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The Recovery Show » Finding serenity through 12 step recovery in Al-Anon – a podcast

The Recovery Show » Finding serenity through 12 step recovery in Al-Anon – a podcast

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12-step recovery for those of us who love alcoholics or addicts. We share our experience, strength, and hope as we use the principles of the Al-Anon program in our lives. We talk openly and honestly about the problems and challenges as we face alcoholism and addiction in our friends and relatives. We share the tools and solutions we have found that let us live a life that is serene, happy, and free, even when the alcoholic or addict is still drinking or using.

Latest Episodes

More voices – your sharing – 319

Sharing experience, strength, and hope in your voices. * Thoughts on apologies and amends.* A mother wants to help her adult son who drinks too much.* A survivor muses on the possible benefits of trauma.* What is this detachment thing, anyway?* Learning to talk, trust, and feel when the family “training” was “don't talk, don't trust, don't feel.”* Thoughts and experience inspired by episode 318, A Walk in the Woods on a Snowy Day — the healing force of nature, how our higher power speaks to us, and the power of memory.* Recovery from anger and loss.* Compassion – finding it.* Loved one in rehab / coming home from rehab. How to deal?* Sharing on changes, Steps 10 and 11, and “First things first.”* 3 acronyms for FEAR. Readings and Links Listener shares brought up so many past episodes: * Parents Roundtable – 22* Compassion – 33* Step 9, Amends – 40* Chaos – 45* Changes –47* Step 10 –48* Step 11 – 50* First things First –51* Relapse – 59* Detachment – 64* Living with Alcoholism or Addiction – 70* Powerlessness and Power – 160* My Codependency, My Body – 204* Mary Pearl T on Step 1 –259* Marc and Michele’s son is in prison – 287* Jennifer – Free from Obsession – 302* Being Heard – 313 Upcoming topics Our topic for next week is“surrender”. What does surrender mean to you? How has surrendering given you power? Please call us at 734-707-8795 or emailfeedback@therecovery.showwith your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here. Music from the Show blink-182 – Not Now

54 MIN3 d ago
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More voices – your sharing – 319

A Walk in the Woods on a Snowy Day — 318

Saturday morning, I awoke to fresh snow. I had a fairly hectic and noisy time going to the gym, getting ready for the day, etc. Then I stepped out into a lovely, hushed silence. I decided I needed more of that, and later went to a nature area for a walk in the woods. I share a brief reflection on what I found there. Upcoming topics An upcoming topic is “dual program members.” If you are in a program other than Al-Anon (plus Al-Anon), I'd love to hear your experience. How do the programs complement each other? How are they different? Please call us at 734-707-8795 or emailfeedback@therecovery.showwith your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.

7 MIN1 w ago
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A Walk in the Woods on a Snowy Day — 318

Peggy G – Speaker – 317

Today, I’m sharing with you a talk by Peggy G. I hope you’ll enjoy Peggy’s sense of humor as much as I did. Peggy talks about feeling rejected as a child and about getting married early after “finding love in the back seat of a Ford.” She felt she had a “hole in her gut” and tried many things to fill it (booze didn’t do the trick for her.) She speaks of, for the first time, being desperate enough to make “a sincere prayer to the God I didn’t understand.” Eventually, she found her second husband, “Mr. Wonderful”. Of course, he was an alcoholic. I’m sure some of you will identify with each of the things she did to try to get him to stop drinking. And when she felt “I wish [he’d] just get, just get dead somewhere without hurting anybody else.” You may be right there with her when she hit her bottom after an emotional blackout. But of course, that’s not the end of her story, it’s the beginning of the rest of it. I had tears in my eyes when she described finding compas...

