“The BDSM Test” is infamous in the kink community and beyond. Since 2014, thousands have proudly posted results like a badge of honor on FetLife profiles. We use it as a roadmap, educational tool, and kink negotiation starter. It’s even gone vanilla as the focus of social media challenges and pop magazine writeups. But is this kink subculture phenomenon all it's cracked up to be? While some find it helpful & validating, many say it’s othering, stigmatizing, and normalizes red-flag behavior disguised as “kink.” Midori & kinky therapist Joe Zarate-Sanderlin join us on ep 192 to deconstruct the BDSM test question by question + explore its wider impact. Why don't we scrutinize it the same way vet other educational sources? Who wrote this kink test, why, and what are they using the massive amount of data they’re collecting about our deviant desires for? Turns out, it’s a bit of a mystery… Midori Bio “Your Fairy God-Auntie of Kink. Exploding Expectations. Challenging Conventions.” Trailblazing educator, sexologist, artist, and irritant to banality, Midori founded Rope Dojo and ForteFemme: Women’s Dominance Intensive. She penned the first English instruction book on Shibari, “Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage” in 2001, paving the way for the popularity of rope. Dan Savage calls her the “Super Nova of Kink,” while others affectionately call her Auntie Midori for her cool, tell-it-like-it-is, funny, reality-based teaching. She is also the author of “Wild Side Sex,” “Master Han’s Daughter,” and “Silk Threads.” Education, Coaching, Private Learning & Art: https://planetmidori.com. Special membership perks! Learn, laugh, and enjoy her special online classes, events, and art at www.patreon.com/PlanetMidori where she is working on her next shibari book! Joe Zarate-Sanderlin Bio "Joe Zarate-Sanderlin, an Assigned Male at Birth non-binary person (pronouns: they/them/theirs), came of age in the New York City kink scene in the late 1990s and early 2000s and they have connections in the Boston and San Francisco kink communities. They are a California Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a private practice in San Francisco where they specialize in working with gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity. They teach several courses at Golden Gate University and were recognized as an Outstanding Adjunct Professor for 2022. They provide training and consultation regarding Talking to Clients about Sex, Gender in Psychotherapy, Open Relationships, BDSM Relationships, and other topics. In addition to private practice, their clinical experience includes being supervised by Dossie Easton for two and half years plus volunteering at a Catholic school for three years, a continuation high school for one year, and at a low-fee clinic for four years. They worked for the Burning Man Emergency Services Department for ten years, both in the Nevada desert and in the streets of San Francisco. In their spare time, they ski, coach and referee soccer, brew kombucha, dance to 80s music, and parent elementary-aged old twins." Episode 192 Links Midori Twitterhttps://twitter.com/PlanetMidori Midori Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/planetmidori/ Midori Newsletterhttps://www.fhp-inc.com/newsletter Midori class/event calendarhttp://www.FHP-Inc.com/classes Midori’s Patreonhttps://www.patreon.com/PlanetMidori/ Joe Zarate-Sanderlin Twitter https://twitter.com/jzsmft Joe Zarate-Sanderlin Website http://www.jzsmft.com/ Joe Zarate-Sanderlin Email: joe@jzsmft.com Joe Zarate-Sanderlin GGU Presents: Empathic Communication https://tinyurl.com/GGU-Empathy Joe Zarate-Sanderlin Gender Inclusive Language https://tinyurl.com/GGU-Gender Joe Zarate-Sanderlin Rebel Therapist: Express Yourself https://rebeltherapist.me/podcast/93 The BDSM Test http://BDSMTest.org @FocusedOnInfinity “Welcome to America” https://www.tiktok.com/@focusedoninfinity/video/711301...
