAPR 28
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Shifting from Punishment to Discipline

Creating Optimal Relationships for Optimal Learning

At its core, Conscious Discipline is a relationship program. Our brain is a social brain that develops through relationships. To change the brain for optimal learning, we must create optimal relationships. No matter how you choose to weave Conscious Discipline into your classroom, school or district, remember: As we improve relationships, we improve learning. In this podcast, you’ll hear from J.C. Commander, a dean of students for South Euclid-Lyndhurst City School District in Ohio. As the dean of students in a small district, J.C. wears many hats. Whether he’s working with students who are truant and their families, coaching basketball, or teaching breathing strategies to young children, J.C. puts relationships at the forefront. Listen in to learn how Conscious Discipline has helped J.C. and his district prioritize relationships in order to optimize learning. Essential Takeaways • Often, the reason children miss school is relationship-based. They may have social issues or lack r...

15 MINMAR 14
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Creating Optimal Relationships for Optimal Learning

The Importance of Composure

As a child, DJ Batiste didn’t have the skills he needed to behave or succeed in school. He was expelled from preschool and often kicked out of classrooms before becoming involved with gangs and increasingly serious trouble. During his senior year of high school, DJ’s life changed when he walked into the classroom of Donna Porter, a teacher implementing Conscious Discipline. For the first time, DJ had a teacher who didn’t tell him, “Get out.” Instead, she connected with him. That connection paved the way for DJ to learn valuable skills that he continues to use today. Listen in as DJ discusses the powerful impact of teachers, the vital skill of composure, and how teachers like you can connect with other “DJ’s” and change their life trajectory for the better. As DJ says, “Never question the power you have as a teacher… You can choose to create more success stories and less statistics.” Essential Takeaways • If a child is told he’s bad often enough, he begins to believe tha...

27 MINFEB 21
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The Importance of Composure

Weaving I Love You Rituals Into The Day

Episode Summary I Love You Rituals are playful, one-on-one interactions that build loving connections while increasing attention span, decreasing power struggles and promoting language and literacy at school or at home. These brain-building interactions facilitate optimal development for young children and create lifelong bonds between children and adults. If you’re interested in incorporating I Love You Rituals into your current classroom practices, you may wonder: Where should I start? How do I introduce I Love You Rituals? When in the world do I have time to teach them? Join Master Instructor Kim Hughes, a 30-plus year veteran of the education field, as she leads a session on making I Love You Rituals part of your day. Kim answers frequently asked questions about I Love You Rituals and shares valuable strategies and insight. As Kim says, “Conscious Discipline is not a second job. We weave all of this throughout the curriculum so you have a beautiful tapestry.” Essential Takeaw...

25 MINJAN 18
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Weaving I Love You Rituals Into The Day

Teaching Conflict Resolution to Young Children

In any classroom, conflict happens. And that’s an understatement—conflict occurs every day, all day long. Research shows that in Pre-K classrooms, 60 acts of intrusion occur per hour. If you want to save time for learning and connection, teaching conflict resolution to young children is essential. With Conscious Discipline, we foster a willingness to resolve conflicts by building a School Family. Then, we teach healthy conflict resolution skills like composure, assertiveness, and recognizing and managing triggers. Join Master Instructor Vicky Hepler as she leads a session on teaching conflict resolution in early childhood on this special episode of Real Talk for Real Teachers. With 37 years in education, Vicky draws on a wealth of experience as she shares actionable strategies, activities and coaching tips for transforming conflict and chaos to connection and cooperation. Essential Takeaways • For conflict resolution to be effective, we must foster the seeds of willingness by est...

