Get my book Radical Confidence NOWhttps://www.radicalconfidence.com/UDX497 Get my FREE 4-part Confidence Coursehttps://www.radicalconfidence.com/cdg501?r_done=1 Listen NOW to the WOI Podcasthttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/women-of-impact/id1435217865 On Today's Episode: What if the gap in equal pay for men and women is partly our own fault? What if in the spirit of Extreme Ownership and Self-Empowerment we saw part of the gap that exists as a result of us not being comfortable asking for more money? When we never ask or have the discussion about our initial salary, over an entire career we can fall short over $1 million in wages.Not negotiating your salary literally costs a fortune!Linda Babcock has a PhD in Economics, is a James M. Walton Professor of Economics, and is an expert on gender equity that researches equal pay and opportunity for women and girls to harness the power of negotiation. In this episode, Linda is sharing the blueprint we all need as women to become better negotiators.If you didn’t negotiate your last salary, if you’ve been avoiding making certain requests with your boss because it’s uncomfortable or you’re afraid of the pushback and possible negative reaction of asking for what you want, then THIS EPISODE IS A MUST FOR YOU!It’s easy to celebrate other people, and advocate why they are deserving of that promotion and salary increase, but it’s close to impossible when it comes to doing the same for ourselves. So, Linda is making this very practical and giving you the what, the why, and the how of getting what you want and negotiating like a pro. Here’s a hint, it starts with your mindset!Negotiation is a dialogue and a problem solving activity. The sooner you learn that questioning is a powerful strategy for negotiating and change your focus to having a discussion, and problem solving you’ll be way more comfortable and have much more success.Check out Linda Babcock’s books to take your negotiation skills to the next level.The No Club: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B09JPHNHGJ/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_hsch_vapi_tkin_p1_i0 Women Don’t Ask: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B08CR5GGZL/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_hsch_vapi_tkin_p1_i2 SHOW NOTES:0:00 | Introduction to Linda Babcock0:22 | Why Women Don’t Negotiate7:13 | Rethink Negotiation vs. Asking14:07 | Why Negotiation Has High Costs18:17 | Blueprint for Saying ‘NO’28:32 | Activate Negotiation Super Power 35:25 | Non-Negotiables & Being Told ‘NO’39:21 | Negotiating Personal Relationships45:33 | Know Your Triggers Before TimeQUOTES:“That is something that society tolerates from women is that women are allowed to be assertive on behalf of other people.” [4:33]“If you think about negotiation as a conflict, as a battle, as a war, as like threats and as aggressive behavior is what will work, then you’re going to be in big trouble.” [7:51]“The best way to think about negotiation is a cooperative problem solving activity.” [8:21]“Women are asked to do things more than men because we know they’re going to say yes.” [19:38]“If this ask was for today, would I feel just as excited about doing it, and the answer’s probably no.” [24:56]“You have to envision you sitting side by side trying to solve a problem rather than across a table [31:01]“A ‘no’ is not actually...