Kink & BDSM stigma is alive and well in the mainstream, in our own communities, and even in professional/academic spheres. In episode 191 of American Sex Podcast, Sunny Megatron busts some of the most common kink myths + provides clinical & academic resources for therapists, academics, and skeptical naysayers. She deconstructs the following kink & BDSM myths: Kink is always sexual and platonic kink does not exist Kink is considered abnormal by psychologists & the scientific community There's a dramatic difference between academic/clinical understanding of kink (that's always more accurate) and BDSM community education Dark age play aka sexual littles' play is abusive and reenacting pedophilia Kink practitioners engage in unhealthy self-harm by proxy and/or glorify abuse Kinks are caused by unresolved trauma … and more! Sunny Megatron Bio Sunny Megatron is an award-winning BDSM & Certified Sexuality Educator, Certified Relationship Coach, and media personality. She’s the host and executive producer of the Showtime original television series, SEX with Sunny Megatron, plus co-hosts AASECT Award-winning American Sex Podcast and Open Deeply Podcast. Sunny was also named XBIZ Sexpert of the Year 2021 and is Editor-in-Chief of Zipper Magazine. Known for her one-of-a-kind build-your-own-adventure approach to sex, kink & relationships, Sunny coined the BDSM community catch-phrase, Kink is Customizable. In her sell-out workshops, her unique brand of “edutainment” seamlessly combines her humorous lecturing style, interactive exercises, and the latest sexuality research. Sunny’s passion is helping others overcome shame and find power through play and pleasure. Currently, she’s working on her first book, “Customizable Kink: A Strategic Guide to Adult Play.” Episode 191 Links Sunny Megatron website https://sunnymegatron.com/ Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron? Sunny Megatron Twitter https://twitter.com/sunnymegatron Sunny Megatron Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sunnymegatron/ ZipperMagazine.comhttps://zippermagazine.com/ Science of BDSM Research Team https://www.scienceofbdsm.com/ Tell Me What You Want Dr. Justin Lehmiller https://read.amazon.com/kp/embed?asin=B0776PYDNM&preview=newtab&linkCode=kpe&ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_WFW3MV22QFGNPEMR6T4F Sex and Psychology Podcast https://www.sexandpsychology.com/podcasts/ Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality (SSSS) https://www.sexscience.org/ TASHRA -THE ALTERNATIVE SEXUALITIES HEALTH RESEARCH ALLIANCE https://www.tashra.org/ CARAS - The Community-Academic Consortium for Research on Alternative Sexualities https://www.carasresearch.org/ AASECT - The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists https://www.aasect.org/ Sexual Health Alliance Kink Informed Certification Program for Therapists & Care Professionals https://sexualhealthalliance.com/kink-informed-certification-program Why Good Sex Matters Book by Nan Wise, PhDhttps://www.amazon.com/dp/1328451305/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_x_tPnCFb0FAF4R5 Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose, Leigh Cowart https://read.amazon.com/kp/embed?asin=B08RYPSNVB&preview=newtab&linkCode=kpe&ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_CG15B6Z43TYVFCDDPA3V Play: How it Shapes the Brain, Opens the Imagination, and Invigorates the Soul, by Stewart Brown, M.D. & Christopher Vaughan https://read.amazon.com/kp/embed?asin=B001SCK720&preview=newtab&linkCode=kpe&ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_VCMYS78KPC9ENVJTX9K7 The Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Passion and Fulfillment, Jack Morin Ph.D. https://read.amazon.com/kp/embed?asin=B009YJYEKK&preview=newtab&linkCode=kpe&ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_FMT1SPK6QAABA7EYYKGX Woodhull Sexual Freedom Foundation 2018 Research, Littles: Affects and Aesthetics in Sexual Age-Play (“Download” unlocks the free PDF) https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s12119-018-09580-5 Why You Need BDSM's "Prim...
Many of us go through periods in our lives when we’re not happy with the amount of sex we do or don't want. In Ep 190 of American Sex Podcast, Cyndi Darnell gives tips for changing our relationship to pleasure and navigating intimacy when one partner is perpetually ‘not in the mood.’ Some of the things we touch on: Mismatched Libido Responsive vs spontaneous desire Arousal vs libido vs desire vs attraction How gender & orientation factor in Reasons people have desire changes & discrepancy Common myths about desire & arousal that keep us stuck How to talk to partners & work together to find common ground Sunny also makes an exciting announcement about the new, kink-focused digital publication, Zipper Magazine! Cyndi Darnell Bio Cyndi Darnell (she/her) is a clinical and somatic sexologist and author of Sex When You Don’t Feel Like It The Truth About Mismatched Libido & Rediscovering Desire (Rowman & Littlefield). Originally from Australia, she’s now based in New York City where she runs a global consulting practice to clients worldwide. A psychotherapist by training, Cyndi currently supports individuals, couples and polycules navigating relationships and sexual difficulties, plus professional mentorship and case consultations to clinicians and sexologists worldwide seeking to deepen their understanding of the links between psychotherapy, sexology, relationships work and somatic practice. She's a Clinical Associate of Pink Therapy UK & Board Affiliate for University of Wisconsin STOUT Sex Therapy Certification program. Her podcast The Erotic Philosopher brings guests of diverse backgrounds together to explore issues affecting modern sex and relationships. Her numerous academic works are published in Journal of Sexual & Relationship Therapy and Journal of Sex Education among others. Her expert opinion is frequently sought by media outlets worldwide. Episode 190 Links Cyndi Darnell Website www.cyndidarnell.com