关键对话:在亲密关系中如何沟通?(附英文原稿)

关键对话:在亲密关系中如何沟通?(附英文原稿)

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Overview
himalaya
5 h 59 min
himalaya
11 Episodes

你最爱的人,往往伤你最深。


课程亮点

1. 32年离婚法官经验,林恩法官总结出一套积极管理亲密关系的实用方法,帮助你避开亲密关系沟通中的陷阱,为爱好好说话。

2. 你将学到:如何有效沟通,让家庭关系更亲密?如何了解你的伴侣脑子里在想什么?如何为成功的谈话营造环境?如何开启困难对话?如何避免争论,友好交流?

3. 本课程为英语原声课程,完整还原讲述,为你打造全英文的环境;另外配以逐字的英文文稿,帮助你快速提升英语水平,更好地吸收理解课程。



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  • 林恩·托勒法官(Judge Lynn Toler)
    林恩·托勒法官(Judge Lynn Toler)
    国法庭类真人秀top 1《离婚法庭》首席法官
Episodes
11 Episodes

0.Introducing That Conversation 0.介绍那次谈话 Hi, I'm judgeLynn Toler. And I want to talk to you about how to talk to the person you're inlove with if I've learned nothing else. In 13 years, as the judge on divorcecourt in 32 years of marriage. And while writing my book, making marriage work,it's the communication in the context of a romantic relationship can be a verycomplicated thing. 嗨,我是林恩·托勒法官。我想和你谈谈,如果我什么都没学到,怎么和你爱的人说话。在13年的婚姻生活中,担任离婚法庭法官32年。当我写这本书的时候,让婚姻成功,在浪漫关系中的交流是一件非常复杂的事情。  It's payingbills, making meals, according compromise, handling hurt, conveying needs, orsimply seeking satisfying sex. The easiest way to get those things done isthrough effective communication. That's what this pod course is all about init. I will discuss how to establish good communication habits before problemsever start. 它是付账单,做饭,妥协,处理伤害,传达需求,或者仅...

1. ThatConversation 1.那次谈话 From years 15 to18, I would have sold my husband to any willing woman for a dollar. And theymay have gotten some chain. We were in a very unhappy untenable, unkind place,and I couldn't figure out what the problem was. Until one day I went to courtand saw a string of cases that highlighted exactly what we were doing wrong athome. 从15岁到18岁,我会把我的丈夫卖给任何愿意为一美元的女人。他们可能得到了一些锁链。我们在一个非常不愉快,难以忍受,不友善的地方,我不知道是什么问题。直到有一天,我去了法院,看到了一系列的案件,这些案件清楚地表明了我们在家里做错了什么。  That's whatallowed me to come back with an understanding of the need for effectivecommunication I'm judged and told her. And this bond course is about thatconversation. And when I say that conversation, I mean, all of theconversations that you have with your spouse, your boyfriend, your girlfriend,your living, love your significant other. 这也让我重新认识到了有效沟通的...

2. What’sHappening in Your Head 2.你脑子里在想什么 You're listeningto that conversation. A Himalaya learning audio course, be sure to check outall of the other awesome exclusive content in the Himalaya app or Anihimalaya.com. Hi, I'm going to start this episode by telling me the story aboutthe woman who left her camera in Mississippi. We were into forest 你在听那个对话。一个喜马拉雅学习音频课程,一定要看看喜马拉雅应用程序或Ani中所有其他令人敬畏的独家内容喜马拉雅网站.嗨,我要从这一集开始讲一个关于那个把相机落在密西西比州的女人的故事。我们进入了森林court. 法庭。  I had a couplein front of me. They are originally from Mississippi, but they now lived inCalifornia. She was all day unhappy. He was all day angry. He kept telling mestory after story about how he tried to make our happy, how we tried thesatisfier. But no matter what he did, no matter how far he tried, no matterwhat he listened to, no matter what he did did, she was perpetually unhappy. 我前面有...

3. What’sHappening in Their Head 3.他们脑子里在想什么 Since emotionsare so fast and sloppy, we have to sit down and take the time to make sure weunderstand them and understanding yours is one thing. Understanding theemotions of the person with whom you are dealing is quite another. I'm going totry to in this pod course help you get that done. 因为情绪是如此快速和草率,我们必须坐下来花时间确保我们理解它们,而理解你的情绪是一回事。了解和你打交道的人的情绪是另一回事。我将在这个播客课程中试着帮你完成。  Hello, how areyou? This is judge Len Toler, and I'd like to welcome you to the next episodeof that conversation. That conversation is designed to help you talk to theperson that you're in love with. Now in our last episode, we talked aboutemotional intelligence. How you should take a look at who you are, where you'refrom and what you've been through in order to help you determine what you wantto say and how you want to say it today. 你好,你好吗?我是伦托勒...

5. The Art of ListeningIf some guy came up to you and said, look,I got $30 million in a cave somewhere. I've got five minutes to live. Can'twrite it down. We don't have any recording equipment. So I'm going to tell youthis one time and this one time only how to get. To the treasure. Now, how muchconcentration do you think you would have on that information?[00:00:36] You need to listen to yourpartner with that same sense of detail and passion. And if you're listen, likethey're trying to send you to a million dollar treasure, you will in fact findthat million dollar treasure. Because good love over a long period of time is amillion dollars worth a happy, I believe that.[00:01:01] Hi, I'm judge Lynn Toler. Andwelcome to that conversation. The pod course in which I help you learn to talkto the person that you're in love with today's episode is going to be calledthe art of listening. You know, I spent 13 years on the bench on divorce courtand we flew couples in from all over...

7. Starting an effective conversationOne day. I realized from watching folks indivorce court, and I'm telling you divorce course saved my marriage more thanonce or twice because you get to see a whole lot of people making the samemistake over and over again is that he didn't know what I needed because Ididn't tell him.[00:00:26] Hello, this is judge LAN. Andthis is another episode of that conversation, a podcast dedicated to theproposition of helping you talk to the person that you're in love with episodeseven is all about understanding your conversational pattern. Yes. I know itsounds boring, but it's not stand with me. And as usual I'm going to startwith,[00:00:53] my father was brilliant, man.And often with brilliance comes a bit of emotional dysfunction. My father wasbipolar, mostly on the manic side. He was a difficult dude to deal with thestory that I'm going to tell you is about a light socket. One day, my fathercame in the house and the lights were on in a room ...

8. Redirecting the TrajectoryWe always got stuck in the same place untilone day when I said what I said, which I had been saying for years, he pausedbecause he was thinking about why I kept saying it. And the next thing he saidwas genius. Hi, this is judge Lynn Toler, and welcome to episode eight of thatconversation. An audio course designed to help you talk to the person thatyou're in love with this episode is going to be called breaking badcommunication habits.[00:00:44] Now we all get into bad communicationhabits. In fact, we all get into bad habits. Routinely bad habits are thehobgoblin of not getting it right. We tend to do what we've already done overand over and over again. As a matter of fact on divorce court, what I found waspeople will always tell me, you know, judge I've tried everything.[00:01:09] I've tried every way to talk tothem. I've tried every way to convince her. But nothing seems to change. Thenwhen I asked them, what effect did you try? We all reali...

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