Are you struggling with an inner negative voice that tells you, “You’re not good enough,” and makes you feel insecure around your partner? It’s time, here and now, for you to shake off and silence that destructive way of thinking and step into a mindset of growth and positivity so that your relationship thrives in the long-term. On this episode of Relationship Theory, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters and more as they explore how you can get out of your own head, shake off and silence your inner negative voice, and adopt a growth mindset within your relationship. They discuss why its critical you break any patterns of negative thinking, the importance of being real and openly honest with your partner, how to allow your partner to challenge you in healthy ways, the power of adopting a student mentality, and why loving the process is a non-negotiable when pursuing your passions. SHOW NOTES: Breaking Patterns | Lisa and Tom discuss how to silence your inner negative voice. [0:34]Being Real | Lisa and Tom discuss why you need to encourage honesty. [3:42]Make Each Other Better | Lisa shares her story of overcoming feelings of inferiority. [4:53]Student Mentality | Tom and Lisa discuss how you can learn from your partner. [8:19]Love the Process | Tom and Lisa shares why you need to absolutely love the process. [9:24] QUOTES: “There’s nothing, nothing, worse in the long run than someone who is emotionally needy all the time. We all just have to step up, we all have to learn to love ourselves and be proud of ourselves. We cannot turn for external validation for that. It’s not a good look…” [2:40] “If you don’t love the process in and of itself, don’t do it, don’t go down the road…” [11:31] FOLLOW TOM:Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanACPodcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFL FOLLOW LISA:Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKhYouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcHPodcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0
How many times have you come across influencers and ads on social media promoting intermittent fasting for weight loss, increasing energy and feeling great? The issue for us as women is that we get half the story, none of the results we’re really after and rarely does it turn into anything we can sustain over time. You’re left feeling frustrated, anxious, still overweight and bloated, and more like your energy has taken a nosedive.The Fasting MD is on set this time with Lisa, Dr. Amy Shah, and the way she simplifies fasting for women that works in alignment with our cravings, our hormones and monthly cycles is seriously a Game Changer! Dr. Amy Shah is a double-board certified medical doctor specializing in food allergies, hormones and gut health. Her book, I’m So Effing Tired, is more like a groundbreaking blueprint for women to take control of their health like never before.In this episode Dr. Shah is laying out the foundational things we need to understand as women about our menstrual cycles and how to fast effectively to maximize your energy levels, your quality of sleep, and your hormones. Today is about how we stop fighting our biology, give ourselves grace, and learn to customize your approach to fasting, and why you’ll want to start fasting, like today (or at least tomorrow).Key Pointers from Dr. Shah:3-5 days Before Your Cycle: Avoid fasting, exercise, and big decisions - Eat high fiber, low glycemic foods. Focus on self care.Days 1-3 of your period - hormones are resetting, pay attention to how you are feeling.Day 14 of Your Monthly Cycle: Testosterone is spiking. Time to go harder on workout and make big confident bold moves during this time.How to Check-In with Yourself:How is your energy level?How is your sleep?How are your cravings?How are your hormones?Check out Dr. Amy Shah’s book, I’m So Effing Tired: https://www.amazon.com/Im-So-Effing-Tired-Burnout/dp/0358446422 SHOW NOTES:0:00 | Introduction to Dr. Amy Shah0:37 | Boosts How You Feel Every Day5:19 | Fasting In Flow With Your Cycle11:55 | How Fasting Improves Gut Health 17:28 | The Power of Circadian Fasting 22:56 | Live Healthier Without Sanitizing25:35 | Relationships & Your Gut Health34:05 | Sleep, Hormones, & Feeling Younger51:42 | How Fasting Reduces Inflammation58:25 | Stress-Eating “Comfort Foods”1:06:15 | Customize Intermittent Fasting1:16:00 | How to Eat For Your Cycle QUOTES:“Just like a nature walk is so good for you as a form of exercise [...] Circadian fasting, looking at time of day, and eating with the rhythm of the earth and with yourself is equivalent to a nature walk, everyone will benefit…” [1:27]“You’re feeling how the bacteria in your gut are feeling and what they walkie talkie to your brain.” [3:33]“Learn your cycle, it’s a vital sign.” [6:04]“Your confidence right now, your anxiety level, your happiness is coming from your gut…” [12:49]“Think about how biologically to support yourself, [17:05]“The circadian rhythms are everything, 80% of our body’s functions depend on circadian rhythms.” [19:23]“Your immune system needs to see other people, other bacteria, other illnesses. It needs that stimulation to be able to be as healthy as it can be.” [24:13]“Start to eat and live with your circadian rhythm, improve your diet quality, [...] you can feel twenty years younger.” [45:23]“Inflammation is total body health, and that’s where we’re going wrong in this world. We are eating foods that are so inflammatory, they are signals in our body that there is a problem.” [52:52]“We’re eating sugar, emulsifiers, toxic chemicals...
