This week on the Marina Perry Podcast, Marina is joined by Brianna Bowley, a trauma coach who focuses on rewriting trauma response and teaching what we need to learn. People think trauma is abuse, witnessing something violent, or an accident. For Brianna, my definition of trauma is anything that disconnects us from ourselves. When we have these traumatic experiences, whether traditional trauma or minor experiences, one of three things happens: fight, flight, or freeze. Understanding our go-to response and why we do what we do is incredibly important to achieving new growth because then we can start to shift those patterns. Brianna encourages her clients to track their reactions, what triggered it, the responses in their bodies, and what they felt driven to do afterward to deal with it. That adds an extra depth of awareness, and we start to see how it impacts our lives. For people in a constant state of fight-or-flight for survival, teaching them to be in their stillness allows them to take themselves out of that space. You don't feel it when you're in a fight or flight state. It feels normal to you, and it's often a real struggle when you try to slow down. So take it in small steps and know that the things we feel we're missing pave the way for values. Our pain points pave the way for our power. What You Will Learn: Background on Brianna and how she got into trauma coaching. How trauma, big or small, shapes our internal systems and impacts our bodies. Tips for rewriting your own trauma responses to reach your highest level.
This week on the Marina Perry Podcast, Marina is joined by Trace Garbin to discuss inner wisdom and intuition. In the journey for the meaning of life, Trace found self-awareness was her answer. Self-awareness unlocked everything for her when we’re lost, and things don’t feel good. Now, she works with adults to unlock that inner wisdom and soul energy. With self-awareness, you can retain your life-force energy and focus on what’s expansive for you. Self-help can feel like busy work, but that doesn’t mean you’re not getting results. And you can get caught up and distracted in self-help. Being more in tune with what you’re feeling, hearing, saying, etc., can help you gain self-awareness. It’s like a muscle, and you have to keep using it. Absolutely everyone has intuition, and the key to tapping into it is getting rid of the layers that dimmed it. The biggest step toward initiative awareness has self-trust. Relationships take time. Skills take time. So don’t stop showing up. Regarding growth work, the most important thing is figuring out what works for you. Sometimes, like if we’ve suffered a big trauma, meditation won’t be helpful, and something else might be more effective in achieving the right amount of mental stillness. Explore different ways of grounding yourself and pay attention to what you feel in your body. Give yourself a chance to get into those lows and work past the initial challenge of learning a new system. Once we’ve done the work, we can better see our true calling in life. Everyone has a side-hustle; there’s nothing wrong with it, and if it’s genuinely your divine calling, go to it. However, you want to be doing it because of you and not for any external reasons. What You Will Learn: Background on Trace Garbin and her background in inner wisdom. An inside look at inner wisdom and why intuition is important. Tips for unlocking and improving your inner wisdom.
This week on the Marina Perry Podcast, Marina discusses parts, fragmentation, and the reclamation of our parts. Parts of us are the aspects of our personality or behaviors we either identify with or have chosen not to. As we go through life, we’re being fed information and feedback that we internalize as lessons for survival and expectation. If you’re punished for certain behaviors, or even if you’ve heard people in your life speak poorly of others who displayed those behaviors, your desire to be loved and accepted will force you to reduce the acceptance of those parts within yourself. We can disown a part of ourselves, meaning you brought a part forward and experienced a painful rejection for it. And if we experience that rejection repeatedly, we’ll shut it down and stop doing it. We can also leave pieces of ourselves dormant, which happens when we witness someone we respect reject someone else we are less likely to step into that same behavior for fear of rejection. Thirdly, we can fragment ourselves in what’s called the distorted part. This is when we allow pieces of ourselves to show through, but only in specific environments when we know we’re more likely to not experience rejection. Every single person walking the planet has fragmented themselves based on their conditioning. It doesn’t mean you’re living a terrible life; you can be incredibly successful and still fragment. A sign of fragmentation is triggered by someone displaying a specific behavior because that means you’ve encoded that behavior as bad. We end up draining our own energy by not owning these parts. That denial takes energy away from us, and when we open up, we can release and use that energy. The same way you have an arm and an elbow in your physical being, you have parts to your identity and spiritual being that is just as much a part of you as anything else. With women in particular, as we pick up more roles in life, we start establishing all these rules for ourselves of what we’re “supposed” to be in these roles. For example, when we step into motherhood, we can no longer be a boss or a sexy minx because our conditioning says mothers can’t be those things. So we start repressing those parts of us to be what we think of as a proper mother. Marina invites you to explore what makes your identity, is something serving you, and think of what life would be like if you welcomed those parts back into expression. What You Will Learn: What parts and fragmentation are, and why we repress them. How repression of those parts drains our energy. What we can reclaim those parts.