Cyndi Darnell Twitter https://twitter.com/cyndi_darnell Cyndi Darnell TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@cyndi_darnell Cyndi Darnell Facebook https://www.facebook.com/cyndidarnellpage Sex When You Don't Feel Like It: The Truth about Mismatched Libido and Rediscovering Desire https://www.amazon.com/When-Dont-Feel-Like-Rediscovering/dp/1538161702 Zipper Magazine Launch 6/8/22 https://zippermagazine.com/ Zipper Magazine Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zippermagdotcom/ Zipper Magazine Twitter https://twitter.com/ZipperMagDotcom Zipper Magazine Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Zipper-Magazine-113123824749292 Zipper Magazine Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxFDRtDhukxyQ_9t-Xfo2-w Open Deeply Podcasthttp://opendeeplypodcast.com Sunny Megatron TikTokhttps://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron Ken’s charity DnD game Mondays 4pm-7pm PThttps://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy American Sex Podcast Discord Communityhttp://bit.ly/discordasp American Sex Podcast Patreonhttp://patreon.com/americansex Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Libraryhttp://bit.ly/kinkacademy Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbookhttps://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb Episode 190 Sponsor & Affiliate Discount Codes/Links *by using our links & codes you can help support our work while saving a few bucks too—win/win! 10% off your first month with BetterHelphttp://betterhelp.com/asp 15% off AND free shipping when you go tohttp://LikeAKitten.com/sunnyOR enter code SUNNY at checkout Bump’n https://getbumpn.com/ Hundreds of millions of people are unable to take pleasure into their own hands due to disability, ageing, arthritis or illness. Bump’n is on a mission to change this with the Bump’n Joystick - the world’s first accessible sex toy! Help spread self-love and fund an orgasm today Get up to 2 free months of podcasting service with Libsyn using this linkhttps://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=SUNNYor use code SUNNY Hot & H...
Kink isn’t a replacement for therapy, but it can be therapeutic. On Ep 189 Andrea Glik, LMSW explains the impact of trauma on our nervous system, depression as a survival response, the stress response cycle, the difference between glimmers and triggers, how BDSM can be used to heal trauma for both doms and subs, how she integrates clients BDSM experiences into therapy, plus how healing can manifest through CNC, little space, subspace, aftercare, and more. Even if you're not a kinkster, this episode will help you discover how trauma & shame affect your s3xual identity. Also a must-listen for mental health providers and those struggling to get their therapists to understand the importance of kink in their lives. Andrea Glik Bio Andrea Glik, LMSW is a psychotherapist, somatic healer, and sex educator. Andrea specializes in treating trauma and PTSD for women, survivors, and queer & trans folks, utilizing body-based and feminist therapy practices to help clients come home to themselves. Andrea practices on occupied Lenape territory (colonized as NYC) and can also be found on Instagram @somaticwitch. Episode 189 Links Andrea Glik Instagram https://www.instagram.com/somaticwitch/ Andrea Glik YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVUm2ZAxWeu7DrcMRpP1JPw? Andrea Glik website https://www.andreaglik.com/ Healing through BDSM class & https://www.andreaglik.com/post/healing-through-bdsm Other workshops andreaglik.com/shop Inside Eyes Podcast, Healing Sexual Trauma with Psychedelics & Entheogens https://www.lauramaenorthrup.com/inside-eyes-podcast Burnout, The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Response Cycle by Emily Nagoski https://www.amazon.com/Burnout-Secret-Unlocking-Stress-Cycle/dp/198481706X Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma by Peter Levine https://www.amazon.com/Waking-Tiger-Healing-Peter-Levine/dp/155643233X Open Deeply Podcasthttp://opendeeplypodcast.com Sunny Megatron TikTokhttps://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron Ken’s charity DnD game Mondays 4pm-7pm PThttps://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy American Sex Podcast Discord Communityhttp://bit.ly/discordasp American Sex Podcast Patreonhttp://patreon.com/americansex Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Libraryhttp://bit.ly/kinkacademy Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbookhttps://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb Episode 189 Sponsor & Affiliate Discount Codes/Links *by using our links & codes you can help support our work while saving a few bucks too—win/win! 30-day free trial of Dipsea Stories when you use code SUNNYhttp://dipseastories.com/sunny 10% off your first month with BetterHelphttp://betterhelp.com/asp 15% off AND free shipping when you go tohttp://LikeAKitten.com/sunnyOR enter code SUNNY at checkout Get up to 2 free months of podcasting service with Libsyn using this linkhttps://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=SUNNYor use code SUNNY Hot & Healthy Erotic Humiliation recorded classhttps://gum.co/humiliationclass Prostate Play for Beginners (recorded class) from Sugar Baltimorehttps://www.sugartheshop.com/prostate-milking-for-beginners.html Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academyhttp://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric&http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more)http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this linkhttp://bit.ly/lovehoney15This link can be a little wonky and does not keep tracking cookies. If the discount does not show up in your cart (or disappears after you shop around on the site), access the site with that link again. Your items will still be in your cart & the discount will appear) 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bedhttp://bit.ly/sunnyetbwith code SUNNY 10% off everything from Fun Factory...