21 MIN2019 DEC 17
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Teaching Conflict Resolution to Young Children

Healing After a Natural Disaster with Conscious Discipline

Conscious Discipline is both trauma-based and trauma-informed. It emphasizes optimal brain development for all children and adults, regardless of life experiences like chronic stress and trauma. There are three types of trauma: acute, chronic and complex. Acute trauma results from a singular instance, like a natural disaster. Alabama Pre-K teachers April Carr and Hillary Spratlin were faced with restoring safety after acute trauma when a major tornado struck the small community of Beauregard. Both teachers leaned on the powers and skills they had learned from Conscious Discipline to be of service, help children identify and regulate their emotions, and focus on empathy and helpfulness. In this podcast, April and Hillary share the steps they took to help young students and their families heal after a natural disaster. Read more about April’s experience with Conscious Discipline and restoring safety after a tornado in her article “My Conscious Discipline Journey: Taming Anxiety and ...

36 MIN2019 NOV 19
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Healing After a Natural Disaster with Conscious Discipline

Consequences vs. Punishments with High School Students

Effective consequences, rather than ineffective punishments, are embedded in Conscious Discipline. Unlike punishment, consequences teach children to solve problems, learn from mistakes, take responsibility and focus on learning a new skill. Understanding the logic behind choosing consequences instead of punishment is easy when we’re dealing with younger children. With older children, it becomes far more difficult. We believe, “They ought to know better by now.” In this episode, high school Social Studies teacher and Certified Instructor Steve Hummer shares how and why he uses consequences instead of punishments with his high school students. He also explains that he has found relationship-building and natural consequences to be far more effective than punishments, which often stigmatize children as bad and rarely deter them from repeating misbehavior. Learn alternative strategies to “punishment for the sake of punishment” that make a lasting positive difference with high school...

29 MIN2019 NOV 2
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Consequences vs. Punishments with High School Students

Fostering Self-Regulation in Self-Contained Classrooms

Since Dr. Becky Bailey started Conscious Discipline more than 20 years ago, it has played an integral role in supporting the development of children with special needs. Core tenets like safety, connection, self-regulation and social skills development are vital for all children, but they are especially helpful for children with special needs. In this episode, Katie Keller, a school social worker in Minnesota, discusses how she uses Feeling Buddies and Baby Doll Circle Time to build important skills in self-contained classrooms. She shares the powerful results she’s observed, including an improved ability to calm and soothe, increased empathy, and gentler play and interactions in the classroom. Essential Takeaways • Children who are aggressive with peers and/or toys learn to be kind, loving, and gentle with the baby dolls during Baby Doll Circle Time. • Baby Doll Circle Time also allows children to experience or recreate the connections they may not have had when they were younger...

17 MIN2019 OCT 22
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Fostering Self-Regulation in Self-Contained Classrooms

Conscious Discipline Implementation at a Migrant Head Start Program

Migrant farmworkers in the United States face many unique challenges. They earn an average total income of $15,000-$17,500 while working 10-12 hours a day for six days a week. Due to these long hours, parents have little quality time to spend with their children. They are exposed to toxic pesticides and often exploited. Migrant farmworkers are also transient, moving from place to place and often living in substandard conditions. Naturally, working with these families and their children presents unique challenges as well. Dr. Becky Bailey sat down with Gilda Gonzalez, the program coordinator for the Riverside County Office of Education Migrant Head Start in El Centro, California to discuss how Conscious Discipline can help address these issues. Listen in to learn about the challenges Gilda sees daily, how she’s working to implement Conscious Discipline, and why she calls it “a transformational program that works.” Essential Takeaways • The Migrant Head Start program sees children...

20 MIN2019 OCT 5
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Conscious Discipline Implementation at a Migrant Head Start Program

Wishing Well to Heal from Tragedy and Loss

After learning about Conscious Discipline at a workshop, teachers at Grove Hill Elementary knew that they wanted to implement it at their school. Principal Kathy Spidle saw their enthusiasm and quickly agreed. At the start of the following year, a four-year-old child in Julie Hoven and Miranda Richardson’s class was diagnosed with leukemia. Although Keith was only in their class for 1.5 days before receiving the diagnosis, Julie and Miranda knew that they wanted to include him in their School Family. Keith’s picture went up on the Wish Well Board, and his classmates wished him well every morning. They sent videos of the Wish Well Ritual to Keith and his family. After Keith passed away in December, the class made a We Remember Keith book, and students added Keith’s family to the Wish Well Board. The school planted a tree in his memory, with a sign that says, “Keith taught us to love and care for others.” In this episode, principal Kathy Spidle and teachers Julie Hoven and Mirand...

