Episode 82: Radical Self Compassion, Internal Family Systems (IFS), and Learning To Love All Parts of Yourself with Jami Lynn Bula IFS or Parts Work for Binge Eating and Sugar Addiction ***Internal Family Systems Written Explanation Below About Jami Lynn Bula: Jami Lynn is a relationship and sexuality therapist practicing in Austin, TX. Jami Lynn is an IFS, Internal Family Systems practitioner. She is also the founder of Practice Intimacy, an online educational platform designed to help people create intimacy in their mind, body, and relationships. Connect With Jami Lynn: Instagram @PracticeIntimacy Website: www.jamilynnbula.com Jami Lynn Boundaries Course: Boundaries: Create Your Peace (online training available at www.jamilynnbula.com/boundaries Mindfulbellie 21 Day Reset: January 2022Registration Mindfulbellie.com/21dayreset 1:1 Coaching with Ellie Set Up A Strategy Session calendly.com/Mindfulbellie ***The Internal Family Systems Model Outline from Internal Family Systems Website: https://ifs-institute.com/resources/articles/internal-family-systems-model-outline I. BASIC ASSUMPTIONS OF THE IFS MODELIt is the nature of the mind to be subdivided into an indeterminate number of subpersonalities or parts. Everyone has a Self, and the Self can and should lead the individual's internal system. The non-extreme intention of each part is something positive for the individual. There are no "bad" parts, and the goal of therapy is not to eliminate parts but instead to help them find their non-extreme roles. As we develop, our parts develop and form a complex system of interactions among themselves; therefore, systems theory can be applied to the internal system. When the system is reorganized, parts can change rapidly. Changes in the internal system will affect changes in the external system and vice versa. The implication of this assumption is that both the internal and external levels of system should be assessed. THE SELF: Curious, compassionate, calm part of you that is always there. GENERAL GROUPS OF PARTS EXILES Young parts that have experienced trauma and often become isolated from the rest of the system in an effort to protect the individual from feeling the pain, terror, fear, and so on, of these parts If exiled, can become increasingly extreme and desperate in an effort to be cared for and tell their story Can leave the individual feeling fragile and vulnerable MANAGERS Parts that run the day-to-day life of the individual Attempt to keep the individual in control of every situation and relationship in an effort to protect parts from feeling any hurt or rejection Can do this in any number of ways or through a combination of parts -- striving, controlling, evaluating, caretaking, terrorizing, and so on. FIREFIGHTERS Group of parts that react when exiles are activated in an effort to control and extinguish their feelings Can do this in any number of ways, including drug or alcohol use, self-mutilation (cutting), binge-eating, sex binges Have the same goals as managers (to keep exiles away) but different strategies --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/mindfulbellie/support