Being a part of community isn't required to practice BDSM, although it may seem like it due to visibility. What is important is knowing the positive and negative ways community influences the kink subculture. Yes, mainstream myths and stereotypes contribute to BDSM stigma, however, misleading info from the community causes harm too. On ep 188 of American Sex, Sunny Megatron & Kate Loree discuss this plus give advice on verifying the validity of educational info, sniffing out gatekeeping and “one twue wayisms,” doing effective gut checks in consent situations, and more. Sunny also discusses the far-reaching implications of overturning Roe vs. Wade & how the Earn It Act ties in. Guest Bio – Sunny Megatron (Kink-Specific Bio) Sunny began teaching about BDSM in 2010. Her area of expertise is soft skills--which center around things like ethics, cultivating self-awareness, and strategies for effective communication. She received a FROST Certificate of Gratitude in 2020 honoring her service to the kink community, was voted XBIZ Sexpert of the year in 2021, Kinkly’s sex blogging superhero in 2017, plus her alternative sexuality focused podcast American Sex won the AASECT podcast award in 2020. Sunny also creates curriculum & teaches about BDSM for sexuality educators, therapists, and care professionals including professional certification courses like the Sexual Health Alliance’s Kink Informed Certification Program. Sunny’s first book, Customizable Kink: A Strategic Guide to Adult Play is scheduled to be released in 2022. Episode 188 Links State of Kink Survey https://surveymonkey.com/r/socialkink Sunny Megatron websitehttps://sunnymegatron.com/ Sunny Megatron TikTokhttps://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron? Sunny Megatron Twitterhttps://twitter.com/sunnymegatron Sunny Megatron Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/sunnymegatron/ Resistbot: Send an email to your legislators asking them to vote NO on the Earn It Act https://resist.bot/petitions/PVLKLV or OR TEXT SIGN PVLKLV TO 50409 Roe Vs Wade implications beyond abortion https://www.npr.org/2022/05/05/1096732347/roe-v-wade-implications-beyond-abortion Ep 184 Pt. 1 Rethinking Kink https://sunnymegatron.com/rethink-kink-podcast/ Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationshipshttps://www.amazon.com/dp/164742335X/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_CBCD2NJQ93Q58Q0C46XZ Kate Loree Website:http://kateloree.com Kate Loree TikTokhttps://www.tiktok.com/@opendeeplywithkateloree Kate Loree Instagramhttp://instagram.com/opendeeplywithkateloree Open Deeply Podcasthttp://opendeeplypodcast.com Sunny Megatron TikTokhttps://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron Ken’s charity DnD game Mondays 4pm-7pm PThttps://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy American Sex Podcast Discord Communityhttp://bit.ly/discordasp American Sex Podcast Patreonhttp://patreon.com/americansex Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Libraryhttp://bit.ly/kinkacademy Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbookhttps://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb Episode 188 Sponsor & Affiliate Discount Codes/Links *by using our links & codes you can help support our work while saving a few bucks too—win/win! 10% off your first month with BetterHelp http://betterhelp.com/asp 15% off AND free shipping when you go tohttp://LikeAKitten.com/sunnyOR enter code SUNNY at checkout Get up to 2 free months of podcasting service with Libsyn using this linkhttps://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=SUNNYor use code SUNNY Hot & Healthy Erotic Humiliation recorded classhttps://gum.co/humiliationclass Prostate Play for Beginners (recorded class) from Sugar Baltimorehttps://www.sugartheshop.com/prostate-milking-for-beginners.html Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academyhttp://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric&http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more)htt...