105 MIN2 w ago
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Peggy G – Speaker – 317

Men in Al-Anon –316

Men are a minority in Al-Anon. Is this a problem? An asset? What is your experience? Join Spencer and several guests, both men and women, as we share our experience. Some of the topics we address are these: * What is your experience as a man in Al-Anon?* What difficulties and challenges have you experienced?* Did you feel you didn’t belong?* Or do you feel perfectly comfortable and accepted?* Were you able to find a sponsor?* What boundaries have you set for yourself with members of the “opposite sex?” (Recognizing that not all people fit comfortably into the gender binary.)* Does the presence of men in a meeting inhibit you from sharing or does it enhance your experience? Readings and Links A listener asked about the experience of atheists in Al-Anon. I remembered listening to an interview on the Sober Speak podcast with an AA member who leads an Atheist AA meeting. Upcoming topics I'm still welcoming shares by “dual program members”. If you are in another twelve step program,...

67 MIN3 w ago
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Men in Al-Anon –316

Belonging — 315

The only requirement for membership in Al-Anon is that there is a problem of alcoholism in a relative or friend. How many other groups are so inclusive? How does this help you? How is this a challenge for you? Today is MLK day, the celebration of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr’s birthday. Perhaps naturally, my thoughts turned to the ideas of inclusion, diversity, and belonging. And from there, to how inclusive the Al-Anon program is. Our third tradition says, in part, “The only requirement for membership is that there be a problem of alcoholism in a relative or friend.” * What did this mean for me when I first came to Al-Anon?* How have I seen this tradition work for others when they first come to Al-Anon?* How does the diversity of experience and opinion support my recovery?* Can I recognize our similarities instead of focusing on our differences?* How do I know that I belong in my Al-Anon groups? Readings and Links We read from Courage to Change, July 4, and How Al-Anon Works, Chapt...

49 MINJAN 21
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Belonging — 315

Integrity – 314

What is integrity and what does it have to do with recovery? * Definitions* the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles; moral uprightness* the state of being whole and undivided* “the root of integrity is about doing the right thing even when it’s not acknowledged by others, or convenient for you.” (Psychology Today article)* “In ethics, integrity is regarded as the honesty and truthfulness or accuracy of one's actions.” (Wikipedia)* In episode 101, I said that for me, having integrity means that “I act in all things according to my true self. I state my beliefs honestly and openly.” Recently, I was thinking about this topic, and also about how I have not lived with integrity. And then, I thought about how practicing the 12 steps has brought me closer to living with integrity in all my affairs. What are some of the ways in which I did not practice integrity? * Denial vs acceptance. When I deny the truth of reality, I am not being honest with myself, no mat...

47 MINJAN 14
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Integrity – 314

Being Heard – 313

Is your voice heard, even when others disagree? Why is it important that everyone has an opportunity to be heard? How do you practice listening in your life? Meetings? Family? Work? Concept 5 states “The rights of appeal and petition protect minorities and insure that they be heard.” Spencer and Eric share how this concept can be applied in our lives, as well as in our meetings. * Definitions.* “Listening intently is the ultimate form of love.”* Listen – give one’s attention to a sound; take notice of; act on what someone says; pay attention; take heed; take notice; be alert and ready to hear something.* Speaking out or up – express one’s feelings and opinions frankly and publicly* People in the rooms can take a long time to speak up, to feel safe to speak* It’s ok to have an opinion, even when it differs from others’* Two largest fears: 1. Public speaking. 2. Death (is second!)* Aspects of practicing Concept 5:* Balance* Listening* “Do we grant other people the time to s...

96 MINJAN 9
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Being Heard – 313

Bill W with Lois W, Ebby T, Sister Ignatius and Mort J — 312

I'm pleased to share this recording of Bill Wilson, co-founder of AA, speaking at the AA International Convention in Long Beach, CA, in 1960. The recording includes brief remarks by Lois Wilson, co-founder of Al-Anon; Ebby T, who introduced Bill to the Oxford groups; and Sister Ignatia, an early supporter of AA, who cared for thousands of alcoholics in Akron, Ohio. He is followed by Mort J, who established the first public AA meeting in Los Angeles. I have tried to clean up the recording as best I can, but it is still difficult to follow in spots. The event must have been outside, because you will hear an occasional airplane flying over. Links and resources A listener mentioned looking for an ACA phone meeting, which can be found on the ACA website. Upcoming topics Next week, Eric and I will be discussing Concept 5, “The rights of appeal and petition protect minorities and insure that they be heard.” Eric recently participated in a meeting studying this concept and was inspired by...

