Let's talk about Libido... in particular, how do we overcome libido discrepancy? (i.e.: when one partner wants more sex than the other.) While we are at it, let's take it a step further and throw parenting, life, and a little kink into the mix! In this episode, I'm going to address an insightful question from a follower concerning how to talk to their partner about the tough subject of getting more sex when one partner isn't feeling it. I also take you on a deep dive into a conflict resolution technique called "The Imago Dialogue" (and how it can be used as check-in method for D/s dynamics), how this fits in with creating more responsive desire, as well as teach you how to find what your inner self actually needs from sex. I'll also give actionable steps to reframe what pleasure is, and build a container of safety that will help partners connect on a deeper level, even when sex isn't on the menu! Let's get going! Links for this episode: Video Podcast Version Dr. K's Imago-Inspired D/s Relationship Dialogue Script will be available on Patreon and her Online Center for Sexuality & Kink Education Book: Come as You Are by Dr. Emily Nagowski Book: The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel Van Der Kolk Book: Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships by Stella Harris Book: Becoming Cliterate by Laurie Mintz Book: Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples by Helen LaKelly Hunt (Great info on the Imago Dialogue) Site: The Imago Relationship Official Site Additional Resources: Site:TASHRA (The Alternative Sexualities Health Research Alliance) Site:TASHRA's Research Site:The Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality Dr. K’s Official Goodreads page – For the Book Lover Dr. K's Official Website _____________________ Peep my Instagram Twitch with me!LIVE Digital Magazine -Intellectual Intoxication - Dr. K's Gallery Musings & Gallery Dr. K's Kink-Affirming Holistic Coaching Practice Additional Resources: Consent Counts Resources from the NCSF (National Council for Sexual Freedom) About SESTA/FOSTA:Information relating to how the changes in the law have to affect TOS across social media and inadvertently create issues for those in the field of sexual and reproductive health. Reid's Safer Sex Elevator Speech Dr. K’s Official Goodreads page – For the Book Lover Psss…. Don’t forget to check outThe Submissive Next Door Podcast on Apple Podcast/iTunes– subscribe and give us a rating, pretty please!If you like what you hear and see, please consider becoming aPatreon.Patreon members get podcast episodes, exclusive bonus videos, and my personal sex-positive Zine, Intellectual Intoxication. The Zine showcases my provocative photography projects along with topics such as erotica writing, holistic sexuality, liberating art, embodiment, rituals with a witchy-vibe starting at $3 a month. It's you all that keep the podcast going! Thank you! _________________________________________________ Affiliate Links – Feel like shopping? Use these links to get a discount and help support the podcast too! 1st Phorm - Elite Fitness Products for High-Performance Training and Health The Stockroom – BDSM and D/s luxury toys, tools, and gear Le Wand - Luxury Sex Toys with an empowerment mindset! The CowGirl - The Award-Winning Riding Sex Toy Lovense – Luxury High Tech Sex Toys for Love at a Distance SheVibe – Sex Positive Sex Toys for the Adventurous! Social Links Exclusive Content – Discord – Social Links
Are you all as stressed out as I am these days? In this episode, I'm analyzing the science behind stress from the perspective of the Stress Response Cycle, and how our sexuality plays into it. In addition, I'm going to discuss different ways to combat it from a holistic approach, including a thoughtful discussion on how mindful masturbation can be used as a tool to aid in wellbeing and stress managementment. As a bonus, this episode includes a 15 minute Chakra balancing body-scan guided medication to help you achieve a restful state of bliss at the end of the day. Get comfy and a settle-in for some serious self-care tonight! Links for this episode: Book: Burnout By Dr. Emily Nagoski Forsale18's Positive Thots St. Patrick's Day special with Dr. K on Positive Thots Twitch Stream Site:TASHRA (The Alternative Sexualities Health Research Alliance) Site:TASHRA's Research Site:The Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality Dr. K’s Official Goodreads page – For the Book Lover Dr. K's Official Website _____________________ Peep my Instagram- IG LIVES, AMAs, Reels, Kink, Modeling, and Fitness Posts Twitch with me!LIVE Digital Magazine - Intellectual Intoxication - Dr. K's Gallery Musings & Gallery Resources: Consent Counts Resources from the NCSF (National Council for Sexual Freedom) About SESTA/FOSTA:Information relating to how the changes in the law have to affect TOS across social media and inadvertently create issues for those in the field of sexual and reproductive health. Reid's Safer Sex Elevator Speech Dr. K’s Official Goodreads page – For the Book Lover Psss…. Don’t forget to check outThe Submissive Next Door Podcast on Apple Podcast/iTunes– subscribe and give us a rating, pretty please!If you like what you hear and see, please consider becoming aPatreon.Patreon members get podcast episodes, exclusive bonus videos, and my personal sex-positive Zine, Intellectual Intoxication. The Zine showcases my provocative photography projects along with topics such as erotica writing, holistic sexuality, liberating art, embodiment, rituals with a witchy-vibe starting at $3 a month. It's you all that keep the podcast going! Thank you! _________________________________________________ Affiliate Links – Feel like shopping? Use these links to get a discount and help support the podcast too! 1st Phorm - Elite Fitness Products for High-Performance Training and Health The Stockroom – BDSM and D/s luxury toys, tools, and gear Lovense – Luxury High Tech Sex Toys for Love at a Distance SheVibe – Sex Positive Sex Toys for the Adventurous! Social Links Exclusive Content – Discord – Social Links
Are you ready to get down and nerdy with me? Good! And yes, you read the episode number right... I had a brain malfunction and skipped 37, so we are looping back around! In this episode, I take you on a deep dive discussion on the neuroscience of BDSM, the theories behind what makes kink and BDSM a positive experience to those who seek the endorphin rush, as well as the case studies around the prevalence of kink and BDSM today. Class is now in session! Links for this episode: Book: The Leather Couch: Clinical Practice with Kinky Clients by Stefani Goerlich Book: Why Good Sex Matters by Dr. Nan Wise Research Article: Physical Pain as Pleasure: A Theoretical Perspective by Cara Dunkley, Craig Henshaw, Saira Henshaw and Lori Brotto Site: TASHRA (The Alternative Sexualities Health Research Alliance) Site: TASHRA's Research Site: The Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality Case Study Findings: The Health & Healthcare Experience of Kink-Oriented People (2016) Research Article: The Effect of Sexual Arousal and Emotional Arousal on Working Memory by Ricky Au, and Verity Tang Dr. K’s Official Goodreads page – For the Book Lover Dr. K's Official Website _____________________ Peep my Instagram- IG LIVES, AMAs, Reels, Kink, Modeling, and Fitness Posts Twitch with me!LIVE Resources: Consent Counts Resources from the NCSF (National Council for Sexual Freedom) About SESTA/FOSTA:Information relating to how the changes in the law have to affect TOS across social media and inadvertently create issues for those in the field of sexual and reproductive health. Reid's Safer Sex Elevator Speech Dr. K’s Official Goodreads page – For the Book Lover Psss…. Don’t forget to check outThe Submissive Next Door Podcast on Apple Podcast/iTunes– subscribe and give us a rating, pretty please!If you like what you hear and see, please consider becoming aPatreon.Patreon members get podcast episodes, exclusive bonus videos, and my personal sex-positive Zine, Intellectual Intoxication. The Zine showcases my provocative photography projects along with topics such as erotica writing, holistic sexuality, liberating art, embodiment, rituals with a witchy-vibe starting at $3 a month. It's you all that keep the podcast going! Thank you! _________________________________________________ Affiliate Links – Feel like shopping? Use these links to get a discount and help support the podcast too! 1st Phorm - Elite Fitness Products for High-Performance Training and Health The Stockroom – BDSM and D/s luxury toys, tools, and gear Lovense – Luxury High Tech Sex Toys for Love at a Distance SheVibe – Sex Positive Sex Toys for the Adventurous! Social Links Exclusive Content – Discord – Social Links
