Applying Awareness Podcast
You just failed.
Now what? How do you react? What are some methods you can use to learn from the experience?
In this episode, I'm going to tie together some stories of people who learned from failure to launch themselves to success. I'm going to break down the factors at work, and how we all can use the valuable lessons we get from failure in order to blast off to a whole other level.
I'll also discuss my own failure as a co-founder of a startup, and how I try to implement the lessons I see in hindsight in my work now.
What were the actions I took that allowed me to build that template? What are some methods that allowed me to catch things that would otherwise fall through the cracks?
1. Acceptance. I didn't hate myself for failing. I actually was satisfied on what I managed to create in the circumstances.
2. Consistent reflection. Ask why you failed. Then ask why again a few days later. Then again after a few weeks. It takes a little while for some insights to percolate in your brain. Give it time and don't try to dump all at once.
3. Keep the artifacts. I still have all my design files from BuildingBlox. There are hundreds of screens, and a design system that I made from scratch! It serves as a good reminder that while the ultimate goal of building a successful company didn't come to fruition, the process was something to be cherished and kept for future reference.
While there's ways to learn from professional failure, learning from personal failure is more important.
One of my friends, Jason Lloye has reached self-described rock bottom. He failed in his personal life and failed in loving and caring for himself. Here's a clip of the conversation I've had with him:
So what can we learn from Jason?
There were a few main things for me.
1. Love yourself through whatever personal speed bumps you hit throughout life. That foundation of self-love sets the tone for continued progress and striving.
2. Be OK with rawness! With nuance undefined life circumstances! Sometimes people think they have control of everything, but that's far from the truth. A plan is good, but flexibility when the plan falls a part is even better.
3. Find what led to your rock bottom. Reminiscing can be very painful, but can lead to exponential growth when put into the context of learning.
Other tasty treats
Mark Metry - Write down failures at the end of the week
Mitch Thomas - Look for the opportunities that open up when others fail