Go to https://www.radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life! On Today's Episode:Mutual respect is a must for any successful relationship. Disrespect isn’t always obvious and can take on many forms. Your partner may leave you feeling resentful, wary, unseen and unheard, if so listen up!The goal of this episode is to reveal the red flags you’ll want to pay attention to so that you can see what mutual healthy respect for each other looks like. Tom and Lisa Bilyeu have been together more than 20 years and have gone through all of the ups and downs and have experienced many trials and errors in learning how to have a long lasting relationship and beautiful life long shared experience together built on trust, respect, and open communication.So, if you’re not sure that your partner is respecting you, or it feels like you are both disagreeing at a fundamental level with no agreement in sight, it’s time to take notes on what may save your relationship or help you decide if it’s time to go.SHOW NOTES:0:00 | Introduction to Red Flags on Respect0:40 | They Weaponize Your Insecurities28:02 | They Don’t Work Through Conflict1:04:05 | They Don’t Support Your FeelingsQUOTES:“Manipulation is moving somebody to your advantage and influence is moving them to their advantage.” Tom Bilyeu [4:14]“To be in a relationship and make that person feel better about themselves when they’re around you is to understand that leadership is fluid, and there are going to be times when I’m leading, there’s going to be times when you’re leading…” [9:08]“When someone has a conflicting value with you they see the world in a way that you think is worse.” [30:01]“When the other person is doing something nice for you, lavish them with praise for that…” [50:39]“When you really think about what makes a couple powerful it’s the way that you shape each other's value system…” [1:06:43]“In life you go through phases. Enjoy every phase for what it has to offer.” [1:17:59]“Focusing on all these other things allows me to get my confidence in other places, so that as I just get older and older I’m not attached to that and I’m not feeling insecure about it.” Lisa Bilyeu [1:25:51]“I don’t think just asking your partner to be sweet and kind and understanding is the answer to the long term solution.” Lisa Bilyeu [1:30:42]Follow Tom Bilyeu:Website: https://impacttheory.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TomBilyeu Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tombilyeu/
On Today's Episode:Are you sensing a disconnection between you and your partner? Have you communicated to them your needs in a clear and reasonable way but they still aren’t being met? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to tackle what to do when, despite clear communication, your partner still isn’t putting in the extra effort to meet your needs. They discuss how to maintain a connection with your partner through texting, why respecting needs is critical in a relationship, how to negotiate so everyone’s needs are met, the feeling of guilt over not meeting your partner’s needs, and the power of honesty in a relationship.SHOW NOTES:Needs | Tom and Lisa discuss the importance of clarity when communicating your needs. [0:43]Leeway | Lisa and Tom share their texting habits during times of extended travel. [2:54]Respect | Lisa and Tom discuss the importance of having your needs respected. [5:35]Negotiate | Lisa and Tom discuss why you should be willing to negotiate your needs. [7:29]Guilt | Tom and Lisa discuss feeling guilt due to not meeting your partner’s needs. [7:57]Honesty | Lisa and Tom discuss the power of brutal honesty in your relationship. [9:10]Mindfulness | Lisa and Tom share how they came to terms with texting. [11:06]QUOTES:“The person who is refusing to send the text and is saying, “That’s stupid,” is making a critical error of judgement.” [2:09]“If someone is saying, “That’s stupid,” right off the bat, they clearly aren’t respecting your wishes.” [6:02]“Trying to give your partner what they want when you can, I think is pretty important.” [12:13]FOLLOW TOM:Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanACPodcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFLFOLLOW LISA:Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKhYouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcHPodcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0
Go to https://www.radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life! On Today's Episode: Let’s address the habits you have that are destroying the most important relationship in your life, and we’re not talking about the relationship with your significant other or your family either. It’s time to address the habits that are destroying your relationship with YOU!As women, there are so many unconscious messages and programming taking place from the time we are toddlers till even now. It’s hard to solve a problem you can’t see exists, and in this episode Lisa is going to shine the light on a few habits you need to stop and put an end to today!After watching this episode, you’re going to be careful when you choose to use the 3 letter word “yes”. You’ll be able to