This week on the Marina Perry Podcast, Marina discusses how we can only manifest what our system allows. She explores the concepts of inner floors and ceilings we all have in our lives and how our reality reflects our inner codes. Only once we truly understand that can we step in and call what we want. Codes are learned concepts we hold ourselves to, and they ultimately create a cage of conditioning. And most of us aren’t even aware of it. It doesn’t matter if your life is amazing or not. We all have something inside the matrix of all of our codes that creates a floor and ceiling that keeps us “safe.” Without growth work, we cannot reach anywhere above that ceiling of our cage that’s limiting us. When we’re in a cage, we might not be happy, but our system is happy because it knows what’s happening. It keeps up in belonging and the routine. The unconscious mind likes to lock in because so many of our actions and movements are unconscious so the brain can conserve energy. When we consciously try to reach above our ceiling, our system gets a little freaked out. The fear of success is more common than people realize. We know we can do it, but our codes interfere. To move past that ceiling, we need to do that work and update our codes to be more in alignment with what we’re trying to achieve. We manifest what our system allows, so allow it, and then you get to have it. But when we fear success, we’re afraid that we’re going to lose another by achieving one thing. Hitting our ceiling back bouncing back down isn’t like a sabotaging cycle. Your goal is not to eliminate the ceiling or the floor but elevate them. What You Will Learn: How our codes define our walls and ceiling. Where the fear of success comes from and how to combat it. Tips for redefining our codes so we can elevate our ceiling and floor.
On the Marina Perry Podcast this week, Marina discusses how to get around the number one block to being your best self. We often talk about our best self being our higher self or next-level you. It’s an ever-evolving concept, and the block that’s stopping us from being our best selves is identity coherence. Identity coherence is when we believe we are a certain way and actively work to match that perceived identity. The problem is, that our best self is a different version of us. So if we’re always working to match the identity of what we think we are, we’re never going to be able to change into a better version. The etymology of the word “identity” is “same,” meaning when you identify with something, you’re saying you’re the same as it. So we construct this cage of our own making, and only you have the power to change. This doesn’t mean that the you you are right now can’t have the life you want. It means you aren’t a match. We live in a magnetic universe, and we attract the things that we are, not the things we want. To close the gap between what we are and what we want to be, we have to stop limiting our identities and blocking our birthright. When we’re in our wholeness, we are everything, and when we’re everything, we can have anything. What You Will Learn: What Identity Coherence is, and why it blocks us from becoming our better selves. Tips for battling Identity Coherence to become our better selves. What we can do to update our identity.