All relationships are susceptible to hurdles & conflict--resentment, attachment injuries, navigating mental health, unhealthy coping strategies, overcoming societal conditioning, trauma, and more. It’s hard enough between 2 people; in polyamory, we have multiple partners to factor in plus unique issues like jealousy and couple’s privilege. On episode 187 of American Sex Podcast, Kate Loree draws from her years as a polyamorous relationship therapist to talk about strategies for compassionate communication, cultivating self-awareness, breaking unhealthy patterns, and reconciling conflict in consensually non-monogamous relationships. Guest Bio – Kate Loree Kate Loree, LMFT, is a sex-positive licensed marriage and family therapist with a specialty in non-monogamous, kink, LGBTQ, and sex worker communities and the author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships. In addition to her master’s in marriage and family therapy, she also has an MBA and is a registered art therapist (ATR). She is an EDSE certified sex educator and an EMDR certified therapist with additional training in the Trauma Resiliency Model (TRM) for the treatment of trauma. She has been practicing psychotherapy since 2003. She co-hosts her own sex-positive podcast, Open Deeply, with Sunny Megatron, has been featured in Buzzfeed videos, and has been a guest on Playboy Radio and many podcasts, including American Sex, Sluts and Scholars, and Sex Nerd Sandra. She has written for Good Vibrations and Hollywood Magazine and is a frequent public speaker. Her private practice resides in Encino, CA. For more information, please visit her on the web at KateLoree.com. Episode 187 Links Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships https://www.amazon.com/dp/164742335X/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_CBCD2NJQ93Q58Q0C46XZ Kate Loree Website:http://kateloree.com Kate Loree TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@opendeeplywithkateloree Facebookhttp://facebook.com/kateloreelmft Kate Loree Twitterhttp://twitter.com/kateloreelmft Kate Loree Instagramhttp://instagram.com/opendeeplywithkateloree Kate Loree YouTubehttps://www.youtube.com/kateloree Open Deeply Podcasthttp://opendeeplypodcast.com Sunny Megatron TikTokhttps://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron Ken’s charity DnD game Mondays 4pm-7pm PThttps://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy American Sex Podcast Discord Communityhttp://bit.ly/discordasp American Sex Podcast Patreonhttp://patreon.com/americansex Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Libraryhttp://bit.ly/kinkacademy Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbookhttps://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb Episode 187 Sponsor & Affiliate Discount Codes/Links *by using our links & codes you can help support our work while saving a few bucks too—win/win! 30-day free trial of Dipsea Stories when you use code SUNNYhttp://dipseastories.com/sunny 15% off AND free shipping when you go tohttp://LikeAKitten.com/sunnyOR enter code SUNNY at checkout Get up to 2 free months of podcasting service with Libsyn using this linkhttps://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=SUNNYor use code SUNNY Hot & Healthy Erotic Humiliation recorded classhttps://gum.co/humiliationclass Prostate Play for Beginners (recorded class) from Sugar Baltimorehttps://www.sugartheshop.com/prostate-milking-for-beginners.html Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academyhttp://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric&http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more)http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this linkhttp://bit.ly/lovehoney15This link can be a little wonky and does not keep tracking cookies. If the discount does not show up in your cart (or disappears after you shop around on the site), access the site with that link again. Your items will still be in...