24 MIN2019 SEP 21
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Wishing Well to Heal from Tragedy and Loss

Latest Episodes

Shifting from Punishment to Discipline

Punishment is defined as the infliction of pain or loss upon a person for a misdeed. Research shows that when children are physically or verbally punished, effects include increased child aggression, increased antisocial behavior, reduced academic achievement, decreased quality of relationships, and mental health problems. Punishment also fails to teach internal control of one’s own behavior (also known as self-regulation). A child who is punished may learn to control or hide a behavior when they are being watched, but they will not learn to regulate their own behavior when no one is watching (and the threat of punishment is removed). For nearly 25 years, Conscious Discipline has offered alternatives to punishing children for misbehavior. Conscious Discipline is rooted in the belief that connection is the key to cooperation and that children need discipline, not punishment. Effective discipline requires us to recognize behavior as communication and to see misbehavior as a skill deficit rather than a sign of disrespect. In response, we teach the skills and strategies children need to regulate their own behavior for a lifetime—not just when someone is watching. In this podcast, you’ll hear from Christiaan Baarsma, who has facilitated the implementation of Conscious Discipline at a high school for children with special needs in the Netherlands. When Christiaan arrived, the school lacked safety and had a culture of fear and violence. Christiaan transformed the school’s “punishment room” into a “connection room.” He replaced the system of punishment and rewards with a Conscious Discipline-inspired system based on connection, safety and empathy. Listen in to learn more about how Christiaan led this shift—and how school culture was transformed. Essential Takeaways • The American Academy of Pediatrics encourages parents to use discipline strategies (to teach skills) instead of punishment. Research shows that punishment has a negative impact on mental health, academic achievement, and relationships. • Punishment does not teach internal control of one’s own behavior (self-regulation), and our most vulnerable children are punished at disproportionately high rates. • The goal is to help children be successful as opposed to punishing them for the skills they lack. • When Christiaan first implemented Conscious Discipline, most children arrived in the survival state. Today, after making connections and learning self-regulatory strategies, most come to the room in the emotional state. The school feels safer, and children are more willing to ask for help. Important Links • ConsciousDiscipline.com (https://consciousdiscipline.com/) • The Basics of the Conscious Discipline Brain State Model (https://consciousdiscipline.com/the-basics-of-the-conscious-discipline-brain-state-model/) • Conscious Discipline and Consequences (https://consciousdiscipline.com/e-learning/podcasts/podcast-episode027/) • Building Safety and Connection with High School Students (https://consciousdiscipline.com/e-learning/podcasts/podcast-episode036/) Show Outline 0:21 What is Conscious Discipline? 0:56 Introduction of topic 1:18 Definition of punishment and downsides to punishment 3:32 Introduction of guest Christiaan Baarsma 4:15 Christiaan’s role at the school and introduction to Conscious Discipline 5:56 How Christiaan began the process of shifting from punishment to discipline 7:19 From “punishment room” to “connection room” 10:05 Responding to initial resistance from colleagues 12:00 How Christiaan’s school has changed 16:42 What’s Becky up to? 16:56 What’s Becky celebrating? THANK YOU FOR LISTENING There are many ways you could have spent this time today, but you chose to spend it with me and I am grateful. If you enjoyed today’s show, please share it with others via your favorite social media platforms.