On the Marina Perry Podcast this week, Marina discusses being overwhelmed as a form of sabotage. Often the reason we feel overwhelmed is that we have too many open loops. Open loops can be anything from a conversation you're putting off, a task you haven't done, or any number of things, and they mentally drain us. Our brain is wired to remember and focus on incomplete tasks. When you have a lot of open loops, you want to take them out of your head. Writing a list is one of the quickest ways to take open loops out of your head because it puts the responsibility of remembering in the list and not your brain. Another thing you can do is start ticking off some of the smaller tasks and close those smaller loops. Outsourcing and delegating tasks to others is a great way to increase your capacity when you're feeling overwhelmed. Asking for help is a superpower, but you want to make sure you're handing over those tasks to people you trust. That way, you can fully outsource the responsibility to them. Open loops from an inability to make decisions can be incredibly overwhelming, so practice the art of decision making to close them. Decisions aren't permanent, and you can always change your mind later. What You Will Learn: How too many open loops leads to being overwhelmed Tips for managing and closing loops Why decision making can help you feel less overwhelmed
On the Marina Perry Podcast this week, Marina chats with personal growth coach Rudi Landmann about life journeys and how we don’t always follow the path we expect ourselves to. Rudi came from a very sedentary lifestyle, ate fast food multiple times a week, and was unhealthily overweight. So they decided to take a more athletic path. But even at their peak physical health, when Rudi looked in the mirror and photographs they were still no happier than before. They were proud of those accomplishments, but it was a huge shock to realize they still weren’t happy. The turning point for Rudi was walking by an athletics store and seeing a pair of women’s tights they loved. It started this narrative in Rudi’s head of why they couldn’t wear them if they wanted to. It took many tries to get the courage to not only buy the tights, but wear them out in public. But once they did, the fear and resistance Rudi was anticipating didn’t happen. Rudi even received compliments. The biggest thing standing in Rudi’s way wasn’t other people, but it’s the paradigm and resistance they were adhering to. We have to retrain our beliefs to fit a different paradigm and clothes were the start for Rudi to wonder if maybe they weren’t the person they always thought they were. How masculinity is enacted in society is dangerous and toxic. Not just to women and children but men themselves. Many misogynies and violent reactions to womanhood are so grounded in our society that they’re not just targeted at biological women but femininity as a whole. It’s anything outside the tightly held distinction of what is “properly male.” This holds to masculine and feminine energies, too, not just physical presentations. We know that people who do not conform to traditional gender identities or presentations are often ridiculed and even murdered. For Rudi, it’s never gone past verbal abuse, and it’s always been by a specific group of male-presenting individuals in packs. Rudi went from being a larger male most of his life who didn’t think twice about walking alone at night to someone cautious about where they are and who is around them. In contrast, the women in Rudi’s life have been unendingly supportive. Rudi isn’t sure if their two sons (age 10 and 8) even perceive a difference. The boundaries of what male behavior should be or look like have been expanded by their involvement in Rudi’s journey. Raising sons was something Rudi was concerned with at first because of their struggle with gender identities, but Rudi realized that navigating masculinity isn’t something they have to teach. Their sons are already so immersed in it and have the freedom to decide for themselves what it looks like. The key is learning discord and unhappiness have a source. There could be a wound inside you caused by societal conditioning and inauthenticity, and to find inner happiness, you need to dive deep into yourself. We need to find that sense of liberation and expansion, and the more we are with ourselves in freedom and self-exploration unironically, the happier we are. What You Will Learn: Background on Rudi and how journeys can lead in unexpected directions. The dangers of toxic masculinity, not just to women and children, but men as well. Specific experience Rudi has and what they took away from them.
This week on the Marina Perry Podcast, Marina chats with her daughter, Harlow, to share her experience, learnings, and lessons over the last year. For new listeners, Harlow experienced a severe medical condition called AVM, or “bleed on the brain,” which is a misformation of blood vessels that can result in a rupture. Harlow’s vessel ruptured last year at school. For her, it presented at first like a migraine, but as time went on, Harlow and her family realized her symptoms were much more severe than an average migraine. That led them to seek medical treatment right away. Because of the area of Harlow’s bleed, medical professionals kept her in the ICU for several weeks. They needed to wait for the bleeding and swelling to go down to figure out what exactly happened. In recovery, Harlow had a hard time reading, which was especially hard for her since reading is an important hobby. At first, the doctors decided not to operate due to multiple factors, including Harlow’s age and the area of the AVM. After months of pushing back her return to school due to complications, they eventually decided to go ahead with the surgery. She had a phenomenal recovery process and eventually returned to school, which presented other challenges since she’d been absent for so long. Her friends were incredibly excited to see her, but they knew the teachers now, and Harlow didn’t. They hand inside jokes she wasn’t in on anymore. It didn’t help that Harlow was only going to school part-time. She tried very hard to care about the small things like the school dance or a new pet, but she found it hard to relate. She went through this particular experience of continued recovery from major brain surgery. While her friends worried about what they would be wearing to the dance, she was concerned about the results of her follow-up appointments and life-threatening complications. We all go through events in our lives, whether in childhood or later in adulthood, and we survive. But what we sometimes don’t realize is we are forever changed as a result of that experience, and as we’re going through one pathway, the rest of life is going through another. Often we’re all-consumed in an area of life, or we’ve diverged in a different direction. So if we’re still trying to keep alive a section of society that no longer adds to our lives, we need to permit ourselves to let it go. What You Will Learn: Background on Marina’s daughter Harlow and her experience with AVM. Harlow’s journey through surgery and recovery. The learnings and takeaways she gained through the experience.