The kink community has a reputation for being accepting & inclusive. When it comes to race, however, we have some work to do. Recent research published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found at BDSM events people of color were 16x more likely to feel discriminated against & 17x more likely to feel fetishized than their white counterparts. On ep 186 of American Sex podcast, Luna Matatas discusses insight she's gleaned from the monthly Race & Kink discussion series she co-hosts with Marla Renee Stewart. What actionable steps can allies and accomplices take to tackle these issues head-on? How can we truly make our communities & events welcoming beyond saying “all are welcome”? What are we doing right? How are we missing the mark? Guest Bio – Luna Matatas Luna Matatas is a Sex and Pleasure Educator with over 15 years of experience teaching sex and empowerment workshops. She celebrates body confidence, self-adoration, and building shame-free pleasure in and out of the bedroom. She teaches a wide range of topics; including threesomes, BDSM, and sexual confidence. Luna hosts The Plug Podcast, an anal sex podcast by b-Vibe. She created Peg the Patriarchy and Meditate Medicate Masturbate brands as part of her sex-positive and feminist merchandise. Episode 186 Links Luna Matatas Website http://lunamatatas.com/ Luna Matatas Twitter https://twitter.com/lunamatatas Luna Matatas Instagram https://www.instagram.com/lunamatatas/ Kinky Tapas $100 off w/code SUNNY 4/28-5/1/22 Oakland, CA http://www.kinkytapas.com/ Challenge attheIntersection ofRace andKink: Racial Discrimination, Fetishization, andInclusivity Within theBDSM (Bondage‑Discipline, Dominance‑Submission, andSadism‑Masochism) Community https://www.dropbox.com/s/hj0yzhzcv401eue/Erickson%2C%20Slayton%2C%20Petersen%2C%20Hyams%2C%20Howard%2C%20Sharp%2C%20%26%20Sagarin%20%282022%29%20Challenge%20at%20the%20Intersection%20of%20Race%20and%20Kink.pdf?dl=0 Sunny Megatron TikTokhttps://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron Ken’s charity DnD game Mondays 4pm-7pm PThttps://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy American Sex Podcast Discord Communityhttp://bit.ly/discordasp American Sex Podcast Patreonhttp://patreon.com/americansex Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Libraryhttp://bit.ly/kinkacademy Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbookhttps://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb Episode 186 Sponsor & Affiliate Discount Codes/Links *by using our links & codes you can help support our work while saving a few bucks too—win/win! 15% off AND free shipping when you go tohttp://LikeAKitten.com/sunnyOR enter code SUNNY at checkout Get up to 2 free months of podcasting service with Libsyn using this linkhttps://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=SUNNYor use code SUNNY Hot & Healthy Erotic Humiliation recorded classhttps://gum.co/humiliationclass Prostate Play for Beginners (recorded class) from Sugar Baltimorehttps://www.sugartheshop.com/prostate-milking-for-beginners.html Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academyhttp://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric&http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more)http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this linkhttp://bit.ly/lovehoney15This link can be a little wonky and does not keep tracking cookies. If the discount does not show up in your cart (or disappears after you shop around on the site), access the site with that link again. Your items will still be in your cart & the discount will appear) 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bedhttp://bit.ly/sunnyetbwith code SUNNY 10% off everything from Fun Factory using this linkhttp://bit.ly/sunnyfunfactoryand the code SUNNY at checkout 15% off most items from Stockro...
U.S. law interprets consensual kink activities as harmful, criminal acts. This makes prosecuting sexual assault cases within the context of BDSM difficult. How can you prove non-consensual sex occurred if kink isn’t considered sex in the eyes of the law, it’s assault? The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom/NCSF worked along with the American Law Institute to establish a legal definition of consent in kink. They just unveiled the New Model Penal Code on Sexual Assault: Affirmative Defense of Explicit Prior Permission for use of force and restraint with sexual contact. On ep 185 of American Sex Podcast, the NCSF’s Susan Wright & BebeBlueEyes explain how this gives legal power to sexual assault survivors, how it’ll be adopted state-by-state, about the new consent model EPP/Explicit Prior Permission & why implementing it as community standard is integral to changing case law, what you can do to help, how the NCSF can assist you with criminal sexual assault cases involving consensual kink, and more. If you're kinky this is a MUST LISTEN--you need to know how the legal definition of consent is changing. Guest Bio – Susan Wright, M.A Susan Wright, M.A., (she/her) founded the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom in 1997, and currently serves as Executive Director. In addition, she serves on the advocacy and community advisory committees for AASECT, the APA’s Division 44: Task Force on Consensual Non-monogamy, Kink Clinician Guidelines, and the Diverse Sexualities Research Education Institute. She chaired the successful DSM-5 Revision Project which helped result in the consensual paraphilias being separated from the APA’s Paraphilic Disorders in 2013. She currently chairs the Consent Counts Committee that worked with the American Law Institute on the new Model Penal Code on Sexual Assault to create Section 213:10: Affirmative Defense of Explicit Prior Permission for use of force and restraint with sexual contact. Her research for NCSF focuses on