*General instinct knowledge @ 16 min *Self-pres 3 starts @ 26 min In this episode, we talk about the self-pres 3 (aka "Vanity No Vanity") and explore how they deny their passion of vanity (in a fixated state of mind). In our typical style, we kick the episode off with a personal catch-up and some banter. We apologize ahead of time for the audio situation. In the intro, we talk about what we’ve been up to Review and refresher of all the instincts and levels of health in the instincts SP 3s can look like 1s Tara talks about her personal experiences with SP3 Compare the sexual/social/SP instinct’s relationship to vanity SP3 motivations and fixations Enneagram 3 anxiety and how it shows up from their over-identification with roles Celebrity examples of 3s - mostly of the reality trash TV variety Ideas for being less fixated Resources we used and may have mentioned for this episode: EnneagramMonthly.com, Beatrice Chestnut - The Complete Enneagram, Sandra Maitri - The Spiritual Dimension of the Enneagram, Personality Types: Using the Enneagram for Self-discovery, A variety of books on the Enneagram by Russ Hudson, Oscar Ichazo
In this episode, we continue our series on the instinctual variants and focus on the Self-Preservation 7 AKA "The Hungry/Happy Hedonist", "The Gourmand", "The Keeper of the Castle" or... HUGH HEFNER?!?! A self-pres 7w8? Is this the same type as neurotic cult leaders? Anyway, here's what we talked about (resources are below): - How the 7s passion of gluttony + fear of emotional pain mixes with the self-preservation instinct - Anecdotal experiences of Maris' family, which is full of self-pres 7w6s - We explore how a self-pres 7 might like to exercise - Why do self-pres 7s want people in their circle to be comfortable and happy? - The self-pres 7s ulterior motives and the challenge (for us personally) in seeing it - Tips for self-growth and behaving in new ways outside of the SP7s fixations Resources: Dietnosis.com, Beatrice Chestnut, Russ Hudson, Personality Types: Using the Enneagram for Self-discovery, Oscar Ichazo Book a consulting session with us: http://enneagramforidiots.com
Intro/Outro - Powfu - Death Bed (Save the Sky Remix) In this episode, we continue our series on the instinctual variants and focus on the self-preservation 1 aka Hilary Clinton (we kind of sort of think). Here's what we talked about: We're doing consulting now, all the details are on our website at enneagramforidiots@gmail.com If you're a part of our Patreon community, we're planning a live virtual hang out session soon, stay tuned for that Thank you for emailing about the last SP4 episode, we learned a lot and you learned a lot and that is ALWAYS THE GOAL Instinct and Self-Pres 1 learnings and discoveries (22 minutes in) Each instinct has a different kind of energy There's a lot of learning to be done around how the passions and fixations interact with the instincts, there's so much we all don't know The SP1: is characterized by a lot of worry, anxiety, perfection and apparently "almost paranoia?" can look like a 6 but the 6 knows the world shouldn't be against them and the 1 isn't so sure struggles with feeling inadequate or undeserving and react with anxiety and worry thinks that when they judge themselves it's actually helpful is possibly Hillary Clinton? lots of thoughts and exploration there lots more, dive in to hear it all And to wrap up, we would like all SP1s and 1s in general - YOU ARE NOT YOUR THOUGHTS Resources: Beatrice Chestnut, EnneagramCentral.com, 9Types.com
In today's episode we talked about: We're doing consulting now! Details at enneagramforidiots.com We're continuing our series on the instinctual variants, featuring the self-pres 4s (aka I'm not sad and I don't want to be sad with you). Lots of descriptors for this instinctual variant: "tenacity" "defensive action" "dauntless". What resonates with you? We talk about the theory that the instincts have levels of health as well (Russ Hudson "Essence Emerging" meetups, A.H. Almaas, Creator of the Holy Ideas) Tara talked about her self-pres 4 experiences and then realized she's probably self-pres dominant Self-pres fours have a lot of endurance If you're SP4 are you in-tune with the temperature of the room? Other comforts? How do you go about getting your physical needs met? Talked about how the self-pres four is the counter type of the fours and can look like some other types Also talked about a self-pres four not wanting to be "held down" by other unhealthy or brooding/moping fours or people in general As always, email us your thoughts, feedback and if you're self-pres 4 or know a self-pres 4 we'd love to chat via email. Talk to us on the internet and thanks for listening to this episode. <3
THE PODCAST IS BACK. Thank you so much for your patience with our break. Intro: Music by RujayInstrumental: "Next Level" by SeriouzBeatsChannel: https://YouTube.com/user/RujayTV Here’s what we talked about in today’s return episode: Thank you for supporting us on Patreon while we were away, it helped us cover our online subscriptions and keep the podcast online We are going through all of your emails, please keep sending more, we want to connect in these weird pandemic times Life update: Tara had a baby and she can’t type him, she got married and moved in with her husband (1w2 sx), moved twice after discovering cockroaches, got scammed and had a period of postpartum depression Life update: Marissa got hit by a car and tore her ACL, got kicked out of her apartment by her landlord, moved back home, went through a miscarriage, was put in a new position at work, Discussion about Chris Heuertz and a blog post that was written by 33 women and men who shared their stories of experiencin...
*Skip to around the 30-minute mark for mostly self-pres 2 content After we spend 15 minutes talking about public transit, we dive into the self-preservation 2 - aka the cutesy, childlike type. In this episode we talk about - Countertypes - Russ Hudson and A.H Almaas’ descriptions of the levels of health in the instincts and how instincts mature as we grow - How this instinctual variant moves both towards and away from others and is more self-protective and cerebral than other 2s - Why the self-preservation 2 positions themselves in a child-like role and how that relates to the protection of their self-image and pride - Sorry not sorry to Christians, we explore what it would look like if Jesus Christ was a self-preservation 2 for the last 20+ minutes of the episode Questions Does this 'cutesy' behaviour carry over into the bedroom?Do you have a lot of romantic partners or did you at any point? How do you DRESS? How do self-pres 2’s in your life dress? Resources: The Diamond Approac...
Intro/Outro: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m0pVXEBA3PU&list=RD--YiHE-06Rw&index=22 (pilgrim) Today we’re talking about Self-Preservation dominant 8s aka NOT Marissa but Donald Trump. Also known by Enneagram resources as the "Survivalist". In this episode we cover: How Marissa isn’t self-preservation dominant and Tara’s mind is blown, then we explore how the social (Maris) and sexual (Tara) instincts show up in our lives What a self-preservation dominant 8 may look like and behave How this type may be more angry and confrontational than the other instinctual variants of the 8 Famous 8w7 examples (Donald Trump / Gene Simmons) and famous 8w9 examples (Liam Neeson / Morgan Freeman / Susan Sarandon) What it may be like to work with a self-pres 8 How self-pres 8s might challenge people to be equals more than the other instinctual variants of the 8 The unhealthy and average range of a self-pres dominant 8 Also sorry 5s, the audio got cut in the beginning so a portion of your recap fro...
Intro/Outro: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=--YiHE-06Rw (flowers in narnia) We kick off this episode with a discussion about speakers not getting paid at the International Enneagram Conference and then dive into what it's like to be a self-preservation 5. We talk about: Hermit life, being the most detached variant out of the three and how that may show up What it might feel like for a self-pres 5 to owe anything to somebody The self-pres 5 being “very good at boundaries” How the passion of avarice shows up in the 5 a 5s active thinking voice Themes of separation, detachment, non-attachment Self-pres 5s apparently being thinner out of all the variants - is that true? Email us and let us know enneagramforidiots@gmail.com What do you focus on the most out of these things? How do you find yourself focusing on these things: food, housing, health, physical comfort, money, your body? Also a couple of additional notes: A correction: Karen Horney influenced the coping style triads of the ...
Intro / Outro: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lVLBaNQjQro Today we’re starting a brand new series on the INSTINCTS. Ahhhhh this is going to be SO EXCITING. In this episode, we kick it off with an introduction the instincts. We cover: what the instincts are (i.e. biological survival drives) language around describing instincts (variants and drives vs. using the word ‘subtype’) a breakdown of each instinct (self-preservation, sexual and social) why sexual does not mean one-on-one relationships what instinct stackings are or ‘sequences’ how being neurotic or ‘unhealthy’ shows up in instinct land 8s and mob bosses - is Tony Soprano a sexual 8? Resources and additional learning: Personality Types: Using the Enneagram for Self-Discovery (there’s a small section on instincts at the end), The Shift Network audio download on instincts with Russ Hudson,https://beatricechestnut.com/blog/
Intro/Outro: J Roes https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SfWAxIk4xDw Today we’re wrapping up our compatibility series with the holy trinity - types 3 + 6 and types 6 + 9. Skip to 9:55 minutes to start the episode. In this episode we talk about: What it’s like to be with a 3, 6 and 9 We analyze a relationship thread on Reddit between a 6 + 9 that has gone from monogamous to polyamorous and are now sleeping in separate beds A Redditor says he’s heard 9s are cheaters Marissa shares intimacy tips from the internet Vulnerability in 3, 4 and 8 relationships Enneagram study on compatibility: https://www.9types.com/writeup/enneagram_relationships.php Resources for today’s episode: Helen Palmer’s The Enneagram in Love and Work: Understanding Your Intimate and Business Relationships (most titles of our relationship series are based on Helen Palmer’s titles of the couplings), Enneagram Institute, REDDIT, Drdaviddaniels.com Enneagram conflict resolution styles: http://www.fitzel.ca/enneagram/c...