This week on the Marina Perry Podcast, Marina chats with Kira Love in this part 3 live special exploring what it means to be a whole woman. Kira is a gender intelligence business and relationships coach and embodies women empowering women. So many women are taught not to focus on themselves, but we fail to realize that when we focus on self-care, pleasure, and needs in life, we're better at helping others. We're raised with societal pressures on us based on others' perceptions of what it means to be a woman, and it manifests differently. For example, some girls are taught to be less bossy and not "too much," whereas others are celebrated for those more masculine traits. There's such a lack of self-love, self-trust, and emotional freedom, which strangles the spark from our lives. The journey to wholeness starts at healing those voids and quieting inner criticism. Women drive the emotional tone of the household, and when we don't have inner peace, the home doesn't have a state of peace either, no matter how loving we are. Wholeness means understanding that the most connected and intimate relationships start with ourselves. There's an element of self-awareness to wholeness and understanding that we unconsciously choose the direction and context of our lives. We battle so many undercurrents daily, and many are out of our control, such as race and sexual orientation. Women are facing challenges now that we didn't have to face sixty years ago, and many of those challenges are in our relationships and careers. There's a balance between masculine and feminine energy, and how we allow these pressures, elements, and constant battles to define our womanhood is entirely up to us. What You Will Learn: The different ways wholeness in womanhood manifests within us The power and influence women naturally have in their households and communities Current issues faced by many modern women and how we can overcome them
This week on the Marina Perry Podcast, Marina chats with Devashi Shakti about fostering wholeness in womanhood in this part 2 live special. Devashi has been a leader in the feminine embodiment space for years and creator of Tigress Yoga- yoga for women by women-centered around female empowerment. Today, being a woman amplifies the incredible challenge of embodying trust and surrender in uncertain times. To feel safe in our body and trust the divine plan for humanity. Practicing to surrender is about trusting the intellect of your instinctive body, which has far more knowledge than we realize. It's about trusting the bigger parts of yourself that know precisely what's going on and how to lead you through this time and leaning into them. Paying attention to the subtle experiences of your body can help. When someone is so dysregulated and wounded, they pass on to the people they encounter each day. Being on the receiving end of that trauma is like an artificial veil over the truth, and we mistakenly believe things about ourselves and our worth. The wholeness journey is an opportunity to cleanse yourself of trauma and clear that out of your space so that you can be more complete. Just because we can do something doesn't mean we always should. Humanity can evolve to be truly wise and constantly learning more, and a lot of the work is letting go of false perception. As we become older and wiser, the discernment point is, "at what cost," and where we hold the line and say we've gone too far. Will we be brave enough to make that correction when that moment comes? The ability of women to imprint their children with experience is unbelievably essential to furthering humanity. Listen to your inner knowing even when it's heavily contrasted with the status quo and cultivate that learning. It starts with being willing to face contrast—question what your soul is driving you to question and have the courage to follow through on it. What You Will Learn: What it means to be a modern woman and the struggles of wholeness How trauma plays into the wholeness journey What we can do to not only develop our own wholeness but pass our experiences on to the next generation