17 MINAPR 28
Comments
Shifting from Punishment to Discipline

Creating Optimal Relationships for Optimal Learning

At its core, Conscious Discipline is a relationship program. Our brain is a social brain that develops through relationships. To change the brain for optimal learning, we must create optimal relationships. No matter how you choose to weave Conscious Discipline into your classroom, school or district, remember: As we improve relationships, we improve learning. In this podcast, you’ll hear from J.C. Commander, a dean of students for South Euclid-Lyndhurst City School District in Ohio. As the dean of students in a small district, J.C. wears many hats. Whether he’s working with students who are truant and their families, coaching basketball, or teaching breathing strategies to young children, J.C. puts relationships at the forefront. Listen in to learn how Conscious Discipline has helped J.C. and his district prioritize relationships in order to optimize learning. Essential Takeaways • Often, the reason children miss school is relationship-based. They may have social issues or lack r...

15 MINMAR 14
Comments
Creating Optimal Relationships for Optimal Learning

The Importance of Composure

As a child, DJ Batiste didn’t have the skills he needed to behave or succeed in school. He was expelled from preschool and often kicked out of classrooms before becoming involved with gangs and increasingly serious trouble. During his senior year of high school, DJ’s life changed when he walked into the classroom of Donna Porter, a teacher implementing Conscious Discipline. For the first time, DJ had a teacher who didn’t tell him, “Get out.” Instead, she connected with him. That connection paved the way for DJ to learn valuable skills that he continues to use today. Listen in as DJ discusses the powerful impact of teachers, the vital skill of composure, and how teachers like you can connect with other “DJ’s” and change their life trajectory for the better. As DJ says, “Never question the power you have as a teacher… You can choose to create more success stories and less statistics.” Essential Takeaways • If a child is told he’s bad often enough, he begins to believe tha...

27 MINFEB 21
Comments
The Importance of Composure

Weaving I Love You Rituals Into The Day

Episode Summary I Love You Rituals are playful, one-on-one interactions that build loving connections while increasing attention span, decreasing power struggles and promoting language and literacy at school or at home. These brain-building interactions facilitate optimal development for young children and create lifelong bonds between children and adults. If you’re interested in incorporating I Love You Rituals into your current classroom practices, you may wonder: Where should I start? How do I introduce I Love You Rituals? When in the world do I have time to teach them? Join Master Instructor Kim Hughes, a 30-plus year veteran of the education field, as she leads a session on making I Love You Rituals part of your day. Kim answers frequently asked questions about I Love You Rituals and shares valuable strategies and insight. As Kim says, “Conscious Discipline is not a second job. We weave all of this throughout the curriculum so you have a beautiful tapestry.” Essential Takeaw...

25 MINJAN 18
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Weaving I Love You Rituals Into The Day

Teaching Conflict Resolution to Young Children

In any classroom, conflict happens. And that’s an understatement—conflict occurs every day, all day long. Research shows that in Pre-K classrooms, 60 acts of intrusion occur per hour. If you want to save time for learning and connection, teaching conflict resolution to young children is essential. With Conscious Discipline, we foster a willingness to resolve conflicts by building a School Family. Then, we teach healthy conflict resolution skills like composure, assertiveness, and recognizing and managing triggers. Join Master Instructor Vicky Hepler as she leads a session on teaching conflict resolution in early childhood on this special episode of Real Talk for Real Teachers. With 37 years in education, Vicky draws on a wealth of experience as she shares actionable strategies, activities and coaching tips for transforming conflict and chaos to connection and cooperation. Essential Takeaways • For conflict resolution to be effective, we must foster the seeds of willingness by est...

21 MIN2019 DEC 17
Comments
Teaching Conflict Resolution to Young Children

Healing After a Natural Disaster with Conscious Discipline

Conscious Discipline is both trauma-based and trauma-informed. It emphasizes optimal brain development for all children and adults, regardless of life experiences like chronic stress and trauma. There are three types of trauma: acute, chronic and complex. Acute trauma results from a singular instance, like a natural disaster. Alabama Pre-K teachers April Carr and Hillary Spratlin were faced with restoring safety after acute trauma when a major tornado struck the small community of Beauregard. Both teachers leaned on the powers and skills they had learned from Conscious Discipline to be of service, help children identify and regulate their emotions, and focus on empathy and helpfulness. In this podcast, April and Hillary share the steps they took to help young students and their families heal after a natural disaster. Read more about April’s experience with Conscious Discipline and restoring safety after a tornado in her article “My Conscious Discipline Journey: Taming Anxiety and ...

