First,apologiesfor not posting a new episode for a while. Don’t worry, there will be more to come, but I’m involved in a big side projectright now which has taken up all my extra time. TheConfidentMind will be back in a couple of weeks. In the meantime… In this weeks episode of The Confident Mind I talk about what black and white thinking is, how it drives certain kinds of behaviour and the problems it can cause. I talk about how all or nothing approaches: right and wrong, fair and unfair, tends to lead to fighting with reality, unhelpful emotions and a lack of acceptance. A short mindfulness exercise that helps with acceptance is included. To see more about my online treatment program to help you Overcome Social Anxiety, which is “Pay What You Want” (yes really, $1, $5, $50 it’s up to you!) go to: overcomingsocialanxiety.com/program The post REPOSTED: The World in Black and White appeared first on Overcoming Social Anxiety and Shyness.
This week on the Confident Mind I talk about sadness and how one of the ways that depression happens is when we get stuck in sadness, and allow it to define our sense of ourselves.I discuss research that shows that when we practice mindfulness meditation it decreases our tendency to define ourselves by our emotions, and allows our experience of different feelings to just come and go. To see more about my online treatment program to help you Overcome Social Anxiety, which is “Pay What You Want” (yes really, $1, $5, $50 it’s up to you!) go to: overcomingsocialanxiety.com/program The post REPOSTED: Getting Stuck in Sadness appeared first on Overcoming Social Anxiety and Shyness.
Have you ever felt like a robot? Like you’re responses are automatic, and out of your control? This week on The Confident Mind I talk about how our emotional programming in childhood can leave us feeling as if we are trapped in certain patterns and ways of responding, and how mindfulness and therapy can enable us to re-program the script. To see more about my online treatment program to help you Overcome Social Anxiety, which is “Pay What You Want” (yes really, $1, $5, $50 it’s up to you!) go to: overcomingsocialanxiety.com/program The post I, Robot appeared first on Overcoming Social Anxiety and Shyness.
This week on The Confident Mind I talk about how our tendency to “look up” at those who have more, creates anxiety and unhappiness. In capitalism and western society our tendency to strive and want to be more successful fuels anxiety and insecurity, and ultimately creates “status anxiety.” I talk about how to consciously switch off to advertising, and use mindfulness skills to create gratitude and satisfaction with what we already have. To see more about my online treatment program to help you Overcome Social Anxiety, which is “Pay What You Want” (yes really, $1, $5, $50 it’s up to you!) go to: overcomingsocialanxiety.com/program The post Don’t Look Up appeared first on Overcoming Social Anxiety and Shyness.
On The Confident Mind this week I spoke with Aaron Jarden. Aaron is a Senior Lecturer at the Auckland University of Technology, President of the New Zealand Association of Positive Psychology, lead investigator for the International Wellbeing Study and co-investigator of the Sovereign New Zealand Wellbeing Index. We talked about how to measure wellbeing, and the research into happiness and wellbeing. Aaron talked about the different ways of understanding how to measure wellbeing, and the impact of positive psychology on how we understand happiness and meaning. To see more about Aaron see: www.aaronjarden.com To see more about my online treatment program to help you Overcome Social Anxiety, which is “Pay What You Want” (yes really, $1, $5, $50 it’s up to you!) go to: overcomingsocialanxiety.com/program The post REPOSTED: How to Increase Your Wellbeing: Interview with Aaron Jarden appeared first on Overcoming Social Anxiety and Shyness.
What is reality? It’s a philosophical question. Are we,like in the film “The Matrix”, all living in a computer simulation? This week on The Confident Mind I discuss how our perception of reality is unlikely to be a computer simulation, but however is nonetheless different for all of us. And maybelimited by our own perceptions, feelings and past experiences. Mindfulness helps us be more aware of reality, and over time re-define it for ourselves. To see more about my online treatment program to help you Overcome Social Anxiety, which is “Pay What You Want” (yes really, $1, $5, $50 it’s up to you!) go to: overcomingsocialanxiety.com/program The post What is reality? appeared first on Overcoming Social Anxiety and Shyness.
We all lie, all the time. That’s what I talk about this week on The Confident Mind podcast. Honesty is a virtue we all hold to be worthwhile, but human nature means that we lie to others and most often ourselves, all the time. Reality is painful but mindfulness helps us to be able to tolerate reality, and ultimately be more honest with ourselves, and others. To see more about my online treatment program to help you Overcome Social Anxiety, which is “Pay What You Want” (yes really, $1, $5, $50 it’s up to you!) go to: overcomingsocialanxiety.com/program The post Liar Liar appeared first on Overcoming Social Anxiety and Shyness.
How to be free? That’s what I talk about this week on The Confident Mind podcast. True freedom comes from feeling free to think and feel what ever we like, or need to. We are not our thoughts, as the saying goes. I explore how to achieve this freedom, and included is a brief mindfulness exercise in just observing, without judgement, our thoughts. To see more about my online treatment program to help you Overcome Social Anxiety, which is “Pay What You Want” (yes really, $1, $5, $50 it’s up to you!) go to: overcomingsocialanxiety.com/program The post REPOSTED: Freedom appeared first on Overcoming Social Anxiety and Shyness.
This week on the Confident Mind I talk about compassion, both for ourselves and others. I explore how being able to feel compassion is vital for emotional health and how extending and challenging ourselves to feel compassion for others, also helps us be kinder and more gentle towards ourselves. To see more about my online treatment program to help you Overcome Social Anxiety, which is “Pay What You Want” (yes really, $1, $5, $50 it’s up to you!) go to: overcomingsocialanxiety.com/program The post Why Should I care? appeared first on Overcoming Social Anxiety and Shyness.
This week on the Confident Mind I talk about “normal” and how as it’s an abstract concept, no one is actually normal. I explore how we all tend to act like out there, somewhere, are normal people that we are comparing ourselves to. I also talk about how to use the ideas of mindfulness and acceptance to challenge ourselves to stop looking for “normal” in our lives. To see more about my online treatment program to help you Overcome Social Anxiety, which is “Pay What You Want” (yes really, $1, $5, $50 it’s up to you!) go to: overcomingsocialanxiety.com/program The post REPOSTED: There’s no such thing as normal appeared first on Overcoming Social Anxiety and Shyness.