practice embracing the 2 letter word “no,” and you can start eliminating the 5 letter word of death, “sorry” from your vocabulary when it isn’t even necessary.Grab your pen and paper, we’ve got work to do. Lisa is rolling out a grand plan for how to stop habits that are detrimental to your self-esteem, that devalue your self-care, and that put you last on your list of priorities (if you’re making it to the list at all).Lisa Bilyeu is a successful entrepreneur, former housewife, all around badass and the best-sellling author of Radical Confidence. She’s about empowering women and sharing practical tips that allow you to get tactical with how you level up and channel your inner badass to become unstoppable!SHOW NOTES:0:00 | Introduction to Habits to Stop Doing!0:08 | Stop Saying Yes to Everyone!6:13 | Stop People Pleasing 15:43 | Break the Nice Girl Expectation23:45 | Don’t Get Walked Over 31:08 | Set Boundaries45:02 | To Apologize Or Not To ApologizeQUOTES:“Don’t say yes out of fear of saying no.” [3:22]“Don’t just instinctually say yes to things and then regret them after, [...] because you want to be liked.” [5:56]“I really did want to please them, but it became my own trap. It became the velvet handcuffs that I put on myself, and I chose to frickin’ throw away the key.” [9:55]“When you go from being a people pleaser, and you want to change that into being the person that is proud of yourself, where you show up and please yourself first, that is going to cause maybe some friction…” [12:14]“Read yourself your boundary rights because you have every frickin’ right to have them.” [31:10]“We need to stop apologizing, and yet in the same tone, we need to always apologize.” [45:03]“It can be detrimental to who you are by saying sorry to the things that aren’t your fault.” [49:10]“When you say you’re sorry for choosing selfcare ahead of anything else, what do you think that subliminal message is saying to you?” [50:38]Follow Lisa Bilyeu:Website: https://www.radicalconfidence.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu
Go to https://www.radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life! This episode was shot as part of Radical Confidence Live. For the full experience, check out this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/GwCiv96H2lgOn Today's Episode: Does the thought of defending yourself sound empowering or frightening? If someone were to cross a physical boundary with you, do you feel prepared and capable of protecting your boundaries?Safety is a primary concern when you are human, and it is even more of a concern when society isn’t doing the best job making you feel safe or capable of keeping yourself safe. Don’t dress that way and attract unwanted attention they say. Don’t w...
Love, trust, and the ever-growing connection between you and your partner. Are you focusing on these positive parts of your relationship, or are you letting anxiety, worry, and insecurity plant seeds of doubt and consume your mind? On this episode of Relationship Theory, Tom and Lisa Bilyeu sit down to discuss such matters as they explore how to deal with insecurities, worry, and anxiety that stems from the possibility of your partner cheating. They discuss how to overcome such negative feelings, steps you can take to confront your own insecurity, the best parts of love, why someone might cheat, and how to become emotionally sober.SHOW NOTES:Anxiety | Lisa and Tom discuss overcoming feelings of anxiety due to fears of cheating. [0:32]Insecure | Tom and Lisa discuss the steps you can take to deal with your insecurities. [2:26]Constant Reconnection | Tom and Lisa discuss the best parts of what love is about. [3:42]Why Someone Cheats | Lisa and Tom why cheating isn’t about looks. [6:06]Emotionally Sober | Lisa shares the power of being emotionally sober and empowered. [8:11]QUOTES:“Insecurity is not sexy.” [2:37]“The shared experience is what the game of love is about.” [3:42]FOLLOW TOM:Instagram: http://bit.ly/2s9lU90YouTube: http://bit.ly/2KWanACPodcast: https://spoti.fi/2xEloFLFOLLOW LISA:Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKhYouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcHPodcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW0
Stop everything you’re doing and listen up! Not asking yourself the right questions keeps the best part of you hidden from the ones you love and even worse, it keeps you from you. Going through your days feeling stuck and somehow not even conscious of what’s wrong, or that something is wrong, or that there is a way better existence possible is not okay! What will it take for you to stop walking through life ignoring messages meant to save you and start living more aware in the moment of your emotions, your needs, your wants and even better what you don’t want and need?Jenna Kutcher is the host of Goal Digger, the podcast that delivers life struggles, reframes, clarity and value through the lens of a mom, entrepreneur and marketing guru. She’s taking this dive with Lisa to discuss her first book, How Are You Really, and get to the heart of what so many women are struggling to articulate.Pause where you are right now, before you continue