36 MIN2019 NOV 19
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Healing After a Natural Disaster with Conscious Discipline

Consequences vs. Punishments with High School Students

Effective consequences, rather than ineffective punishments, are embedded in Conscious Discipline. Unlike punishment, consequences teach children to solve problems, learn from mistakes, take responsibility and focus on learning a new skill. Understanding the logic behind choosing consequences instead of punishment is easy when we’re dealing with younger children. With older children, it becomes far more difficult. We believe, “They ought to know better by now.” In this episode, high school Social Studies teacher and Certified Instructor Steve Hummer shares how and why he uses consequences instead of punishments with his high school students. He also explains that he has found relationship-building and natural consequences to be far more effective than punishments, which often stigmatize children as bad and rarely deter them from repeating misbehavior. Learn alternative strategies to “punishment for the sake of punishment” that make a lasting positive difference with high school...

29 MIN2019 NOV 2
Comments
Consequences vs. Punishments with High School Students

Fostering Self-Regulation in Self-Contained Classrooms

Since Dr. Becky Bailey started Conscious Discipline more than 20 years ago, it has played an integral role in supporting the development of children with special needs. Core tenets like safety, connection, self-regulation and social skills development are vital for all children, but they are especially helpful for children with special needs. In this episode, Katie Keller, a school social worker in Minnesota, discusses how she uses Feeling Buddies and Baby Doll Circle Time to build important skills in self-contained classrooms. She shares the powerful results she’s observed, including an improved ability to calm and soothe, increased empathy, and gentler play and interactions in the classroom. Essential Takeaways • Children who are aggressive with peers and/or toys learn to be kind, loving, and gentle with the baby dolls during Baby Doll Circle Time. • Baby Doll Circle Time also allows children to experience or recreate the connections they may not have had when they were younger...

17 MIN2019 OCT 22
Comments
Fostering Self-Regulation in Self-Contained Classrooms

Conscious Discipline Implementation at a Migrant Head Start Program

Migrant farmworkers in the United States face many unique challenges. They earn an average total income of $15,000-$17,500 while working 10-12 hours a day for six days a week. Due to these long hours, parents have little quality time to spend with their children. They are exposed to toxic pesticides and often exploited. Migrant farmworkers are also transient, moving from place to place and often living in substandard conditions. Naturally, working with these families and their children presents unique challenges as well. Dr. Becky Bailey sat down with Gilda Gonzalez, the program coordinator for the Riverside County Office of Education Migrant Head Start in El Centro, California to discuss how Conscious Discipline can help address these issues. Listen in to learn about the challenges Gilda sees daily, how she’s working to implement Conscious Discipline, and why she calls it “a transformational program that works.” Essential Takeaways • The Migrant Head Start program sees children...

20 MIN2019 OCT 5
Comments
Conscious Discipline Implementation at a Migrant Head Start Program

Wishing Well to Heal from Tragedy and Loss

After learning about Conscious Discipline at a workshop, teachers at Grove Hill Elementary knew that they wanted to implement it at their school. Principal Kathy Spidle saw their enthusiasm and quickly agreed. At the start of the following year, a four-year-old child in Julie Hoven and Miranda Richardson’s class was diagnosed with leukemia. Although Keith was only in their class for 1.5 days before receiving the diagnosis, Julie and Miranda knew that they wanted to include him in their School Family. Keith’s picture went up on the Wish Well Board, and his classmates wished him well every morning. They sent videos of the Wish Well Ritual to Keith and his family. After Keith passed away in December, the class made a We Remember Keith book, and students added Keith’s family to the Wish Well Board. The school planted a tree in his memory, with a sign that says, “Keith taught us to love and care for others.” In this episode, principal Kathy Spidle and teachers Julie Hoven and Mirand...

24 MIN2019 SEP 21
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Wishing Well to Heal from Tragedy and Loss
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