107 MIN2019 DEC 31
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Bill W with Lois W, Ebby T, Sister Ignatius and Mort J — 312

Holiday Toolkit – 311

What’s in your holiday toolkit? Do you dread spending holidays with family? What tools have you found to make the experience tolerable or even joyful? * (Realistic) expectations.* Recognize when you are feeling stressed (HALTS?)* Escape plans.* Literature.* Locate and plan to attend meetings if you will be out of your usual area.* Phone list.* Arrange with sponsor or friends to call them.* Don’t stay with your family — have a refuge you can go back to.* Sit at the kids table.* Don’t engage in arguments. (WAIT — Why am I talking?)* (No) expectations.* Keep your recovery routines, such as prayer and meditation. Readings and Links Al-Anon e-books can are available. Visit the Al-Anon store for details. A caller described several resources for visually impaired or blind people. These are * BARD, a free app available from the Library of Congress .* Voice Dream Reader, $20, downloads and reads websites.* iPhone has a service called “voice over” that can read books purchased for iBoo...

64 MIN2019 DEC 24
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Holiday Toolkit – 311

Your voices — 310

This episode is created by your voices, both written and recorded. * Sam asks why some members shy away from service, while she finds it a vital part of her recovery.* Penelope and Jessica found value in Episode 308, Program Tools.* Natalie asks for some experience, strength, and hope, living with active alcoholism while maintaining a healthy relationship. Ann has similar questions, including how to keep the children safe, and what does detaching with love look like?* Sarah talks about the slogan “little by slow,” which I was not familiar with, and how it reminds her that recovery takes time.* A listener asked about the missing download link, which I have restored. It now looks like a little cloud with a downward pointing arrow.* Amy asks about Al-Anon e-books. There are 5 books currently available, and I hope that Al-Anon will add more. They are available via the Al-Anon website store.* How Al-Anon Works* Courage to Change* Having had a Spiritual Awakening* The Forum (monthly mag...

31 MIN2019 DEC 12
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Your voices — 310

Latest Episodes

More voices – your sharing – 319

Sharing experience, strength, and hope in your voices. * Thoughts on apologies and amends.* A mother wants to help her adult son who drinks too much.* A survivor muses on the possible benefits of trauma.* What is this detachment thing, anyway?* Learning to talk, trust, and feel when the family “training” was “don't talk, don't trust, don't feel.”* Thoughts and experience inspired by episode 318, A Walk in the Woods on a Snowy Day — the healing force of nature, how our higher power speaks to us, and the power of memory.* Recovery from anger and loss.* Compassion – finding it.* Loved one in rehab / coming home from rehab. How to deal?* Sharing on changes, Steps 10 and 11, and “First things first.”* 3 acronyms for FEAR. Readings and Links Listener shares brought up so many past episodes: * Parents Roundtable – 22* Compassion – 33* Step 9, Amends – 40* Chaos – 45* Changes –47* Step 10 –48* Step 11 – 50* First things First –51* Relapse – 59* Detachment – 64* Living with Alcoholism or Addiction – 70* Powerlessness and Power – 160* My Codependency, My Body – 204* Mary Pearl T on Step 1 –259* Marc and Michele’s son is in prison – 287* Jennifer – Free from Obsession – 302* Being Heard – 313 Upcoming topics Our topic for next week is“surrender”. What does surrender mean to you? How has surrendering given you power? Please call us at 734-707-8795 or emailfeedback@therecovery.showwith your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here. Music from the Show blink-182 – Not Now

54 MIN3 d ago
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More voices – your sharing – 319

A Walk in the Woods on a Snowy Day — 318

Saturday morning, I awoke to fresh snow. I had a fairly hectic and noisy time going to the gym, getting ready for the day, etc. Then I stepped out into a lovely, hushed silence. I decided I needed more of that, and later went to a nature area for a walk in the woods. I share a brief reflection on what I found there. Upcoming topics An upcoming topic is “dual program members.” If you are in a program other than Al-Anon (plus Al-Anon), I'd love to hear your experience. How do the programs complement each other? How are they different? Please call us at 734-707-8795 or emailfeedback@therecovery.showwith your questions or experience, strength and hope. Or just leave a comment right here.