discrimination and violence against alt-sex practitioners; consent practices and attitudes; and the mental and physical health of alt-sex practitioners, with papers published in journals including the International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health, Psychology & Sexuality, Journal of Trauma and Dissociation, Journal of Interpersonal Violence, Archives of Sexual Behavior, Journal of Sexual Medicine, Journal of Behavioral Health Services & Research, Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology, International Journal of Social Psychiatry, and Journal of Homosexuality. Guest Bio – BebeBlueEyes Bebe is a Poly, Het, very active, giggle bottom, service topping ‘s type’. Since 2009, Bebe has been serving the broader kink & poly communities, presenting classes related to her passion, the ever-evolving topic of Consent. During covid, Bebe started the Submissive Safe Call, an online discussion group to keep ‘s types’ connected. She founded StL PolyHarmonic, a local group for kinky & polyamorous persons. In 2020, Bebe was humbled & honored to be chosen by Leather Leadership Conference for their Servant Leadership award! She s currently serving her 7th year on the Board of Directors of National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSFreedom.org). She is mother of a TNG kinkster, an IT Professional, Avid Foodie & Music Lover, and Debauchery Explorer! She’s also an ICASA certified Sexual Assault Victim Advocate for the State of IL! Her passions are service to the community, education, and personal responsibility through empowerment. Episode 185 Links NCSF Website www.ncsfreedom.org NCSF Facebook http://facebook.com/NCSFreedom NCSF Twitter http://twitter.com/NCSF NCSF Instagram http://instagram.com/nationalcoalitionsexualfreedom EPP/Explicit Prior Permission video & Resources https://ncsfreedom.org/key-programs-2/consent-counts/ EPP/Explicit Prior Permission Best Practices with Conse...
On episode 184 of American Sex Podcast, Sunny Megatron & sex-positive therapist, Kate Loree, look at BDSM through an atypical lens. We chat about the misconceptions we worked through as people who stumbled upon kink later in life and how that perspective is helpful now in our careers. We discuss the headspace & strategy needed to tap into the customizable nature of BDSM, plus dive into the science & psychology behind kinky play--why do masochists like suffering? What happens to the body & mind during the altered states of consciousness subspace & topspace? How do people use kink to be more grounded, regulate the nervous system, explore intense emotional states with minimal risk, and more? There’s a lot more to BDSM than ropes, paddles, and floggers! Guest Bio – Kate Loree, LMFT Kate Loree, LMFT, is a sex-positive licensed marriage and family therapist with a specialty in non-monogamous, kink, LGBTQ, and sex worker communities. In addition to her master’s in marriage and family therapy, she also has an MBA and is a registered art therapist (ATR). She is an EDSE certified sex educator and an EMDR certified therapist with additional training in the Trauma Resiliency Model (TRM) for the treatment of trauma. She has been practicing psychotherapy since 2003. Kate is the author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships (release date 4/19/22) and cohosts the sex-positive podcast of the same name, Open Deeply, with Sunny Megatron. She’s been featured in Buzzfeed videos, and has guested on Playboy Radio and many podcasts, including American Sex, Sluts and Scholars, and Sex Nerd Sandra. She’s written for Good Vibrations, Hollywood Magazine and is a frequent public speaker. Guest Bio – Sunny Megatron, CSE Host of the Showtime Original Series, Sex with Sunny Megatron, began teaching about BDSM in 2010. Her area of expertise is the soft skills--which center around things like ethics, cultivating self-awareness, and strategies for effective communication. She received a FROST Certificate of Gratitude in 2020 honoring her service to the kink community, was voted XBIZ Sexpert of the Year in 2021, and Kinkly’s Sex Blogging Superhero in 2017. Her alternative sexuality-focused podcast American Sex was awarded the AASECT Podcast Award in 2020. Sunny also creates curriculum about BDSM for sexuality professionals. Some of her most recent kink-related projects include designing & teaching the BDSM unit for a well-known sex educator certification program plus a lesson for the Sexual Health Alliance’s Kink Informed Certification Program for therapists and other care professionals. Sunny’s first book, Customizable Kink: A Strategic Guide to Erotic Play is scheduled to be released in 2022. Episode 184 Links Kate Loree Website:http://kateloree.com Kate Loree Facebookhttp://facebook.com/kateloreelmft Kate Loree Twitterhttp://twitter.com/kateloreelmft Kate Loree Instagramhttp://instagram.com/opendeeplywithkateloree Kate Loree YouTubehttps://www.youtube.com/kateloree Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships (release date 4/19/22) https://www.amazon.com/dp/164742335X/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_ZHACQ8RJHMR2R9HGHBMY Open Deeply Podcasthttp://opendeeplypodcast.com No Bullsh*t Intro to Kink workshop, Sunny Megatron/Sex Positive World 3/19/22https://www.sexpositiveworld.org/event-details/a-no-bulls-it-intro-to-kink Resistbot: Send an email to your legislators in 2 minutes via text with https://resist.bot/ @TransTexas/TENT resources for Texas families with transgender kids https://linktr.ee/Transtexas Info from @EqualityTexas “What to do if CPS shows up at your door in regards to your trans child?” https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdUchp2B/?k=1 Equality Texas Twitter https://twitter.com/EqualityTexas Info about the passing of Milo Winslow, trans rights advocate in Lincoln, Nebraska https://www.upwo...