Are you ready for an ADHD-infused conversation about ADHD? Good! Me too! This episode dives deep into Ari Tuckman's book "ADHD After Dark", case studies, and more, while I share the down and dirty details about how I handle my tendencies during those intimate moments. I'll also share highlights about my appearance on Forsale18's Twitch Stream, "Positive Thots", as well as everything I have found so far as I work on an academic literature review on ADHD & Sexuality. Get ready! This is a long episode! The video version of this episode is available on Patreon! Thank you for all your support! Links for this episode: ADHD After Dark by Ari Tuckman Positive Thots on Twitch with Forsale18 Research Article: Diagnosis, Assessment, and Treatment of Hypersexuality by Meg Kaplan Site Article: We have ADHD. This is How We Have a Lot of Sex Research Article: Hypersexuality: Psychopathology or normal variant of sexuality? Site Article: When ADHD Disrupts (and ruins) the Romance Site Resource: ADHD and Marriage Site Article: My ADHD Brain and 4 Odd Things that Freak it Out Book Resource: Taming Your Gremlin (A Surprisingly Simple Method for Getting Out of Your Own Way) Dr. K’s Official Goodreads page – For the Book Lover Dr. K's Official Website _____________________ Peep my Instagram- IG LIVES, AMAs, Reels, Kink, Modeling, and Fitness Posts Twitch with me!LIVE Resources: Consent Counts Resources from the NCSF (National Council for Sexual Freedom) About SESTA/FOSTA:Information relating to how the changes in the law have to affect TOS across social media and inadvertently create issues for those in the field of sexual and reproductive health. Reid's Safer Sex Elevator Speech Dr. K’s Official Goodreads page – For the Book Lover Psss…. Don’t forget to check outThe Submissive Next Door Podcast on Apple Podcast/iTunes– subscribe and give us a rating, pretty please!If you like what you hear and see, please consider becoming aPatreon.Patreon members get podcast episodes, exclusive bonus videos, and my personal sex-positive Zine, Intellectual Intoxication. The Zine showcases my provocative photography projects along with topics such as erotica writing, holistic sexuality, liberating art, embodiment, rituals with a witchy-vibe starting at $3 a month. It's you all that keep the podcast going! Thank you! _________________________________________________ Affiliate Links – Feel like shopping? Use these links to get a discount and help support the podcast too! The Stockroom – BDSM and D/s luxury toys, tools, and gear Lovense – Luxury High Tech Sex Toys for Love at a Distance SheVibe – Sex Positive Sex Toys for the Adventurous! Check out The Submissive Next Door'sBack Room Social Links Exclusive Content – Discord – Social Links
I am so excited to bring you this very special episode! Big Daddy is here and he opens up about D/s dynamics from a Dom's perspective, maintaining a dynamic during a pandemic while working overtime, favorite scenes, orgasms, consent, and so much more! We also bring y'all on a deep discussion about check-ins, favorite toys, and finding pleasure through rituals. Dismantling stereotypes, one sex-positive conversation at a time! Links for this episode: Dr. K’s Official Goodreads page – For the Book Lover Dr. K's Official Website _____________________ Peep my Instagram - IG LIVES, AMAs, Reels, Kink, Modeling, and Fitness Posts Twitch with me! LIVE Resources: Consent Counts Resources from the NCSF (National Council for Sexual Freedom) About SESTA/FOSTA: Information relating to how the changes in the law have to affect TOS across social media and inadvertently create issues for those in the field of sexual and reproductive health. Reid's Safer Sex Elevator Speech Dr. K’s Official Goodre...
It's 2022 and I have a list of resolutions for you! In this episode, I'm going to not only go into an ADHD tangent or two (when don't I? lol) but also give you a list of my Top 10 New Year's Resolutions aimed to level up your pleasure, expand your mind, improve your self-confidence, and boost self-love! As always, grab your favorite drink, and let's chill! Links for this episode: Dr. K’s Official Goodreads page – For the Book Lover The Society for the Scientific Study ofSexuality Journal of Sex Research Journal of Marital and Sex Therapy Journal of Sexual Medicine American Journal of Sexuality Education Journal of Black Sexuality and Relationships Archives of Sexual Behavior National Coalition of Sexual Freedom _____________________ Peep my Instagram - IG LIVES, AMAs, Reels, Kink, Modeling, and Fitness Posts Twitch with me! LIVE Resources: Consent Counts Resources from the NCSF (National Council for Sexual Freedom) About SESTA/FOSTA: Information relating to how the changes in the ...
