A widespread conundrum that cannegatively impacts the self-esteem level of people of all shapes and sizes is taking SHIT too personally, wearing your heart on your sleeve. Someone looks at you the wrong way. Someone had an attitude with you. Someone rudely bumped into you at the grocery store. Why the fuck is everyone out to get me this week? When people disrespect you or treat you poorly, t’s easy to take their actions and/or words personally, especially when you’re already in a rut to begin with. The benefit of not taking shit so personally is that you remain in control of your emotions, reaction, and energy. The SHIT we’re talking about here is other people’s emotions, reactions, and energy! The SHIT you have absolutely no control over. Unconsciously, we usually automatically assume that what someone else says or does was targeted at us specifically. It’s not uncommon to take SHIT out of context here and there. Taking SHIT personally is emotionally draining, and needless, co...
Social media is addictive. We’ve all read articles, studies and blog posts about the harmful effects of overindulging on social media. Researchers and experts in the industry havecompared mobile phones to gambling VIA slot machines. "It's a popular addiction right now, one of the still socially acceptable ones," says Laurie Gerber, anexpert life coachof theHandel Group. It can be fun but also maddening.It can make you feel less alone, but also trigger feelings of loneliness and incompetence. If you’re spending a lot of time onsocial media, it can be hard to imagine a daily routine without it. Taking a break from social media is a fantastic way to reconnect with the people and activities that truly uplift and motivate you. Use the time you’d otherwise be wasting on social media to read, write, work-out, and spend time with loved ones. You’ll get more work done, faster. Quote: “When it comes to social media, there are just times I turn off the world, you know. There are just some...
Have you ever felt like the whole world was conspiring against you?! Your job sucks. Your bank account is dwindling. Your spilled coffee all over your favorite shirt. Your friends don’t invite you out anymore. You probably feel used, abused, rejected, and depressed. Maybe you even feel like you deserve to suffer. Peace, success, and happiness seem so, so, so FAR AWAY. To tie a bow on this trail of misery, you’re a perpetual victim. Victimhood is an inescapable reality for you. But what if you didn’t have to feel like this anymore? What if you could put an end to the suffering? Could you imagine how your connections, profession and wellbeing would FLOURISH?! Being victimized can come in all shapes and forms. You could have your trust betrayed by someone near and dear to you, you could be a victim of a horrible crime, you could be a victim of your own mindset. We all have people like this in our lives, or maybe it’s you that operates under this pessimistic belief system; always bi...
Have you ever heard the origin story of the Nobel Peace Prize?! Alfred Nobel paradoxically was the visionary behind the Nobel Peace Prize, which has been awarded 962 times since 1901. While Nobel’s award fund would ultimately become famous, there’s no refuting that he was an unlikely source for a peace prize. His family name was “associated not with the arts of peace but with the arts of war.” What encouraged the “dynamite king” to donate his fortune to charity? Many believe it was inspired by a case of mistaken identity. In 1888, Nobel’s brother Ludvig had died in France from a heart attack. Credited to poor reporting, at least one French newspaper believed that it was Alfred who had perished, and it proceeded to write a blistering obituary that branded him a “merchant of death” who had grown rich by forming new ways to “mutilate and kill.” The mistake was later remedied, but not before Alfred had the horrible experience of reading his own death notification. According t...
If you suddenly passed away today, would someone come looking for you?! Would anyone wonder where you disappeared to? Would your dog eat you? How long would it take for someone tocome knocking down your doorto find you? One can only hope it’s ASAP. It’s a strange thought, but one we’ve all confronted in the past in one form or another, usually at our lowest low point. For one woman, this scary thought experiment was a grim, unfortunate reality. On January 25, 2006, members of a housing association innorthernLondon were heading out to repossess an apartment that hadn’t paid it’s rent for a LONG TIME. They made their way into the living quarters and found a horrifying scene before them—a bunch of unopened Christmas presents on the floor, a stack of unopened mail by the door, a television set to the BBC network…and a skeleton lying on the couch. Quote: “The loneliest moment in someone’s life is when they are watching their whole world fall apart, and all they can do is stare b...
Whether you are the central decision maker at your business, the Head Nurse on the frontlines of the healthcare system, the team captain of your college basketball team, or the CARETAKER of your FAMILY unit . . . YOU NEED to stay healthy and functioning optimally 100%, 100% of the time. Your network, your universe, your PEOPLE, NEED you to be on top of your game, in tip top condition as it relates to your health, and more specifically, your immune system. The idea ofenhancing your immunityis terribly exciting, but the capability to do so has proved mysterious for several reasons. There is still much that researchers don't know about the intricacies and interconnectedness of the immune response. Researchers who are WAY SMARTER THAN ME are studying the effects of diet, exercise, age, psychological stress, and other factors on immune response. Quote: Nature is a numbers game. We need all the support we can get as our immune systems and health are under assault from pollution, stress, c...
You are YOUR own worst enemy. How many times have ya heard that one over the years?!? In the process of manifesting the life you truly desire; we very often can’t get out of our own way. Whether we want to find love, lose weight, or complete a creative project, we can very easily find ways to self-sabotage. Self-sabotage involves characteristics and/or emotions that keep you away from what you desire most in life. It’s that inner sentiment eating away at us, saying “you can’t do this.” At some point, we all experience self-doubt, even successful business owners, professional athletes, uber famous celebrities, etc. A bit of self-doubt is not only expected, but also healthy. It’s a part of human nature. But highlysuccessful peopledon't let self-doubt derail them from what they set out to accomplish. You may be wondering, “What is the origin of such self-sabotaging behavior?!” “What the fuck is making me have all of these doubtful thoughts?!” It arises when your conscious and...