On Ep 183 of American Sex Podcast, we talk with Sinclair Sexsmith about dominance & submission. While most are aware that Dom/sub play is common in kink, we also have a very narrow view of what it entails. D/s isn’t always cruel & authoritarian. We talk about the many ways people engage in D/s & how they find strength by surrendering to powerlessness, including: The different types of D/s & selecting areas of control Building healthy dynamics “Subs hold all the power” Balancing fantasy & reality “Giving up” safe words D/s as an “intimacy fetish” Deconstructing power Guest Bio – Sinclair Sexsmith SINCLAIR SEXSMITH (they/them) is an award-winning queer trans masc writer focusing on queer culture, trauma, dominance, submission, spiritual kink, and transgender and nonbinary issues. Sinclair’s creative nonfiction and queer erotica writings are widely published online and in more than thirty anthologies, including eight volumes of Best Lesbian Erotica series. They are the editor of Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year Volume 4, Volume 5, Volume 6, Best Lesbian Erotica 2012, Erotix: Literary Journal of Somatics, and Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica. Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2015 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award. Sinclair writes at sugarbutch.net since 2006, recognized numerous places as one of the top sex blogs. They have been teaching about erotic writing, the power of queer narratives, somatic arts, and many sex and kink techniques since 2002. Sinclair is an international leather titleholder, a pretty good cook, and an avid creative journaler. Follow all their work at patreon.com/mrsexsmith. Episode 183 Links Sinclair Sexsmith Quicklinks http://allmylinks.com/mrsexsmith Sinclair Sexsmith Twitter http://twitter.com/mrsexsmith Sinclair Sexsmith Instagram http://instagram.com/mrsexsmith Sinclair Sexsmith Facebook http://facebook.com/sugarbutch Sinclair Sexsmith Patreon http://patreon.com/mrsexsmith Sinclair Sexsmith Blog http://sugarbutch.net D/S Playground Classes https://dsplayground.com/ Sinclair Sexsmith Website https://www.mrsexsmith.com/ Is kink a sexual orientation? Discussion in American Sex Episode 181: https://sunnymegatron.com/kink-education-sunny-megatron-podcast/ The Dominance Playbook: Ways to Play With Power in Scenes and Relationships by Anton Fulmen https://www.amazon.com/Dominance-Playbook-Power-Scenes-Relationships/dp/0937609900 Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090 No Bullsh*t Intro to Kink workshop, Sunny Megatron/Sex Positive World 3/19/22https://www.sexpositiveworld.org/event-details/a-no-bulls-it-intro-to-kink Resistbot: Send an email to your legislators asking them to vote NO on the Earn It Acthttps://resist.bot/petitions/PVLKLVor OR TEXT SIGN PVLKLV TO 50409 ACLU roundup of current anti-trans & anti-LGBTQ+ billshttps://www.aclu.org/legislation-affecting-lgbtq-rights-across-country Legislation proposing bans of LGBTQIA+, racial & other “divisive” topics discussed/taught in classroomshttps://www.edweek.org/policy-politics/heres-the-long-list-of-topics-republicans-want-banned-from-the-classroom/2022/02 GOP pushes anti-LGBTQ+ legislationhttps://www.msnbc.com/zerlina/watch/gop-pushes-anti-lgbtq-legislation-132900421866 Open Deeply Podcasthttp://opendeeplypodcast.com (Current guest Mollena Williams Haas) Sunny Megatron TikTokhttps://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron Ken’s charity DnD game Mondays 4pm-7pm PThttps://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy American Sex Podcast Discord Communityhttp://bit.ly/discordasp American Sex Podcast Patreonhttp://patreon.com/americansex Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Libraryhttp://bit.ly/kinkacademy Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbookhttps://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotia...