#40 - A lovely question we have today that many curious minds probably want to know as well: "My fiance and I have this attraction for our unicorn/friend and would like to have a threesome with her, but we don't know how to do approach her. Do we ask her directly? Do we tell her we find her attractive and ask if she would like to join us later in the evening? Do we wait until one night where we get a bit tipsy and approach her? Or do I let my fiance make the move? P.S. We've never had a threesome before. Thank you for the advice!" And we've got some other fun stuff in store, such as how to approach swinging when your wife is really picky and the real concern of what you can do to prevent the risk of an unwanted pregnancy. No questions are off-limits, so tune in now! To learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit: https://www.openlove101.com
#39 - People often assume that if you’re in an open relationship, you can’t be friends with people in other relationship models. This is simply not true! In this episode, you’ll hear about how our hosts are friends with different people in different relationship models, how their relationship has struck up conversations that they wouldn’t normally have had with certain people, and how this relationship model often allows you to have a different vantage point in a conversation. We discuss the fears we have of letting people know what kind of relationship model we have, the difference between real fears and imagined fears, how people can surprise us, and how people’s judgments and preconceived notions are challenged when they get to know us. For this open conversation on owning your relationship model in friendships with people in different relationship models, tune in today! To learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit https://openlove101.com
#38 - If you have questions about meeting others in the lifestyle, you are not alone. In today’s episode, we discuss some of those many questions about how to go about meeting people. We discuss where to start if you want to meet and attract the more elite, attractive, and fit crowd, how to make connections with people who are more experienced in the lifestyle, and how to break into a clique or get to know people when you move to a new city. Tuning in you’ll hear advice from our years of experience in the lifestyle. You’ll learn about how to meet people with similar qualities, why you should sometimes look beyond the physical, the value of adult social dating sites, and why sometimes you just need to risk rejection and break the ice. Tune in today for a whole lot of helpful tips on putting yourself out there and getting to know others! To learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit: https://openlove101.com
#37 - Today we’re discussing all things gratitude. Tuning in you’ll hear about the greeting card that John received from Jackie and how it inspired this episode. You’ll also hear about our gratitude challenge and what we have learned from keeping gratitude journals. We discuss the similarities between compliments and expressions of gratitude and how accepting both these things fills our love banks. Tuning in you’ll hear how our hosts’ approach to gratitude has changed over the years, how Jackie has learned to be grateful for her own qualities, and why you too should do the gratitude challenge before our hosts let us in on the contents of that gratitude card! For all this and more, tune in today! You’ll be grateful you did :) To learn more about open relationships and the swing lifestyle, visit: http://www.openlove101.com
#36 - Men's Health magazine did an interesting poll in one of their articles and we're discussing the results today. Here are some of the fun facts we talk about. 33% of men sexually experimented with something new during the pandemic; one of the main reasons for doing that was due to STRESS. 27% of guys had sex in a new position they've never had before. 25% dabbled in role play for the first time. 9% of men have been on the receiving end of _______ for the first time.... Can't spoil the entire list for you! It continues on and we dive deeper into the minds of men in our discussion today. To learn more about open relationships and the swing lifestyle, visit: http://www.openlove101.com
#35 - We're answering these lifestyle questions today: 1) how do I tell someone they're pushing my boundaries and I'm uncomfortable? 2) how do I tell my family that I've chosen the lifestyle? 3) is it ok to tell my partner that I think someone else is hot? If you want to learn more about open relationships and the swinger lifestyle, visit https://openlove101.com
#34 - Consent is something we've talked about for a while and something we should continue to talk about as things change over the years. Whether it's at a club, party, or event, even though you're at a sex positive environment, getting consent to play, touch, or even watch is extremely important these days. And it goes for all genders as well! Today we discuss the importance of consent and how it plays into a successful open relationship with your partner and others. And to learn more about the swinger lifestyle and open relationships, just visit https://openlove101.com
#33 - Ever had one of those things you just started doing for one reason or another and didn't think much of it? And then one day all of a sudden it turns into this incredible "thing" that you don't know what you'd do without it? Maybe it was that day you decided to say hello (or hello back) to someone you thought was attractive and now that person is your partner. Maybe it was that day you saw two lines instead one on the pregnancy test. For us, it's kind of like both of the two combined :) because that's how we feel when we started Openlove101, what we've given birth to (unknowingly), and what we love so much today. So we'd like to tell the quick story of this Openlove101 blog came to be! And to learn more about the swinger lifestyle and open relationships, just visit https://openlove101.com
#32 - I (Jackie Melfi) will be doing a short interview with John Melfi, owner of colette clubs in Dallas, Houston, NOLA, and Austin. Part of how Openlove101 was started was due to being a byproduct of colette, so we'll be exploring some of the history and context of how the clubs and this swinger lifestyle journey started. Maybe there are some parallels with your story and how our lives have crossed paths where we're connecting with you today here. Hope you enjoy watching this as much as I did interviewing! To learn more about open relationships, the lifestyle, and consensual non-monogamy, go to: https://openlove101.com
#31 - Being in the lifestyle, do I have to give blowjobs? It may seem like a peculiar question at first, but there's some background and context to it that will make sense after you hear it, so tune in! And to learn more about open relationships, the lifestyle, and consensual non-monogamy, go to: https://openlove101.com