and think about where you will be in 5 years if you continue as you are today with no changes? Is this what you want for yourself? What needs to change for you to get excited and really look forward to a version of you 5 years out that is worth moving towards?In this episode, grab the pen and paper, Jenna and Lisa are bringing hard questions we all need to be brave enough to really answer. From aligning with the future vision you have for yourself to creating space that allows creativity and curiosity, and dealing with burnout, Jenna is bringing sunshine to the reality of the emotions we all face.Check out Jenna Kutcher's new book, How Are You Really: https://amzn.to/3O6QLdO SHOW NOTES:0:00 | Introduction to Jenna Kutcher0:50 | Stuck Avoiding The Hard Question11:25 | The 1st Step To Finding Your Truth 18:10 | Inviting Self Change 22:28 | Talked Out Of Your Feelings29:16 | Motherhood, “Shoulds” & Balance36:47 | Breakthrough Burnout With This42:27 | Boundaries Are the Hero51:23 | It’s Okay to Change Your MindQUOTES:“The universe, our intuition, maybe a friend, our bodies are all trying to get through to us, but we just keep on, [...] We keep on doing all these things and we ignore all of these messages.” [8:28]“If the answer is that ‘I’m not okay,’ then I’ve got to face that, and I think we’re afraid to face it.” [10:17]“I learn better through what’s not for me than understanding what is for me.” [15:51]“We get so overwhelmed by these big visions that we let our procrastination turn into paralyzation.” [17:45]“If I look back on my decade of entrepreneurship, the biggest times that I had the greatest evolutions or breakthroughs were the times I gave myself margin and space, like time to think.” [21:48]“Sometimes we need to remember how to smell the flowers and blow out the candles so that we can just sit in our feelings without trying to push them or get past them or move through them too quickly.” [24:45]“I feel stretched thin because of the fullness of life. Nothing is bad and nothing is broken and nothing is wrong, but life is full, and I don’t know if I can always carry that.” [27:28]“Joy and gratitude can exist with challenge.” [32:44]“I have learned the exact opposite that boundaries keep me in my life , they keep me in the moment, they keep me in alignment, they keep me living in integrity.” [43:29]“We’ve gotta strike while the iron is hot. Well the iron is hot when you turn it on friend!” [47:34]“We all forget, we have our own microscope up to our own lives. Everyone is also head down in their own life, no one is paying that close of attention.” [58:41]“To me there is no greater compliment than someone saying, you changed.” [59:58]
Go to https://www.radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life! On Today's Episode: Regardless of where you are located, your educational background, or your financial situation, we tend to have similar emotional and personal struggles, yet feel so isolated and alone dealing with them. Everyday stress and avoidant behaviors and habits leave you fearful, disappointed, and lacking enough significance in your own life to even prioritize YOU!Marissa Peer’s mission is to help people realize there are simple, rapid and effective techniques that can change life for the better. She is sharing these tactics here with Lisa and with you to understand the power that your words and thoughts have over your life. Put an end to your self-destructive behaviors and habits, get to the root of the feelings sabotaging you, and start telling yourself a better lie.“Thoughts dictate feelings, your feelings dictate your actions, and your actions dictate your events.” Marisa PeerCheck out Marisa Peer’s latest book, Tell Yourself a Better Lie: https://amzn.to/39U2M7w SHOW NOTES:0:00 | Introduction to Marissa Peer0:25 | Control Your Thoughts, Not Your Feelings23:29 | Start Practicing This!42:49 | Find What Lies Beneath59:23 | Bonus: Stop Feeling TrappedQUOTES:“When you can take control of your thoughts you really can make your life extraordinary.” [5:47]“If you’re not meeting your child’s needs for significance and safety, and being proud of them, then you haven’t really succeeded.” [10:57]“You may as well tell yourself amazing stuff because it’s very likely to become real.” [15:50]“If you can just like yourself you’ll never feel rejected, ever.” [23:21]“Responsibility means an ability to respond.” [25:44]“Just decide, I don’t have to let this in, it's her belief, it doesn’t have to be mine. It’s not easy being with people who are super negative, but you can just drown it out. You have a choice.” [27:09]“Your words form and shape your reality. If you don’t like your reality, before you try to change, try to change the words that are shaping it because that will change your reality.” [41:29]“Your mind is the genie, your wish is its command.” [51:17]Follow Marisa Peer:Website: https://marisapeer.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/MarisaPeer Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/marisa.peer.therapy/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marisapeertherapy/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGb0bBp7bTQBHLlyAfNV-Fg