I'm back! In this episode, I'll explain my hiatus, what projects are in the works, a new course launching THIS WEEK for others looking to get into podcasting within the realm of sexual education, and we chat about a few topics that sprang up for me while watching The Wheel of Time during a recent TV binge. From polyamory, sexism, to power dynamics I noticed in this Prime TV series that has me left with extremely mixed feelings. Come chill with your friendly neighborhood Submissive Next Door and get nerdy with me! Links for this episode: Wheel of Time on Amazon Here is another great critical review of Wheel of Time by The Mythcreants And another from Tor.com Wheel of Time on Rotton Tomatoes _____________________ Peep my Instagram - IG LIVES, AMAs, Reels, Kink, Modeling, and Fitness Posts Twitch with me! LIVE Resources: Consent Counts Resources from the NCSF (National Council for Sexual Freedom) About SESTA/FOSTA: Information relating to how the changes in the law have to affect TOS a...
QA with Dr. K! I swear, I have the best fans and followers around :) Y'all send in some of the best, most passionate questions that deserve much more in-depth answers than what I can often convey in a single comment or 1-minute clip. In this episode, I'm going to discuss some questions submitted from fans that range from methods and communication techniques for bringing up the idea of kink to partner, get in-depth about the exciting dynamics of brats and their tammers, and the more therapeutic aspects of D/s for anxiety and panic attacks. Links for this episode: Article: How BDSM Might Benefit Your Health and Improve Your Relationship Dissertation: Negotiating Self: An Exploration of Women ' s Perceptions of Their Feminist and Submissive Identities Article: BRAT BDSM: Everything You Want to Know About Brats Article: A Dom's Guide to Panic Attacks and BDSM (caring for their sub) _____________________ Peep my NEW Instagram - Regular IG LIVES, AMAs, Reels, Kink, Modeling, and Fitness P...
The inner mind of an erotica writer is a strange and adventurous place... and when you combine that with a nerdy service sub with brat tendencies, well.. you get an episode like this! In this episode, we are going to take a trip down the rabbit hole and see what kind of fetishes, kinks (like Acousticophilia and Autagonistophilia), and provocative prose we find! I'll tell you about my newest paranormal erotica, "Dark Heat", the deliciousness I found while researching new kinks to write about, and give you just a taste of the audio version of the book! WARNING: THIS EPISODE (like all my episodes really ) IS INTENDED FOR 18+ AND IS EXPLICIT IN NATURE. pst... you can also check out the video version! Links for this episode: A Kinky Fetish Dictionary Peep my NEW Instagram - Regular IG LIVES, AMAs, Reels, Kink, Modeling, and Fitness Posts Patreon - Erotica, Audios, Kink Workshops, Courses, Merch, Discounts, and more and select photography projects! Twitch with me! LIVE Every Tuesday and T...
If you haven't heard, OnlyFans just announced a massive shift in their terms of service that has models, *corn* stars, and spicy accountants scrambling to answers questions. It will no longer be allowing sexually explicit content as of Oct. 1st and creators have until December to remove offensive content that goes against the TOS. Questions like: Where do we go? What happens to all the content that my fans have paid for if I have to delete it all? Will OF refund the fans or will I have to? What about fans that purchased a 3, 6, or 12-month membership for content that will no longer be allowed? We will talk about it all here! With my background in technology and platform testing, I took to the quest of running through use-case testing of nearly every reputable alternative to OF that I could find and will break down each one in this episode, as well as discuss the business decision that just might put OnlyFans under. I also discuss what the hell happened to my IG account (yup.. spoile...