7 MIN1 w ago
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A Walk in the Woods on a Snowy Day — 318

Peggy G – Speaker – 317

Today, I’m sharing with you a talk by Peggy G. I hope you’ll enjoy Peggy’s sense of humor as much as I did. Peggy talks about feeling rejected as a child and about getting married early after “finding love in the back seat of a Ford.” She felt she had a “hole in her gut” and tried many things to fill it (booze didn’t do the trick for her.) She speaks of, for the first time, being desperate enough to make “a sincere prayer to the God I didn’t understand.” Eventually, she found her second husband, “Mr. Wonderful”. Of course, he was an alcoholic. I’m sure some of you will identify with each of the things she did to try to get him to stop drinking. And when she felt “I wish [he’d] just get, just get dead somewhere without hurting anybody else.” You may be right there with her when she hit her bottom after an emotional blackout. But of course, that’s not the end of her story, it’s the beginning of the rest of it. I had tears in my eyes when she described finding compas...

105 MIN2 w ago
Comments
Peggy G – Speaker – 317

Men in Al-Anon –316

Men are a minority in Al-Anon. Is this a problem? An asset? What is your experience? Join Spencer and several guests, both men and women, as we share our experience. Some of the topics we address are these: * What is your experience as a man in Al-Anon?* What difficulties and challenges have you experienced?* Did you feel you didn’t belong?* Or do you feel perfectly comfortable and accepted?* Were you able to find a sponsor?* What boundaries have you set for yourself with members of the “opposite sex?” (Recognizing that not all people fit comfortably into the gender binary.)* Does the presence of men in a meeting inhibit you from sharing or does it enhance your experience? Readings and Links A listener asked about the experience of atheists in Al-Anon. I remembered listening to an interview on the Sober Speak podcast with an AA member who leads an Atheist AA meeting. Upcoming topics I'm still welcoming shares by “dual program members”. If you are in another twelve step program,...

67 MIN3 w ago
Comments
Men in Al-Anon –316

Belonging — 315

The only requirement for membership in Al-Anon is that there is a problem of alcoholism in a relative or friend. How many other groups are so inclusive? How does this help you? How is this a challenge for you? Today is MLK day, the celebration of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr’s birthday. Perhaps naturally, my thoughts turned to the ideas of inclusion, diversity, and belonging. And from there, to how inclusive the Al-Anon program is. Our third tradition says, in part, “The only requirement for membership is that there be a problem of alcoholism in a relative or friend.” * What did this mean for me when I first came to Al-Anon?* How have I seen this tradition work for others when they first come to Al-Anon?* How does the diversity of experience and opinion support my recovery?* Can I recognize our similarities instead of focusing on our differences?* How do I know that I belong in my Al-Anon groups? Readings and Links We read from Courage to Change, July 4, and How Al-Anon Works, Chapt...

49 MINJAN 21
Comments
Belonging — 315

Integrity – 314

What is integrity and what does it have to do with recovery? * Definitions* the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles; moral uprightness* the state of being whole and undivided* “the root of integrity is about doing the right thing even when it’s not acknowledged by others, or convenient for you.” (Psychology Today article)* “In ethics, integrity is regarded as the honesty and truthfulness or accuracy of one's actions.” (Wikipedia)* In episode 101, I said that for me, having integrity means that “I act in all things according to my true self. I state my beliefs honestly and openly.” Recently, I was thinking about this topic, and also about how I have not lived with integrity. And then, I thought about how practicing the 12 steps has brought me closer to living with integrity in all my affairs. What are some of the ways in which I did not practice integrity? * Denial vs acceptance. When I deny the truth of reality, I am not being honest with myself, no mat...