The idea of the four temperaments traces back to an Ancient Greek notion that there were four underlying, essential bodily humors (blood, yellow bile, black bile, and phlegm) which could cause disease and infection if they were out of balance. The terms sanguine, choleric, melancholic, and phlegmatic were invented by the Greek physician Aelius Galenus to define the effect of these humors on human behavior. This idea is perhaps one of the oldest that concepts that begins to develop a medical theory on personality. This theory is still popular today, widely used in the fields of management, psychology, and leadership. Being cognizant of these temperaments and understanding how they operate can assist with social interactions and communications. Analyzing these dynamics can help us become more self-aware and assess how teams function together, for example. To determine which temperament type I leaned towards most, I took the OSSP Four Temperaments Scale TEST on OpenPsychometrics.org, which is a free and open-source measure designed to match the taker to one of the four temperaments. After answering 24 question, you receive a “score” from 1-24 on each of the four temperament types. My score for Choleric was 6, Melancholic was 5, Sanguine was 19 and Phlegmatic was 12. Quote: I think we judge talent wrong. What do we see as talent? I think I have made the same mistake myself. We judge talent by people's ability to strike a cricket ball. The sweetness, the timing. That's the only thing we see as talent. Things like determination, courage, discipline, temperament, these are also talent. – Rahul Dravid As discussed in Episode #077 of The Motivation Movement, it’s no easy task to completely shift our temperament from negative to positive, but we can take action to make progress towards a more desired state of mind and life in general. When asking ourselves “how can I control my temperament?”, understanding your natural disposition is crucial. So, let’s dive into the FOUR different types of TEMPERAMENT . . . Sanguine, Choleric, Melancholic and Phlegmatic! The SANGUINEpersonality type is described mainly as being highly talkative, enthusiastic, active, and social. Cholericindividuals tend to be more extroverted. They are described as independent, decisive, goal-oriented, and ambitious. Melancholicindividuals tend to be analytical and detail-oriented, and they are deep thinkers and feelers. They are introverted and try to avoid being singled out in a crowd. The Phlegmatic temperament is fundamentallyrelaxedandquiet, ranging from warmly attentive to lazily sluggish. Phlegmatic are referred to as“the watcher”— they are best in positions of unity and mediation, and solid in positions that desire steadiness. https://mruddo.com
We’ve all been there at one time or another: stuck in limbo. The unknown is a frightening place to be, and can leave you feeling powerless, defeated, and helpless. How do we develop the life skills to navigate through the unknown? How do we maintain control in a completely undefined environment? Do these unusual conditions which possibly lie ahead occupy your headspace often? Our brain has a negativity bias which is tricky to manage, coping with unanticipated events is difficult enough without our brain compounding and amplifying the worst possible imaginable scenario. The equivalent of Google searching what a pain in your left-hand pinky could mean and assuming you have a fatal, terminal disease based off a WebMD generalization. Quote: “I wanted a perfect ending. Now I’ve learned, the hard way, that some poems don’t rhyme, and some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment, and making the best of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next. Delicious ambiguity.”– Gilda Radner Delicious ambiguity . . . PERFECT! Life is about the journey, not the destination. You’ve heard it a million times. We struggle to understand WHY certain events take place in our live, till weeks, months or years later it all seems so clear. Uncertainty is not “bad” in itself; it’s our tolerance of the unknown that defines our reaction and the ensuing impact on our life. The best way to deal with ambiguity is to build up your tolerance. Here are FOUR ways to accomplish this. 1. Change Your Expectation to PLANS! 2. Boost Your EMOTIONAL Intelligence 3. Become MORE Flexible and Adaptable 4. Preemptively Practice Meditation and Mindfulness Learning to live with uncertainty is one of the great challenges of life. By no means is this a simple challenge, but it’s essential to conquer in order to living a fulfilled, stress free life. Welcome novelty and thrill which go hand and hand with uncertainty by asserting your belief to move through it with ease.The key takeaway is to reveal yourself to the unknown, the random uncertainty of life, by building up a tolerance to it. Life is chock-full of uncertainty; we’ve just got to learn to live withit. Take advantage of the unknown. Plan for the unknown. Embrace the unknown. https://mruddo.com
Why does time feel like it moves so much faster as you age? Maybe, when you’re young, the novelty of everything you experience being so new and fresh is what grounds us to the present, the here and now. Every day is an adventure. Every day we learn something new. When you grow and turn into an old fart, everything seemingly becomes less exciting. Repetition sets in. Everyday feels the same. You went from life in the fast lane, high speeds, to slow and steady cruise control. It’s not the worst thing in the world, but the truth is, you’re living life on autopilot. Living life on autopilot becomes dangerous when we go with the motion too much, with no resistance at all. It’s almost as if we lose consciousness of our experience being so wrapped up in the hustle and bustle of everyday life. One day you snap out of it and realize: “HOLY SHIT, time is moving really fast and I’ve been doing the same damn thing every fucking day for the past 8 months. I haven’t paid attention to my health, my spirit, my mind, my needs and my dream.” We’ve been conditioned to think less and do more. Quote: Very often, human beings are living like on autopilot, reacting automatically with what happens. What interests me about the life of an explorer is you are in the unknown; you are out of your habits. – Bertrand Piccard When we live on autopilot, it feels likesomeone else is driving, not us. Signs You’re Living Life on Autopilot: - Does every day seem like a blur to you?! - Are you always busy and on-the-go?! - Do you mindlessly scroll through social media? - Are you dreading the monotony of every day life?! How to STOP Living Life on Autopilot: - Slow the F*CK down, relax and reflect. - Bring meaning and intention to every day activities. - Get out of your comfort zone! - Challenge yourself, push it to the limit. https://mruddo.com