47 MINJAN 14
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Integrity – 314

Being Heard – 313

Is your voice heard, even when others disagree? Why is it important that everyone has an opportunity to be heard? How do you practice listening in your life? Meetings? Family? Work? Concept 5 states “The rights of appeal and petition protect minorities and insure that they be heard.” Spencer and Eric share how this concept can be applied in our lives, as well as in our meetings. * Definitions.* “Listening intently is the ultimate form of love.”* Listen – give one’s attention to a sound; take notice of; act on what someone says; pay attention; take heed; take notice; be alert and ready to hear something.* Speaking out or up – express one’s feelings and opinions frankly and publicly* People in the rooms can take a long time to speak up, to feel safe to speak* It’s ok to have an opinion, even when it differs from others’* Two largest fears: 1. Public speaking. 2. Death (is second!)* Aspects of practicing Concept 5:* Balance* Listening* “Do we grant other people the time to s...

96 MINJAN 9
Comments
Being Heard – 313

Bill W with Lois W, Ebby T, Sister Ignatius and Mort J — 312

I'm pleased to share this recording of Bill Wilson, co-founder of AA, speaking at the AA International Convention in Long Beach, CA, in 1960. The recording includes brief remarks by Lois Wilson, co-founder of Al-Anon; Ebby T, who introduced Bill to the Oxford groups; and Sister Ignatia, an early supporter of AA, who cared for thousands of alcoholics in Akron, Ohio. He is followed by Mort J, who established the first public AA meeting in Los Angeles. I have tried to clean up the recording as best I can, but it is still difficult to follow in spots. The event must have been outside, because you will hear an occasional airplane flying over. Links and resources A listener mentioned looking for an ACA phone meeting, which can be found on the ACA website. Upcoming topics Next week, Eric and I will be discussing Concept 5, “The rights of appeal and petition protect minorities and insure that they be heard.” Eric recently participated in a meeting studying this concept and was inspired by...

107 MIN2019 DEC 31
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Bill W with Lois W, Ebby T, Sister Ignatius and Mort J — 312

Holiday Toolkit – 311

What’s in your holiday toolkit? Do you dread spending holidays with family? What tools have you found to make the experience tolerable or even joyful? * (Realistic) expectations.* Recognize when you are feeling stressed (HALTS?)* Escape plans.* Literature.* Locate and plan to attend meetings if you will be out of your usual area.* Phone list.* Arrange with sponsor or friends to call them.* Don’t stay with your family — have a refuge you can go back to.* Sit at the kids table.* Don’t engage in arguments. (WAIT — Why am I talking?)* (No) expectations.* Keep your recovery routines, such as prayer and meditation. Readings and Links Al-Anon e-books can are available. Visit the Al-Anon store for details. A caller described several resources for visually impaired or blind people. These are * BARD, a free app available from the Library of Congress .* Voice Dream Reader, $20, downloads and reads websites.* iPhone has a service called “voice over” that can read books purchased for iBoo...

64 MIN2019 DEC 24
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Holiday Toolkit – 311

Your voices — 310

This episode is created by your voices, both written and recorded. * Sam asks why some members shy away from service, while she finds it a vital part of her recovery.* Penelope and Jessica found value in Episode 308, Program Tools.* Natalie asks for some experience, strength, and hope, living with active alcoholism while maintaining a healthy relationship. Ann has similar questions, including how to keep the children safe, and what does detaching with love look like?* Sarah talks about the slogan “little by slow,” which I was not familiar with, and how it reminds her that recovery takes time.* A listener asked about the missing download link, which I have restored. It now looks like a little cloud with a downward pointing arrow.* Amy asks about Al-Anon e-books. There are 5 books currently available, and I hope that Al-Anon will add more. They are available via the Al-Anon website store.* How Al-Anon Works* Courage to Change* Having had a Spiritual Awakening* The Forum (monthly mag...

31 MIN2019 DEC 12
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Your voices — 310
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